To have walked out of the restaurant

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I had been at a play area with my kids and when we went to sit down it was a booth. My kids immediately started bickering about who’s food was whose and which drink belonged to who and I’m trying to get them to just shuffle down a bit so I can sit down. They weren’t listening to me at all. Eventually I was going to blow and stepped outside.

I know nothing about that show apart from the title, so now I get why I can't understand what OP was talking about 😁

You were all just hangry. Next time, have lunch 30 mins earlier.

100% agree! Fortunately my dd (only child as I can't cope with more than one!) is a teen now but my god can they suck the joy out of supposedly "enjoyable" experiences.
Even if you had been the only adult there leaving them briefly like that would've given them a short, sharp shock that would've soon ended the bickering and brought them back to behaving themselves again.
Its6 like when my dd was lying on the floor of an aquarium having a toddler tantrum one time....I walked off and she got up and came after me. It simply says to them "I'm not hanging around to deal with this nonsense".

Well, you and your husband are the only people who can put that right. Bring them up not to behave like that. I can't believe you're at such a loss as to how to deal with a 3 and a 5 year old. Who normally looks after them?

If you had got yourself into such a state though, and they weren't in danger or inconveniencing others, stepping outside for a bit might have been a good call.

Listen, it’s done now. Nothing you can do to go back and change what has happened. Going outside to calm down for a few mins was a good call. I have 3 dc and they would argue the toss over anything for no reason at times. They were especially good at arguing the second they got into the car. I look back now and have a lot of respect for my parents because I remember my siblings and I being by the same.its not the end of the world. I learnt, through trial & error, how to shut them down and it did get better but I didn’t always get it right. I stopped the car once and threatened to throw them all out and make them walk home I was so at the end of my tether. Not my finest moment, I know, but they did calm down a lot after that. Tomorrow’s a new day. Don’t be so hard on yourself

I was rather hoping it was Charles and Camilla.

Been here many times op . They where left with the other parent take your time to calm down it's normal

@watchthetv your replies have made me LOL 😆. Bet they were shocked when you walked off.
Hopefully things calmed down and you were able to get something to eat.

Charles does look really good with his grand-kids and to keep Louis quiet, so that might work well!

If you cannot control them at 5 and 3, the older they get,you will be in trouble,and they will be the feral kids that run around today.

I still don't get why no other adult intervened. Why didn't the dad say to the kids stop bickering and let your mum sit down?

Not sure if you actually did all 3 things (play, eat and cinema) but if you had, this could contribute to the behaviour - they are quite young and to do all of these things is a lot in the same day.

Maybe worth including that in your main post

Aha

How odd

Sounds fine. I'd have kept walking.

Rude!

It was you who invited an interrogative gathering here, in fairness.

You commented on my post. Inaccurately. I have no need to read your comments.

4 adults to 2 children and none of you were capable of getting them to behave properly?
Crikey ☹️.

Everyone has taken this thread really seriously. Some judgey people about.

Most of us with kids close together have done something like this. It gets (a bit) easier!

I think the fact their dad was there was quite crucial information!

On that basis I think it’s fine as long as you came back once calmed down

There were three adults at the table too.

Take a breathe, go back in, dessert only of they behave, we leave if you continue fighting. Stick to it.

Yes you are the Arsehole! You need to PARENT your children!! Don’t let them get away with this shit! You should have separated both the kids BEFORE they got to the table and if they tried to start arguing then you tell them firmly that they behave themselves and give them “the look!” Which you clearly need to learn 😁 and any more shit out of them you will be leaving! And follow through with that!! If they knock the drinks over or the lose out of drinks/lunch etc whatever then that happens! Get the kids OUT of the restaurant and then shout at them that their behavior is the reason you have left and they will NOT be getting a treat being taken out got lunch unless they behave themselves and you won’t be tolerating any more shit out of them!!

I had 4 under 10 and all of them have adhd and ASD and frankly were bloody nightmares when they tried it on and you have to learn that you are the parent/ in charge etc and they need parenting!

go learn some meditation and join a class for it if need be or go see a psychologist who does it! It allows you to mentally step back from a situation without losing your shit and had kept me sane for years while dealing with the 4 little cherubs 😂 now they are all lovely adults who are very respectful and well behaved and a well rounded human thanks to my learning decent parenting - they all laugh and talk about when they were little buggers and I had to deal with them