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AIBU to think cats should not roam unsupervised like dogs?

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estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:42

AIBU to think that if you dont leave your dog to roam streets unsupervised, then you shouldn't let other pets (cats), for the same reasons.

It blows my mind that people let their cats out because their sleep is disrupted and I wonder why they think its OK, when its highly unlikely they would put Fido outside if he kept the family up.

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Sennelier1 · 02/08/2026 19:47

Cats are the biggest killers of wildlife. Everybody should keep their cats inside and under controle. If you can't or won't do that, don't take a cat 🤷🏼‍♀️

www.gardensillustrated.com/features/wildlife-gardeners-own-cats

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 19:47

Boreded · 02/08/2026 19:43

You can buy them a wheel for cats. And you can walk them on a lead even if they aren’t huge breeds, there are harnesses for them.

I believe that cats should be allowed to roam if they want to, but I don’t believe that it is a need, I believe it is a want.

It’s like I don’t need to leave the house myself, but I want to. I won’t die if I stay indoors though.

There are cats who will die if they are locked indoors, though. My youngest is one of them.

He got so stressed that his bladder spasmed and he needed hospital treatment so that he could pee. We tried catios. We tried cat-proofing our garden. He still ended up at the vets. Ultimately our vet said to us we could keep on as we are until one day, the spasm blocked his bladder and killed him, or we could let him out to roam.

We let him outside the next day. He's never, ever been back at the vet for bladder issues since.

sequinmoon · 02/08/2026 19:48

Boreded · 02/08/2026 19:43

You can buy them a wheel for cats. And you can walk them on a lead even if they aren’t huge breeds, there are harnesses for them.

I believe that cats should be allowed to roam if they want to, but I don’t believe that it is a need, I believe it is a want.

It’s like I don’t need to leave the house myself, but I want to. I won’t die if I stay indoors though.

Tell me you don’t own a cat without telling me that you don’t own a cat…

Trust me, we have tried harnesses in the past when we’ve moved or had kittens and they’ve needed fresh air. Most cats really cannot be walked!

And cat wheels, which should apparently be 43-48 inches in diameter…where exactly are people in small houses (many houses in the UK) supposed to be putting these?!

Boreded · 02/08/2026 19:51

sequinmoon · 02/08/2026 19:48

Tell me you don’t own a cat without telling me that you don’t own a cat…

Trust me, we have tried harnesses in the past when we’ve moved or had kittens and they’ve needed fresh air. Most cats really cannot be walked!

And cat wheels, which should apparently be 43-48 inches in diameter…where exactly are people in small houses (many houses in the UK) supposed to be putting these?!

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tell me you haven’t read my other posts in the last hour without telling me

Olive123456 · 02/08/2026 19:51

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 18:58

My theory is that cats tolerate us because we feed them 😂

I did read somewhere though that cats genuinely are the perfect hunters in terms of their size, weight, and ability to move - they're just tiny which is why they can't hurt us!

Your theory is wrong.

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 19:53

Olive123456 · 02/08/2026 19:51

Your theory is wrong.

Are you unable to take a joke?

BirdsongSunshine · 02/08/2026 19:55

Pippa99999 · 02/08/2026 18:54

It seems that most of the cat owners on here either don’t care about that, or seem to believe that “my cat would never do that”.

I agree!

during breeding season I would love cat owners to possibly adhere to the not letting them out during dusk and dawn. This is when the newly fledged birds generally fledge.

Just to give a bit of perspective, fledglings such as our beautiful robin and blackbird, can’t fly initially when they fledge. Instead they search for ground cover, while their parents still feed them on the ground. Over those critical first few days of fledging, they gain strength in their wings which enable them to eventually fly!

What boils my piss is your cat, full on their lunch, being let out and they piss about playing with a weeks old robin fledgling, which is newly fledged and trying to gain that strength to be able to fly, therefore never having a chance to do that! Same with blackbirds and many others!

I spend so much time in my garden watching birds courting, pairing up during spring, care for their young, see off magpies, Sparrowhawks, all kinds of natural predators, they work so hard raising their young! It’s heartbreaking when your domesticated cat comes along and takes a youngster, who is newly fledged, can’t fly but is trying to survive! It’s fucking shit tbh!

Nature is harsh but domesticated Tibbles is a fucking Twat!

MrsJeanLuc · 02/08/2026 19:57

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:23

I thinks it's fair to say many more (exponentially more) cats die than humans each year.

You lost me at this point @estrogone . That is a ridiculous assertion.
The best estimate I can find (and there are no global stats for cat deaths) is between 10 times and 60 times as many humans die as cats per annum. And that's without considering the fact that a cat's natural life span is about a fifth of a human's.

Also you seem determined to ignore the very obvious point that many people think it is cruel to keep a cat caged up. Even in a 50m sq
cage ... and I can't imagine many people would be able to set up a 50 x 50 metre cage, let alone move it!!!

GlitteryRainbow · 02/08/2026 19:58

estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:47

But why do they need to roam? Would you let your domesticated dog roam?

Dont you worry the cat will kill the hedgehog babies?

Do you just worry about cats killing hedgehog babies? I think they are more likely to be killed by cars.

Glitterbugsy · 02/08/2026 19:59

We adopted a young stray cat. He’d been outside for some time when turned up in our garden (now he enjoys food water treats and our sofa , he’s had his vaccins and has been neutered) there’s no way we can keep him in all the time. We try at night for his own safety but it would be cruel to imprison him 24 hours a day.

LadyBeatriceBeaHiggins · 02/08/2026 19:59

estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:47

But why do they need to roam? Would you let your domesticated dog roam?

Dont you worry the cat will kill the hedgehog babies?

it seems cats are preprogramed to return to food source, dogs just keep walking

Susan7654 · 02/08/2026 20:01

Boreded · 02/08/2026 19:21

They weren’t raised in a cage, they’ve always been able to go out and I’ve never stopped them, they just don’t want to.

I’ve had them since kittens and they’ve always had the option of going out.

Thats so lucky your cats are like that. My ragdoll was suposed to be indoor loving cat but is totally outdoorsy.

Glitterbugsy · 02/08/2026 20:02

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 19:47

There are cats who will die if they are locked indoors, though. My youngest is one of them.

He got so stressed that his bladder spasmed and he needed hospital treatment so that he could pee. We tried catios. We tried cat-proofing our garden. He still ended up at the vets. Ultimately our vet said to us we could keep on as we are until one day, the spasm blocked his bladder and killed him, or we could let him out to roam.

We let him outside the next day. He's never, ever been back at the vet for bladder issues since.

Quite. I wouldn’t like to locked up all the time either. Dogs are walked ( or should be) you can’t do that with a cat.

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 20:03

Glitterbugsy · 02/08/2026 20:02

Quite. I wouldn’t like to locked up all the time either. Dogs are walked ( or should be) you can’t do that with a cat.

Oh, people will be along in a minute to tell you you can...

Glitterbugsy · 02/08/2026 20:05

Pippa99999 · 02/08/2026 18:54

It seems that most of the cat owners on here either don’t care about that, or seem to believe that “my cat would never do that”.

What would you do about stray cats? Cats that were born outsude?

GlitteryRainbow · 02/08/2026 20:08

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:22

Yes completely agree. I cant understand why the poor cats are the only ones left to their own devices.

No-one forces cats to go out though. They could stay home if they wanted. They choose to wander off.

Happyjoe · 02/08/2026 20:10

Sennelier1 · 02/08/2026 19:47

Cats are the biggest killers of wildlife. Everybody should keep their cats inside and under controle. If you can't or won't do that, don't take a cat 🤷🏼‍♀️

www.gardensillustrated.com/features/wildlife-gardeners-own-cats

They are not.
Combine all human activity - humans are.

LisaD76 · 02/08/2026 20:11

The government recognises the need that cats have to roam and there are laws giving them the rights to roam, we domesticated dogs, cats domesticated us not the other way round

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 02/08/2026 20:12

But what about my crocodile? 🐊
Do I have to keep her in too?
She can get a bit snappy if confined to the kitchen.

TakeMeDancing · 02/08/2026 20:13

Seriestwo · 02/08/2026 09:57

cat people will never accept that letting cats wander is a risk. They say they love their pet but don’t mind it being killed on a road - probably after having dragged itself off and suffered immensely. The average cat life span is about 2, for an animal which should easily live to about 15. It’s disgusting negligence

I have no skin in the game, as I am not a pet owner. However, my local Facebook page is full of missing cat posts, instructing us all to look in our sheds and garages. There are also loads of posts about cats getting run over / name-calling toward the drivers involved, and the dog owners are always on hand to remind them that the same laws don’t apply to cats who are run over. It gets pretty spicy.

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 20:15

TakeMeDancing · 02/08/2026 20:13

I have no skin in the game, as I am not a pet owner. However, my local Facebook page is full of missing cat posts, instructing us all to look in our sheds and garages. There are also loads of posts about cats getting run over / name-calling toward the drivers involved, and the dog owners are always on hand to remind them that the same laws don’t apply to cats who are run over. It gets pretty spicy.

Facebook (like MN) isn't representative of any kind of rational thought or logic, though!

inappropriateraspberry · 02/08/2026 20:19

Because cats are not like dogs.

2O26 · 02/08/2026 20:26

One cat was out late and killed by a coyote. Devastating! We tried putting Apple AirTags on their collars and only letting them out during the day when we were home. But then our male cat wandered a block away and was hit by a car.

No more outdoor cats! We finally got an outdoor catio. It gives us total peace of mind and the cats absolutely love it! 🐾

Hermanina · 02/08/2026 20:29

Cats are much harder to contain as they can easily climb over fences, jump down from windows and roofs. If you sit in your garden a dog will happily stay with you, whereas a lot of cats want to explore the neighbourhood, You can curb their need to roam by having them neutered but if a cat really wants to get out, they will. They are very unlikely happy to be walked on a lead. Cats are solitary animals, dogs want to please their owners, which makes them much easier to train.

Pippa99999 · 02/08/2026 20:31

Glitterbugsy · 02/08/2026 20:05

What would you do about stray cats? Cats that were born outsude?

Domestic cats outnumber stray cats by 12 to 1, so I dare say that’s a bigger issue in terms of impact on wildlife.

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