AIBU to stop a villager using our skip and interrupting builders?

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Having an extension built on our house. Will likely be ongoing until September.
Have a skip outside our house which , when neighbours have asked , we have allowed them to put stuff in our skip. No problem.

A man from elsewhere in the village is working on his own house.

Five times now he was wandered up our garden (long garden) to find our builder and to try and poach him onto his site. He has not asked permission to come into our garden. We are paying our builder on a day rate so each interruption costs us money.

Last night he put a load of waste from his own house (loads of bathroom tiles , a sink and a bath panel) into our skip. Without asking.

Live in a very small village , word of any neighbour dispute quickly makes it round the village.

Do I put up with it for the sake of keeping the peace.

Or do I ask him to leave next time I see him in our garden and ask him to contribute to the cost of the skip?

ETA Builder also lives in the village , is a brilliant builder

YABU Keep the peace

YANBU Kick him out and send a bill

You return the tiles to him and tell your builders that as you are paying them, they should ignore him.

What the heck? Absolutely do not put up with this!
Regarding coming on to your property to speak to the builder this is cheeky, but I would have a word with the builder and explain your concerns and ask them to politely request that the neighbour contacts them by phone and that they will arrange a time to visit to quote / discuss (I.e pop by at the end of the day when they are not working on your project)
Regarding the skip, absolutely take this up with the neighbour!! That is beyond cheeky. Do they think skips are free !? I’d be taking the stuff out and returning it to them! Cheeky sods.

Tell him he take his crap back out of the skip and stop interrupting your builders on private land. He can speak to them in the builder’s own time.

He’s a CF! You are paying for that skip and skips are not cheap. He’s also trespassing on your property.
Firstly (if you haven’t already) tell your builders that if the CF turns up in your garden again they are to tell him to leave and not disturb them.
Secondly, you put the sink and rest of the crap the CF cheekily dumped in YOUR skip into rubble sacks and deliver them back to him. Knock on his door and say that he must have put them in your skip by accident and that you are bringing them back as you need the space. Smile pleasantly as you are saying that and then leave.
It is your right to say no to this CF. Just because you have been generous enough to let other people put rubbish in your skip doesn’t mean the whole village can use it.

Sorry updated original to add that builder also lives in our village. He is a brilliant builder and works so hard.

I definitely want to tell the CF to do one.
My husband is more of a peacekeeper (and he is a wonderful human being and doesn’t need to be more confrontational etc etc, he is also entitled to his own opinion)

The skip was collected this morning (we noticed all his stuff when we went out to get the invoice from the driver)

But we will be having another skip at some point

You will have to tackle the skip situation as unfortunately he is likely to take silence for consent and will continue/escalate his use of it.

I agree. Been there before myself unfortunately.

Now the skip has gone, write up an invoice for half the cost, payable to you, and put it through his door. Make sure the next one is a covered skip, padlock it and give the key to the foreman with instructions that only they use it.

If neighbour complains to you, just look at him as if he’s grown two heads. Ask him to confirm he’s asking for you to pay for his skip space. Tell him that until the project is done you won’t know if there will be enough space for your own work so no, he cannot use your skip.

many people don't know this but the skip renter is personally responsible for what is put in the skip. From my experience, skip companies have got various "wills and won'ts" about what they will accept for disposal so its important to keep an eye on what is put in the skip that you are responsible for. I mean the obvious one is asbestos or potential asbestos but there are others. As well as having room for what YOU need to dispose of, its not just "wanting to make trouble" to want to know what is going in your skip and to give permission or not.

Considering it’s a small village and everyone knows everyone, is there any possibility that he knows the builder, and that the builder gave him permission to use the skip?

Our neighbour did this. Grabbed OUR landscaper to go to HER house and get stuff from HER garage to put in OUR skip. Words were had with both of them.

This is good. Thankyou.

Thankyou everybody ☺️

No, because it was the builder who confirmed to us that it was the neighbours stuff , as he had gone to his house at the end of the day yesterday to quote and he had all the rubbish piled up.

He asked builder how to dispose of it and he told him he would have to get his own skip.

I trust the builder

its not the builder's permission to give and the builder will know this

you need to tell the bloke to ask if he can use your skip because you are paying for it

Just commenting to say that I recently moved to a small village and know exactly what you mean about word getting round.

I've gone from being perfectly able to stand up for myself and having no problem telling people where to go when I was living in a city, to being hyper conscious of my every word/move, and desperate not to offend now!

Write the cheeky fucker a note and post it through his door.

“Hi John,

Please could you refrain from putting things into our skip, we are finding it’s filling up very quickly and we need every inch of space. Here’s the number for the company we used incase you need one for yourself.

Take care.”

I’d have returned all the tiles to his garden, and told him to get his own skip and own builders. I’d also mention you’re concerned about the interruptions from X, so can the builders please remind him to contact them when not working on your house to discuss their own contract.

I would only make enemies in a village if I absolutely had to . It may not happen again.

Your neighbour is a CF, but I would chalk this one up to experience. Had the same experience at our old house, but for the second skip I put a sign on it saying something like "this skip is for the use of (your address) only, any unauthorised material will be removed/returned, this skip is being monitored by camera". We didn't have a problem after that and avoided any direct conflict with our own CF neighbour.

Skips are expensive! Tell him to get his own.

Dear CF neighbour - I noticed you put some of your rubbish in our skip. Please don't do that again. If you need the number for a skip company I can recommend [name of skip company you use]

or he may be the village CF and the rest of the village will be cheering you on or an incomer himself and again the village either won't give a damn or be cheering you on.

there is a middle way. You don't have to start at telling people where to go while still being able to maintain boundaries.

Thankyou everybody , appreciate all the different perspectives ☺️

When we get the next skip I will ensure to put a sign on it saying it’s monitored so please ask if they wish to use it , to allow us to keep track of what is actually being put in it.

In terms of him wandering down our garden I’m going to put my foot down about this and have a word with him. Because aside from anything else it unnecessarily gets the dog involved and she barks her head off everytime he does it .

Thankyou everybody

It could be worse OP - our neighbours were renovating, had a skip delivered and before they could even chuck a tile in it, someone had dumped an entire three piece suite in it, salmon pink with a tassel skirt. They were soon on the village social media just in case anyone thought it was their own sofa😂
I’d be tempted to take the neighbours rubbish back to him…cheeky devil! The chatting wouldn’t bother me particularly, builders IME love a gossip, but he's removed all good will in that area by abusing your skip!