To not get emotional at end of school stuff?

[MercyMeMary11]

I have nc for this.

I did not get emotional at the start of when dc started at primary school. Nor am I emotional when they leave. Currently youngest dd is leaving primary school and with both dc, I didnt feel much at their respective leavers assemblies.

Other parents, have said, in their own words, that they are "a wreck".

Oldest dd started secondary school a couple of years ago, and I just focused on the practical side of things.

Is there something not exactly right? I think I am the only one amongst my friends- other school mums- who is like this.

I got emotional at youngest dc primary leaving assembly, but there is a six year gap between my two and I’d spent 13 years taking them there and back. Eldest has some additional needs and the SENCo had been amazing and supportive. It’s a small school where the head and every teacher know every child’s name and know the parents by sight

This. I think it's more a reminder of the passage of time than anything else. My middle DS has achieved so much more than anyone expected due to SEN and it does make me a bit emotional seeing him doing so well.

Or, people are different and there is no right or wrong way to do things. Being less emotional doesn’t make you superior.

I’m a full time working mother. I cried at my daughter’s leaving ceremony in P7. I will no doubt do the same at her S6 leaving ceremony. My reasons have nothing to do with my “perceived purpose” (whatever you mean by that sniffy comment). I have many other reasons to be emotional about it.

If you work then you’re not the type I’m talking about

Yeah, god forbid we have some joy and happiness in life. Get them started on the grim wheel of life early, I say.

Which statistically is most of the parents at your school.

It’s usually people who like to overreact and don’t have much else in their lives

I didn’t say it wasn’t? I think you’re confused. I said that the type to get really upset are the ‘full time mummy’s’ who unfortunately tie their whole worth to being a mother and when their child leaves school they have nothing left.
That is my experience.

frankly your talking rubbish!

I have seen all sorts of parents getting emotional at our leaving services from the “full time mummys” as you so rudely put it to the Dads who often come across as quite detached from their child’s education.

Its a big change and for some there emotions show through tears. That’s not a bad thing and crying or not crying is no indicator of you as a parent.

I experience a lot of emotions in those moments. They are big milestones in their life and being able to share it with them makes me so happy and grateful. Just writing this makes my eyes water...

Sorry I didn’t realise that sharing your experience in a public forum wasn’t allowed 🤷🏻‍♀️

Well when it’s so judgemental it makes you come across in quite a poor light!

That’s fine by me. I’m sure you have some experiences and opinions which I don’t agree with. That is a normal and healthy part of being a human in a society, something I teach to my students

I am the same, and just grateful to be lucky enough to watch them grow. Dh gets very into his emotions every year, we react so differently! I hate the crying because it isn't a bad thing, it is good to focus on the here and now!

DH walks DD to school every day, and I walk her home. I get emotional about that ending because it’s a lovely time to chat about our day. She has had a brilliant time at primary school, which some great teachers who have gone above and beyond to make it a brilliant experience as well as academically rewarding. I will miss her school, the PTA and a gang of parents who I chat to, but probably won’t stay in touch with. I don’t feel sad about DD growing up though - I am enjoying that bit.
I will probably cry at the end of term church service - there’s something about singing in churches that makes me cry!

I used to not get emotional and I'd even eye roll at parents crying over their kids but wow since having my own children I am a wreck. For me I'm excited for the next step for them and what's to come but having children makes me realise how fast time goes and that's what makes me emotional.

DH told me he got choked up at younger DD's leaver's assembly. I didn't at all.

I spoke to a single dad friend today who said he was crying as he was ironing his dd's summer uniform for the last time. He's been through a lot though as the mum is not around any more.

I do think I'm not as in touch with my emotions as a lot of people, but I'm better than I used to be.

I only cried when it was my first class, as an newly qualified teacher, left.

I did see a lot of parents and children crying but now on the other end, I don't feel it!

All my friends who get emotional do work at least p/t, so work isn't a factor.

Like everything, its overdone

I’m much like you. My child is the same. I’m quite pragmatic, and expressive too, just a bit cool. I’ve never felt gut-wrenched at school, only when my child was in hospital.

A friend once said that I’m not the person they’d call if they needed a good cry, but I’m the person who will say “let’s go dancing!” to help them recover from the pain.

I get my stoicism from my mum, and my grandad (her dad) too. Both incredibly practical people, although mum did shed tears when I went to uni and I imagine with DD I will too if she goes, as it's leaving leaving.

Haven't cried at nursery leaving, haven't cried at any of the classes moving up. She loves her current teacher, and we love her too - she just gets DD, and she has helped her through a rocky patch this year too, really taken her under her wing. Will I miss her, yes. Will I cry, no.

Closest was when she got a class award and they mentioned how kind she was, how she was always helping anyone upset, my eyes got a little damp, but that was a proud teary, not a leaving teary 😂

I'm so glad DD has finished Year 11. Without wanting to wish DS's life away, I'll be even happier when he leaves too!

Everyone’s different, some people are more pragmatically minded which you seem to be, others like myself are more emotional. Neither is right or wrong and it’s not a reflection on how much you care about your children. If anything I wish I was less emotional about this stuff because it can be exhausting and a little embarrassing at times.

For me I’ve always had a hard time with things ‘ending’, especially things that have been in my life for a long period of time and have become ‘part of the furniture’ of my life and part of my routine. To have that suddenly go, even if I know it’s going to happen, is really hard for me to deal with. I struggle with change, basically which is annoying because it’s something you can’t avoid, more so if you have children as you’re constantly moving from stage to stage as they grow.

My youngest dc is leaving primary and this time always makes me reflect on dc’s journey, how fast the time has gone, what I wish I’d done differently. I’ll miss the school environment, the staff, mums I chat to on the playground, all the little things that come with being a parent of a primary school child really, even the annoying bits. All of that brings out all sorts of emotions in me and I do often involuntarily cry during times like this.

I am of course grateful and happy that dc going through all these milestones and progressing in life, I think that’s another reason I get emotional about them leaving primary.

Me: first day of reception with any of my DC - not in the slightest bit emotional. Whereas last day of year 6 definitely a few wobbly lip moments in the leavers’ assembly and walking out through the gates for the last time. It’s more to do with the emotion of the moment than because of any sadness at leaving primary school or dread of secondary. Also, even though I was looking forward to the end of primary school, I felt most emotional when the youngest one left as it really marked the end of a long era.

Well I don’t know either of you, but I’m joining you in feeling emotional here and sending you both lots of love ❤️❤️. Here’s to Year 2!!! Keep fighting little man.