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Two people having dinner together. Romance or friends.

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Aquarius1234 · Yesterday 14:31

When you see two men or two women sitting opposite each other in a restaurant.

When tables are close together or not but you have a view and dont mind people watching so sometimes notice these things over the years.

Do you a assume they are friends or a couple/ dating?

This is when you see no physical touching that would obviously give it away immediately.

Stupid thread but I love this stuff.

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Aquarius1234 · Today 00:18

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · Yesterday 17:54

I frequently holiday with a platonic female friend. It's amazing how many, for example, holiday cottages assume we MUST be a couple and only make up one bed. The same thing happened when I holidayed with one of my daughters - we had quite a struggle to find the owner to get them to come out and make up another bed for us (there was no bed linen at the property, we checked).

It seems almost a default that if two people are coming - they must be a couple.

Oh ok, thats weird but makes sense.
Also lazy with the only making one bed.
Id be annoyed as sometimes your a couple and still want to sleep separate or have the option of choosing what room to sleep in?

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Aquarius1234 · Today 00:23

Dontlletmedownbruce · Yesterday 16:50

If they looked a bit bored I'd assume they were in a LTR or married. If they are talking animatedly I'd think friends. Overly polite or flirtatious I'd think a date or early romance. Gazing into each other's eyes I'd say a few weeks or months in to a new relationship.

Lol sometimes years ago I was on a date but would be more interested in looking at the others around me.
Could be any mix of friends or couples..
It was a sign that I wasnt into who I was sat with, if I was more animated by the goings on around me.

Things have changed since covid maybe.
Im a casual person anyway..but even less so now when going out.
Also less restaurants that you feel you might need to make more of an effort.

I do agree that perhaps those on a date would look more dressed up. But nothing is a given anymore.

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Ghostiescotchie · Today 00:32

I don’t really notice other people. I’ve never thought that when I eat out with a friend people might assume we are a couple 😂

Aquarius1234 · Today 00:41

Ghostiescotchie · Today 00:32

I don’t really notice other people. I’ve never thought that when I eat out with a friend people might assume we are a couple 😂

Lol yes they might. 😃

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Vroomfondleswaistcoat · Today 07:39

Aquarius1234 · Today 00:18

Oh ok, thats weird but makes sense.
Also lazy with the only making one bed.
Id be annoyed as sometimes your a couple and still want to sleep separate or have the option of choosing what room to sleep in?

That's what we say every time! Why assume that even a couple will want to sleep together? Now, whenever I book accommodation I make sure to specify that two separate rooms will be needed.

PollyBell · Today 07:55

Aquarius1234 · Today 00:41

Lol yes they might. 😃

Why on earth would they? They could be siblings or work colleagues or just friends of yes a couple but why would anyone assume anything?

Packofsix · Today 09:30

My god. Yet another senseless and stupid MN post. I guess me and my best friend, both female, must be judged as lesbian lovers by you all the time then OP

Packofsix · Today 09:31

Aquarius1234 · Today 00:41

Lol yes they might. 😃

Grow up

cinquanta · Today 09:37

They could be colleagues. Done it myself.

Ponoka7 · Today 11:12

Silverbirchleaf · Yesterday 14:49

Depends on what they’re wearing, how they converse and react to each other, tine if day etc.

Must admit, I do like people watching. My Dh and walked past a two people yesterday, and we both thought the ages were wrong for father and daughter, but to big a gap for a couple or siblings. For some reason, we both noticed these two people, and were both intrigued by them.

I don't understand that tbh. There's thirteen years between me amd my Sibling. Realistically you can and used to have twenty year age gaps, from youngest to eldest. There's many areas where women start families in their teens to early 20s. Then there's age gap relationships. Has neither of you ever lunched with work/university/adult education etc colleagues? Or had older/younger friendship groups?
I like to observe the diversity of city centers, including local 'characters', but the assumptions and intrigue is a bit strange.

Smallestshadow · Today 12:04

Depends on their ages, body language etc. Don’t really give it too much thought TBH.

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