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It’s not mental HEALTH!!! Grrr

199 replies

BarbaraVineFan · 17/07/2026 00:33

AIBU to get so irritated with people using ‘ mental health’ to mean ‘ mental illness’? I saw it in an advert for health insurance or something today, a whole list of complaints including joint pain, Parkinson’s, diabetes etc and then MENTAL HEALTH. Mental health is not an illness!! The clue is in the name! Why do people do it? It’s so odd and only seems to have started in the last couple of years.

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WhatsUpWithGene · 17/07/2026 19:01

I had a friend who used to say to people “I have a mental health”.
She was corrected lots of times but seemed unconvinced she was wrong so just continued.

She didn’t actually have any mental health problems I was aware of (I accept this doesn’t mean she just hasn’t told me) but liked to self diagnose from tik tok so she had “a neurodivergence” and “a ADHD” and sometimes “ a fibromyalgia”.

I would like to see Munchausen become a popular thing to self diagnose with along with these as it could be useful to the NHS 😆.

If anyone thinks I’m being flippant I have diagnosed ADHD, OCD and bipolar disorder so it’s hard not to find it frustrating when people self diagnose from Tiktok and undermine serious mental health illnesses.

TheFairCat · 17/07/2026 19:27

wand3rer · 17/07/2026 01:08

My language pet peeve: people calling themselves neurodiverse when they mean neurodivergent 😬

Society is neurodiverse. An individual is neurotypical or neurodivergent!

This is also mine!! Not so much when individuals do it to describe themselves or their children, but I hear teachers (for example) do it ALL the time!

I also see it on information put out by statutory health services, the local authority etc etc. It really irritates me.

Strangerthanfictions · 17/07/2026 19:35

BarbaraVineFan · 17/07/2026 00:33

AIBU to get so irritated with people using ‘ mental health’ to mean ‘ mental illness’? I saw it in an advert for health insurance or something today, a whole list of complaints including joint pain, Parkinson’s, diabetes etc and then MENTAL HEALTH. Mental health is not an illness!! The clue is in the name! Why do people do it? It’s so odd and only seems to have started in the last couple of years.

I know what you are getting at, but in the context of the insurance add you are likely wrong people can claim for their mental health, as they can claim for physical health, doctors can write mental health as a reason for absence, the misuse is when people say things such as I have mental health, but it can be used accurately in general terms

NeedAnyHelpWithThatPaperBag · 17/07/2026 19:37

There was some guy hoping to appeal to boys/men talking about Mental Fitness, that I thought sounded quite a good way of pitching it 😳

Blagdoncobbles · 17/07/2026 19:40

BiteSizedLife · 17/07/2026 18:42

I have seen the term "unalived" for killed, suicide etc

i.e. "he unalived himself"

Maybe I'm too matter of fact but it still means the same thing and doesn't change the fact so how does using a made up weird word make it any better?

That's because most social media sensors references to death and suicide and rape. Hench "unalived" and "grape".

BarbaraVineFan · 17/07/2026 19:52

But ‘unalived’ is at least accurate and grammatically correct in the sentence. ‘I have mental health’ is inaccurate without the word ‘issues’ or in the sentence ‘I have a mental health condition’.

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WalterMittysPuppet · 17/07/2026 20:21

The misuse of the term has increased in recent years - someone said to me in a work setting "If this carries on I'll have mental health."

ISSUES. You'll have mental health issues.

When I'm having a bad day with IBS I might start clutching my belly and groaning that I have Digestion.

ScrambledEggs12 · 17/07/2026 20:55

Wherethedogsits · 17/07/2026 18:52

Maybe they should change the title mental health nurses because they are generally not working with people with good mental health?

Mental illness or mental ill health nurse instead of Mental health nurses?

Surely that's just to distinguish them from nurses who specialise in treating those with physical health related issues.

In the past, and when I had one, it was a CPN (Community Psychiatric Nurse). But she worked for the CMHT (Community Mental Health Team).

I can see why people make the mistake due to the way language is used. But the CMHT is there to help people who are struggling with their mental health.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 17/07/2026 20:59

ScrambledEggs12 · 17/07/2026 20:55

Surely that's just to distinguish them from nurses who specialise in treating those with physical health related issues.

In the past, and when I had one, it was a CPN (Community Psychiatric Nurse). But she worked for the CMHT (Community Mental Health Team).

I can see why people make the mistake due to the way language is used. But the CMHT is there to help people who are struggling with their mental health.

Agree mental health nurse or doctor makes sense, just like eye doctor, heart surgeon, gynecologist- the word problem doesn’t need to be in there

Ezra123 · 17/07/2026 21:02

The term is used because quite a lot of people are a bit thick.

Awkwardisfunny · 17/07/2026 21:08

BarbaraVineFan · 17/07/2026 00:33

AIBU to get so irritated with people using ‘ mental health’ to mean ‘ mental illness’? I saw it in an advert for health insurance or something today, a whole list of complaints including joint pain, Parkinson’s, diabetes etc and then MENTAL HEALTH. Mental health is not an illness!! The clue is in the name! Why do people do it? It’s so odd and only seems to have started in the last couple of years.

Physical health and mental health. So you can have good or poor physical health and good or poor mental health.

TY78910 · 17/07/2026 21:09

BarbaraVineFan · 17/07/2026 00:41

Where do we draw the line between being pedantic and being correct though ?! You may as well say that they should have just put ‘joints’ instead of ‘ joint pain’.

Edited

Hahaha that made me laugh.

I suppose if this insurance company said we can help you with a range of different issues: Parkinson’s, diabetes, joint pain and mental health then that makes sense no? How exactly did they phrase it?

DogearedPaperbackWriter · 17/07/2026 21:10

YANBU. It irritates me more than most of the other stupid trends of modern language (d)evolution.

newbie202020 · 17/07/2026 21:14

Should be 'mental ill health'

Allisnotlost1 · 17/07/2026 22:28

NeverDropYourMooncup · 17/07/2026 18:41

Also perfectly reasonable to not be depressed but just feeling pretty shitty on the day. Which is not depression and certainly not mental illness.

Of course, but without proper assessment no-one knows, just like with any other disease or condition.

Walkaround · 18/07/2026 11:10

NeverDropYourMooncup · 17/07/2026 18:41

Also perfectly reasonable to not be depressed but just feeling pretty shitty on the day. Which is not depression and certainly not mental illness.

A one off bad mood is also nothing to do with your overall mental health, any more than one-off sneeze has anything to do with your overall physical health. People who think “I have mental health” means they have a mental health condition don’t tend to think “I have mental health” means they same thing as, “piss off, I’m in a bad mood, today,” they are trying to tell people they have something more serious wrong with them than being a living human being with normal emotions.

Duckagogo · 18/07/2026 11:13

Well, if you do actually want to know why they do it, it's obviously because the phrase is "mental health issues" or "mental health challenges" and it was shortened in common parlance to "mental health".

No, I don't say it, but it's obviously why others do.

BillieWiper · 18/07/2026 11:40

They might say women's health to talk about gynae issues? And you don't need to be mentally ill to want support or help with your mental health. So the advert seems fair enough.

Legomania · 18/07/2026 11:45

Only someone terminally stupid would think that the sentence 'I've got mental health' makes sense.

Walkaround · 18/07/2026 13:31

BillieWiper · 18/07/2026 11:40

They might say women's health to talk about gynae issues? And you don't need to be mentally ill to want support or help with your mental health. So the advert seems fair enough.

Nobody asks for support for their mental health if they don’t think there is anything wrong with their mental health. It is utterly ridiculous to argue that, “I have mental health” is an acceptable way of saying you have a problem with your mental health. If anything, “I have mental health” implies you are mentally particularly robust. I mean, how many people would think, “I have physical health” means you are unwell as opposed to being fit and healthy?

BillieWiper · 18/07/2026 13:41

Walkaround · 18/07/2026 13:31

Nobody asks for support for their mental health if they don’t think there is anything wrong with their mental health. It is utterly ridiculous to argue that, “I have mental health” is an acceptable way of saying you have a problem with your mental health. If anything, “I have mental health” implies you are mentally particularly robust. I mean, how many people would think, “I have physical health” means you are unwell as opposed to being fit and healthy?

I didn't say 'I have mental health' is appropriate. It means nothing.

I said the advert stating 'mental health' as one of the areas it covers seems reasonable. Mental illness has a lot of stigma attached so someone might need help with their mental health while not classing themselves as having mental illness.

Walkaround · 18/07/2026 13:53

BillieWiper · 18/07/2026 13:41

I didn't say 'I have mental health' is appropriate. It means nothing.

I said the advert stating 'mental health' as one of the areas it covers seems reasonable. Mental illness has a lot of stigma attached so someone might need help with their mental health while not classing themselves as having mental illness.

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Well that’s just it, isn’t it? People have a problem with describing reality - they wouldn’t have a problem agreeing they were physically ill, or unwell, if they caught a cold, or asking for paracetamol to help with the symptoms, or even time off work if it’s that bad, but people feel unable to say they are mentally ill or unwell unless they are diagnosed with a major psychiatric disorder. It’s ridiculous, really.

ChocolateBiscuitsandaCuppa · 18/07/2026 14:18

BarbaraVineFan · 17/07/2026 00:37

They surely don’t?! They may put something like ‘ she is experiencing difficulties with her mental health’, which is of course fine and absolutely correct. I am talking about people saying or writing ‘he/she has mental health’ without adding the word ‘issues’ or ‘ difficulties’.

I initially chose YABU because this I misunderstood what your issue was with. Based on this, I'm with you.

BillieWiper · 18/07/2026 14:46

Walkaround · 18/07/2026 13:53

Well that’s just it, isn’t it? People have a problem with describing reality - they wouldn’t have a problem agreeing they were physically ill, or unwell, if they caught a cold, or asking for paracetamol to help with the symptoms, or even time off work if it’s that bad, but people feel unable to say they are mentally ill or unwell unless they are diagnosed with a major psychiatric disorder. It’s ridiculous, really.

Edited

Yeah it's true it is down to how mentally unwell people were treated in the past. At least partially.

And there's an element of people fearing they will be seen as weak, unreliable, unable to cope while others seemingly can.

A lot of people find it difficult to accept a diagnosis of certain quite serious MH conditions.

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