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AIBU to feel hurt after friend mocked my celebrity crush?

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HumbleHun · 06/08/2026 23:20

Hi MN, second time trying a thread so I hope it goes better this time. So a close friend has really annoyed me earlier this afternoon. I was with 5 of my friends from my village having lunch with a few glasses of wine. As usual the conversation started to get a bit silly towards the end. Someone started asking the girls who their celebrity crush was. Had the usual Hugh Grant, Benedict Cumber batch but when it came to me I felt awkward and blurted out Martin Clunes. I didn't want to be judged and say someone younger than me or someone out of my league so the first man that came to mind was him.
I think he's reasonably attractive and talented but the friend I feel closest too went into a fit of giggles and kept bringing it up for the rest of the afternoon.
A few hours later she put a picture of Martin in the church group chat and my DH noticed I was upset so I had to tell him.
He found it amusing and doesn't seem to care but I feel betrayed and hurt that my close friend is mocking me even after she knew I was embarrassed at lunch.
She's usually so nice and caring but iv seen a nasty side today but my adult daughter said it's just banter and to let it go.
I feel like messaging her and cancelling weekend plans.
IABU?

OP posts:
PeopleWatching17 · Today 17:06

brisamarina · 06/08/2026 23:29

Mine is Wayne Rooney and I’m not bothered who knows. Do you feel any better now OP?

I do 🤣🤣 Mine is Roy Keane!

PeopleWatching17 · Today 17:06

Beautifulhaiku · Today 13:25

Mine is Greg Davies. Some people think I’m mad and others completely get it. Sexy and funny 👌 Practice not giving a fuck and one day you’ll realise you actually don’t.

Oh yes.

CoraPirbright · Today 17:08

DahliaDelights · 06/08/2026 23:31

my close friend is mocking me even after she knew I was embarrassed

this is the reason, forget Martin Clunes, she is mocking you despite seeing your earlier embarrassment, have you told her to quit it, its done, enough?

Is this normal behaviour, repeated? the mockery?

I think this is the point for me. To have a laugh and tease you in the moment is fine and part of a usual friendship ribbing. However to keep going on about it hours later when you are clearly embarrassed is unpleasant.

(Btw, whilst he is not for me, I do think MC has a lovely warmth about him that is very appealing so you are totally not wrong!!)

Travsmam · Today 17:18

What?????? WHAT?????? Grow up FFS!!!!

TheBossOfMe · Today 17:26

HumbleHun · 07/08/2026 00:01

I have learned my lessons and I am listening and respecting the advice of the wonderful people on here. Last time was disastrous and embarrassing but tonight's has helped me immensely. I hope last time I did not offend you personally and if so I'm very sorry.

Don’t be embarrassed by your last thread, it gave me a much needed laugh on the night, and you were extremely brave to come back and apologise the next day. Most people don’t do that, you’re clearly a thoughtful person.

Your friends sound lovely and clearly love you very much. Sounds like your DH is a lovely guy as well. And there’s nothing wrong with having a strange celebrity crush - the world would be a very boring place if we all fancied the same people.

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