AIBU to be annoyed my boss keeps calling my parents?

[Moaningagainn]

So since my divorce I have obviously changed my emergency contact at work. However If my boss cannot get hold of me for whatever reason (to ask if I can do a different shift) she calls my parents and I am finding it really annoying.

If this is real you need to point out emergency contacts are for emergency only. Tell them to stop and then go to HR.

This. Absolutely unacceptable.

Change your emergency contact to my number, I’ll soon tell her where to go if it’s not an emergency. 🤣

Why can't they contact you directly?

Why should they if she is not at work?

They can but if I don’t answer my phone for some reason they go straight to my mum and I don’t really want my mum knowing everything.

That's a massive privacy breach. Emergency contacts are for actual emergencies. This is using your mum's number in a way that is different to the purpose it's been given to them for. I'd go apeshit over this.

I didn’t answer my phone on one of my non working days and all she wanted to know is if I could do a different shift and she called my mum!

Totally unacceptable

That's a huge overstep. Emergency contacts are in case something happens to you at work and they need to contact someone. Nothing else. Is your mum accommodating or does she tell them to bugger off?

And what did your Mum say? Clue: any response other than “Is this an emergency? No? Well please never use this number again unless it is an emergency” would have been incorrect.

Does your boss have a boss? Do you have an HR department?

Second getting your mum to question the nature of the emergency.

WTAF. It’s supposed to be an emergency contact in case you have accident or something at work so they can tell them you’re being carted off in an ambulance if you’re unable to do so yourself. It’s not to ask if you can do an extra shift FFS. Can you go to HR?

This happened to me a long time ago. I hit the roof when they said they’d called my mum as I’d been NC with my mum for years and they had actually called my DGM who was 100+ miles away and fretting I’d been in an accident when it was just this stupid manager misusing my emergency contacts. They’re morons whoever they are.

Have you escalated this to HR - misuse of your emergency contact number.

And if you can’t go to HR because this is a tiny company or something could you get your mum onside to fake a hysterical reaction if they call again, pretending to presume that because they’ve called her as your emergency contact something horrible must have happened to you. Might make them think twice about doing it if they think either they’ve worried her and/or she’s a total loon.

Complain.
And change your emergency contact number.

Why are you not making it in for your shift?

just re-read sorry! Yeah, not acceptable

I am. This was on my non working day

Feels like I’m back at school

Boss: “Can Moaning work a shift tomorrow?”

Mum: “I’m not sure—she’s 35, doesn’t live here, and I don’t know the ins and outs of her diary commitments. You’ll have to ask her.”

The end.

This is a massive breach of privacy. Tell the company. Make a formal complaint to HR. Potentially could get your manager sacked...

Wtf thats not ok!

My old boss called another colleagues Mum once - but he had been missing for 3 days without calling into the office to say why. Wouldn't awnser calls and IT could see their laptop hadn't been switched on since before the weekend. He was going through a hard time, so he called his mum to make sure he hadn't done something!

Thats justifiable if they cant reach you!