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How will it help anyone if this man goes to prison?

127 replies

DecisionTime123 · 03/08/2026 16:04

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0rd0r5zez9o
Man kept his dead mother in the freezer, held her hand and chatted to her.

I definitely agree he needs to pay the benefits etc back if possible, but they are letting rapists out of prison as they don't have the room, yet this clearly mentally ill man has to be locked up? YABU = he deserves punishment in custody or YANBU = it won't help anybody, he should get a suspended sentence

A mugshot of Christopher Phillips, who has grey hair and glasses

Christopher Phillips kept mum's body in dining room freezer in Porthcawl for years 'couldn't let her go'

Christopher Phillips’ mother, Sylvia, had yellow and pink roses and a birthday card placed on her body.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0rd0r5zez9o

OP posts:
InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 03/08/2026 16:08

It would set an awful precedent to not appropriately punish this. How would you feel if a family member or friend was put in a freezer and their death kept a secret whilst someone claimed their benefits?

AmserGwely · 03/08/2026 16:12

We only have his claim that it wasn't for financial benefit. He chose to continue to claim money which wasnt his. I'm not sure what I think about this. He kept her frozen, and denied her the right to dignity in death.

Poppystone · 03/08/2026 16:12

InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 03/08/2026 16:08

It would set an awful precedent to not appropriately punish this. How would you feel if a family member or friend was put in a freezer and their death kept a secret whilst someone claimed their benefits?

This is what's wrong though, why is about how the family feel rather than what is of most benefit to society? Not about revenge or retribution, but the relative cost and benefits to society. Sending him to prison has a huge cost and no gain.

sillypossumsmum · 03/08/2026 16:13

If he hadn’t committed fraud then maybe a community sentence but the two combined, no. Prison is appropriate

MrsKeats · 03/08/2026 16:13

He broke the law and there is a penalty for that.
It’s not about ‘helping people’.

Hephzibah64 · 03/08/2026 16:15

I might have more sympathy for him if he hadn’t stolen her benefits. He’s a liar and what about other family and friends who would have wanted to mourn her.
He could’ve chatted to her at her gravesite.

Boomer55 · 03/08/2026 16:15

DecisionTime123 · 03/08/2026 16:04

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0rd0r5zez9o
Man kept his dead mother in the freezer, held her hand and chatted to her.

I definitely agree he needs to pay the benefits etc back if possible, but they are letting rapists out of prison as they don't have the room, yet this clearly mentally ill man has to be locked up? YABU = he deserves punishment in custody or YANBU = it won't help anybody, he should get a suspended sentence

He wasn’t too distraught to stop claiming their benefits, fraudulently. .

FionnulaTheCooler · 03/08/2026 16:16

Maybe a secure mental health unit would be more appropriate.

hugasaurus · 03/08/2026 16:19

The whole thing is very sad really, clearly not a well individual. I am not sure prison is an appropriate place for someone like this tbh, but we do so hate financial crimes. I think a mental health unit would be better or some sort of facility with rehabilitation in mind. It sounds like he’d been her carer for 15+ years and the two of them had led a very isolated life.

It doesn’t say what he spent the money on. I assume it was just on living, not holidays and designer gear or anything extravagant.

BMW58 · 03/08/2026 16:19

He stole money from the Public Purse.

Not only should be be imprisoned but he should have to repay the amount he stole by fraud. Every penny.

plims · 03/08/2026 16:20

He defrauded the state of £78K. You think that doesn’t deserve prison?

Velvera · 03/08/2026 16:20

It's quite a sad story. I don't think he should be sent to prison but he probably needs some help for his mental health.

Velvera · 03/08/2026 16:22

plims · 03/08/2026 16:20

He defrauded the state of £78K. You think that doesn’t deserve prison?

It's not quite that black and white though. He clearly has some MH issues.

canthavetoomanylights · 03/08/2026 16:22

He should be made to work to pay every penny back in addition to a lengthy prison sentence.

caringcarer · 03/08/2026 16:22

plims · 03/08/2026 16:20

He defrauded the state of £78K. You think that doesn’t deserve prison?

He should definitely be locked up as Nd if there are not enough prison spaces for rapidt build more prisons.

Velvera · 03/08/2026 16:23

canthavetoomanylights · 03/08/2026 16:22

He should be made to work to pay every penny back in addition to a lengthy prison sentence.

How can he work if he's in prison?

Gall10 · 03/08/2026 16:24

InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 03/08/2026 16:08

It would set an awful precedent to not appropriately punish this. How would you feel if a family member or friend was put in a freezer and their death kept a secret whilst someone claimed their benefits?

With the lack of jail space this is my idea…

  1. House arrest… allowed in his garden 1 hour out of every 24.. no garden? Tough cookie
  2. ankle tag
  3. basic meals delivered three times a day
  4. hot water 5 mins daily, 10 mins on a Sunday for a shower
  5. basic bbc & itv channels on tv for 2 hours daily
  6. new set of joggers delivered every 6 months
  7. 2sets of underwear delivered once a week
  8. no cigarettes, no alcohol, no biscuits, no sweets, no ‘snacks’
  9. i’d suggest this for 90% of offenders
  10. no driving licence or passport for 25 years.
Downthedrainwithme · 03/08/2026 16:24

I think his sentence has more to do with the fraud than the issue of his mother tbh.

plims · 03/08/2026 16:25

Velvera · 03/08/2026 16:22

It's not quite that black and white though. He clearly has some MH issues.

I don’t think his poor mental health meant that he didn’t know that what he did was wrong.

Naunet · 03/08/2026 16:25

So men should be free to steal money as long as they have a sob story, great idea.

Secretseverywhere · 03/08/2026 16:26

I’m another one who doesn’t really see the point. Yes he’s stolen money from the public purse but it’ll cost over £50k to keep him in jail per year. Honestly I think unless people are a danger to the public it’d be better to have them tagged and have to live under house arrest only leaving for things like community service or work (assuming they can find or keep a job) or other pre approved stuff.

Flot · 03/08/2026 16:26

I dunno. I’m sitting in a room with my mum’s ashes and I don’t want to let them go. I took pictures of her dead in the funeral home as I needed to remember. Mind you, she only died in spring.

I feel quite sorry for this man. He’s alone, no family apart from his adoptive mum who he cared for for a very very long time. Hideous and lonely for sure. He must be broken.

He hasn’t harmed anyone. I doubt he was taking the pension for anything elaborate. He was probably just paying bills and buying food and sitting with his mum.

I certainly wouldn’t jail him. I’d jail burglars, rapists, sexual assaulters etc.

I mean actually on reflection, what has he got to lose or protect? He might be happier in jail where he’ll get meals and be looked after.

Our society is sick.

NotAnotherScarf · 03/08/2026 16:27

Because he was stealing from you and me...the oh I was chatting to her is ok..if he hadn't continued to take the £78,000....

hugasaurus · 03/08/2026 16:28

It’s not likely he would have become self-sufficient and a productive member of society again anyway with such clear poor mental health, it’s likely he would have ended up entitled to benefits and claiming similar amounts to what his mum was doing.

Whole thing is just really sad.

NotAnotherScarf · 03/08/2026 16:28

Velvera · 03/08/2026 16:22

It's not quite that black and white though. He clearly has some MH issues.

Or came up with a brilliant excuse if he got caught.