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Is this a weird present? Be honest please!

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sparklingWine4 · 08/07/2026 13:47

Just asking for opinions as I’m totally overthinking this!

I’ve got a really close friend who isn’t European. She moved here from across the world, we met at uni, and have been best friends ever since. She’s moving away for a new job and I’ve been trying to think of a nice personal present for her. She got me a cracking gift for a big event in my life and it was really personal and meaningful so I wanted to do something similar for her. I’ve got her some jewellery and other things as the main present, but I’ve had an idea and I’m just not sure now if she’ll like it and I’m over thinking it!

shes always been fascinated by the Irish rural equestrian sort of culture, and while she doesn’t ride herself, she really likes horses and that sort of vibe. I do eventing and have a set of 4 lucky horseshoes (taken off my horse) which I’ve got one in a frame and 3 basically in my outhouse.

I decided to get one of them redesigned into an ornament for her, as a keepsake from her time in rural Ireland. I know it’s not lucky for her in the same personal way it is for me, but it’s sort of a running superstition that if you keep it upright it’ll bring you good luck and she loves that sort of good luck / fortune kind of thing. And it’s just an ornament/ keepsake. But now I’m totally overthinking it and I’m thinking what if she thinks wtf why has she given me a horse shoe, what am I supposed to do with this etc, or that it looks like I’m forcing my interest on her

ill attach a pic of what it’ll look like to give an idea

is this a nice present given the context above? I don’t want it to look like a weird present that I’m forcing on her because I’m horsey, but I know she’s always loved that sort of thing and I know she wants some kind of meaningful keepsake from her time here

if someone could give me an honest opinion I’d be really grateful haha. Thanks so much! X

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LoyalShaker · 12/07/2026 08:45

I think it's a very thoughtful and personal gift. I would be delighted to receive such a present.

TheGodlyGirl · 12/07/2026 08:59

This is absolutely lovely. Especially if she values lucky charms/is superstitious as you mentioned she is -> she will LOVE this!

Skibbgirl · 13/07/2026 15:01

You've obviously put a great deal of thought into this gift and it is particularly personal bearing in mind the back story about your friend's love of rural Irish culture and the time she has spent in Ireland., I would be inclined to mount the horseshoe into a box frame and include a card / note explaining what it means to you and how much you hope that it would bring back good memories of the time she spent with you. It would most definitely be a talking point if she decides to put it on the wall!

No12worryabout · 14/07/2026 00:17

I think it's a good idea, but not like the ones in the photos. I would make something rustic and mount in on a wooden plaque with a four leaf clover and an Irish flag, more like a souvenir of her time in Ireland. 🍀

Horsedoglover59 · 16/07/2026 03:59

Member984815 · 09/07/2026 07:17

It's a lovely present, I'm from rural Ireland we used to have a horseshoe above the front door for good luck, they were often gifts for weddings .

I think it's a great idea, I'm horsey too and have a horseshoe, but do put a card with it telling her to keep it ends up!

SavvyK · 17/07/2026 00:45

sparklingWine4 · 09/07/2026 18:49

Thank you so much for all the feedback!

I totally understand preferring the more rustic/natural appearance. The only issue is it’s got bits of hay and all sorts in all the small crevices, and it needs to be smooth of any of that (so she can take it back home, but also so it doesn’t smell haha)

I’ve found a few places that can do the chrome finish which involves getting it completely clean, and while there probably is somewhere I can get it cleaned with a more rustic finish I haven’t found anywhere and I wouldn’t want to give her something that has bits of hay and horse shit in it haha x

If you could find a company locally who could sand blast it for you to get it totally clean but keep it looking more rustic if that’s more the look you were thinking of?

ForeverTheOptomist · 22/07/2026 15:05

it's a lovely idea.

Bellaboo01 · 22/07/2026 15:40

I think that is really lovely and i'm sure she will love that.

I would.

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