To think my neighbour is really passive aggressive?

[neighbourr]

Couple of months ago neighbours nearly teen girl (aged 12) and 3 of her friends kept knocking on my door when I was trying to do housework. My children had gone to my in-laws. I kept walking down to answer but no one there! I then decided to check door camera and saw it was neighbour 5 doors down kid who I never spoke to or the parents at all but know by face when driving by.

I asked her not to knock on my door again and to leave me alone. Neighbour then posted on group chat someone was very “aggressive” to her kid! I told her if she’s talking about me then I have every right to tell people to stop knocking on my door. I told her to stop posting on group chat for street and we should chat in person. She was highly argumentative at me telling me she’s only a child. I told her my kids are also living on the street and I wouldn’t allow this behaviour.

This afternoon the dad has put a very passive aggressive message on group chat saying his daughter abd few friends planning on knocking on a few doors and people have responded very positively saying yes it’s do much fun we would do it as kids etc. etc. and he replied back thank you to those who allow our kids to be kids! It’s obviously aimed at me. I just find it so entitled that they feel their kid well nearly teenager has the right to annoy parents. What he did this morning to post a message and those that responded only those for his kid should be knocking on I feel. I just see how entitled this girl will grow up into. No idea if she knocked on my door as I turned doorbell and ring off. Why in bloody Sundays? My only day to clean when kids go to visit family.

Don't bother replying. You can't argue with stupid.

Couple of months ago? They did it once?
Overreacting, sorry.

The sheer arrogance is driving me crazy. Like the whole game has been designed to annoy your neighbours and get a laugh at their expense. Why not do to immediate neighbours rather than people they have never spoken a word to? Also in old days it might be fun but with security cameras and door bells it’s hardly anonymous anymore!

I would be mortified if my children did this and wouldn’t actively encourage it. The kid is hardly a toddler, she’s nearly as tall as me! Especially with 4 of them in total it’s hardly cute or funny

I’m with you, OP. It’s not “kids being kids”, it’s kids behaving in a selfish and entitled way because they’ve been raised to think it’s ok.

In a few years time the mother will probably be on here posting asking how to deal with her rude, disrespectful teenage daughter!

The number of times I kept running down the stairs expecting my parcel pissed me off to but her attitude towards me when I asked her to please not do anymore really shocked me! Had she just said I’m sorry I was just playing I might have felt a little guilty being annoyed but the attitude she gave me was shocking plus her mother giving me attitude on top of this. I just feel it’s no manners in this society. I’m in my mid 30’s so not so bad walking up and down to answer the door but what about a frail elderly person? No consideration at all.

I really feel like responding to the father on the group chat

I know it’s annoying, but he’s written it to annoy you. He’s looking for a reaction so he can play the wounded soldier and make you look like the Child Catcher from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang. So you can either bite back and give him exactly what he wants, or you can ignore it and not give him the outcome he’s looking for.

By all means, meet aggression with aggression. But passive aggression? That’s pathetic and not worth your time.

You mean playing knock door run rather than knocking for kids to come out to play?

In that case he’s being an absolute entitled twunt and your neighbours are just as bad.

Yes exactly. But the number of people siding with his going “yes all fun and games”, “so lovely to see kids doing this”, “please knock on my door anytime” is really annoying me

You’re entirely in the right but do not reply! Just ignore, he’s trying to wind you up.

Yes knock down ginger they calling it in group chat. I have never played it neither will my kids!

All kids do this, but to keep targeting one house multiple times is ridiculous. All the neighbours saying it’s fun won’t think this in a few weeks time when they are sick to death of it.

The apple clearly hasn’t fallen far from the tree… Both parents sound like a pair of twats tbh. I never allowed our children to knock on peoples doors and I wouldn’t have found it funny if it had happened to us either.

Bloody stupid kids prank. Its not a game. And the fact that adults are agreeing for kids to harass people blows my mind

We played knock down ginger as kids, not at 12 though, we'd outgrown it by then! Ignore the group chat, he's just trying to wind you up and has probably got his friends to comment that they don't mind. Just ignore and don't respond.

It must be tempting to do it back to them and see how they like it!

How entitled people are these days. Kids can do no wrong in some thick parents’ eyes. Imaging feeling offended because somebody complained about your kid playing knock down ginger. It beggars belief.

Thank you all! I feel i’m going crazy with all the people responding on the group chat that it’s all fun and they should be doing it. I just can’t get my head around how selfish they are.

I can’t lie that I’ve never played knock down ginger as a kid but mortified about it now. However my parents did not know and would have been aghast.
not only that the parents seem complicit in this.

yes kids do do this but you have every right to be annoyed and ask them to stop and parents should be dealing with that. That dads message would have annoyed me too

Some parents lose their mind when it comes to their precious ones. We have group of kids, guessing 7ish in age playing out, one of the girls was throwing sand out of a builders bag onto a drive, the owner came out and told her to stop it and not to come on their drive. It's the house opposite us and our window was open so I heard him word for word. Not an hour later the kids mum was posting on Facebook- in capital letters - that someone was aggressive and verbally abused her daughter, how dare they and to come to her house to face her about it - it was utter tripe!

I know, and I completely understand why. But they’re only saying it because there’s a set time she’ll be doing it, so they just won’t stop what they’re doing to answer the door on a Thursday afternoon. We all know that if she started banging on their doors at 8am, Sunday morning, or when they’re dishing up dinner, it would be a different story and it wouldn’t be the fun and games they think it is now.

Let them carry on. She’ll quickly realise that there’s no fun in it if nobody is coming to their door and she’ll either get bored very quickly, or annoy the rest of the neighbours by pushing her luck too far. Just sit back and let it play out.

The last message I put on our neighbourhood chat was that you can't argue with stupid.

A woman trying to rehome 2 pure pitbulls.. in the north East of England...
Lots of ah hun x rescue will find them loving homes...idiots.
She agreed they are a banned breed and I was being unreasonable mentioning fines and the ddogs being pts...
So now I know in my small town 2 banned breeds are living locked in a small house...
Makes me sad and angry.

Used to play Knock Down Ginger as a kid and my mum would've done her nut at me if someone had complained.

You know what else was "fun" back in the day, water bombs. Perhaps you should stock up(joke).

Thought only people over 40 would knock on a door without texting first? I suppose it's a good thing if none of them have phones yet, some people act like everyone lets their kid scroll phones all day from the age of 6!

Wow parents are ridiculous. I’d have been keeping my kids in if I found out they were doing this. Expecting neighbours to allow their little darlings to do it without complaint is ridiculous.

😂 how funny to be asking permission for your kids to play knock knock run and giving a heads-up! The ONLY point of it is annoying people, talk about sucking the fun!