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To think that NT children miss out in school inclusion policies.

277 replies

empee47 · 06/07/2026 16:45

To think that inclusion policies in primary schools are almost never geared to helping academic, NT children get the best out of their education? They’re almost always designed to help the underdog - not denying this is necessary - but those at the top end of the spectrum don’t get the chance to shine as bright as they might otherwise do.

OP posts:
Thechaseison71 · Yesterday 14:48

ImImmortalNowBabyDoll · Yesterday 14:43

Bright, NT children do not need "inclusion policies" because the entirety of the school system has been designed specifically for them. If they are finding that seeing adjustments made for ND students is making them sparkle less in comparison, then that's a sign that the policies are working to give EVERYONE the opportunity to reach their potential. It might be shocking for you (and them) to find out that the potential of ND children is often equal to or above the potential of their NT classmates.

The problem isn't ND children, it's DISRUPTIVE children With or without special needs.

As many posters have pointed out they were sent out of class for being disruptive in the past

Jamesblonde2 · Yesterday 14:59

Completely agree OP.

The clever ones are the future. They need investing in. They will benefit society the most.

Those less capable, not so much.

Jamesblonde2 · Yesterday 15:09

DelphiniumBlue · 06/07/2026 17:52

Don't worry, teachers have to demonstrate what they are doing for more able children as well as those with SEN. They are expected to ensure that all children make progress. It's just a little bit difficult when there is only one adult to 30 kids, you can't teach and make sure every child across the range of the abilities can access the lesson and deal with another child's meltdown whilst simultaneously trying to deal with the poo accident on the carpet. Well, you can, but no one is going to make much progress. It's not as if the class is full of 28 NT children who will sit quietly whilst the ND issues are dealt with. In any one class in my ( leafy green suburb) primary school, you'll find maybe one or 2 children with autism, 4-6 with ADHD of varying degrees, one or 2 with GLD ( needing more support to help them learn) 2 or 3 with dyslexia who need additional input for reading and writing tasks, and maybe 5-6 more able children who can help themselves when pointed towards additional resources which will stretch them. In some schools, there are many more children who need additional support.
Some children need more help than others. They don't need equal time- some children are very independent in their learning and pick things up very quickly and can practise at their own speed, getting support from their peers if needed, or looking things up. But some children, even in Y6, can't write a sentence without an adult sitting next to them keeping them on track. These kids have such different needs.
The sad thing is the that funding is so minimal that resources have to be directed to those who need it most. Yes, it would be great to have extra stimulation for the more able, but on the whole they can motivate themselves.

I really think that most people do not get how pared back school funding is.
As an example, I've prepared scaffolded worksheets this week to support some children, but they need to be printed and then glued into their books. So if we are out of printer ink and paper, and there are no glue sticks left, and the new exercise books we need haven't been ordered yet because there is a moratorium on ordering anything because the school is 100k in the red,( we've been told to wait till September for new supplies) how do I make that work?We've had 2 members of staff longterm sick, that has cost over 100k, ( or 3-4 TAs if you want to look at it that way.) There is no money there to pay for the recommendations on EHCPs, that is why schools are not encouraging parents to apply, as it will cost the school money they have not got to comply.
So if this is something you feel strongly about, please contact your MP. Schools need more funding. Soon there will not be enough teachers, they are leaving in droves. The expectations are so unrealistic, nobody is going to want take that on unless something changes.

But, but, but I thought all the VAT on private school fees was going to help with this. Is it not?

You would really think a government would be grateful that non-state schools and private paying parents would remove some of this burden from the state. Wonder why they’re not grateful?

Sounds horrific PP.

Ablondiebutagoody · Yesterday 15:45

DontBuyAnotherBook · Yesterday 12:33

My child has SEN and probably needs a 1-1. Highly suspect he won't have anyone when he starts school until they realise the level of disruption caused means they will have no choice.

I wouldn't be surprised. At the start of my final teaching year before I quit, SLT refused to provide the resources that the class had been given the previous year. Things like 1-1s, time out of lessons for a few of the kids, various interventions, bespoke timetables etc. etc. I had to start from scratch and "see how things go". They went to shit.

C0dename · Yesterday 16:07

Jamesblonde2 · Yesterday 14:59

Completely agree OP.

The clever ones are the future. They need investing in. They will benefit society the most.

Those less capable, not so much.

Many ND children are clever.

Jumbaree · Yesterday 16:09

C0dename · Yesterday 16:07

Many ND children are clever.

Has PP said they’re not?

Jamesblonde2 · Yesterday 16:10

C0dename · Yesterday 16:07

Many ND children are clever.

And?
So they’re worth investing in, no?

lanthanum · Yesterday 16:17

Jumbaree · 06/07/2026 17:22

We really shouldn’t have to be able to pay £30k a year to get an adequate education for a talented child.

What do you mean by "an adequate education"? Very few schools will not deliver an adequate education to their higher achievers. Some will push them more than others, sure, but that doesn't make the others inadequate.

Stressedoutmummyof3 · Yesterday 16:33

Jumbaree · Yesterday 08:43

I didn’t mention abilities at all though did I? Any child for whatever reason takes up too much of a teachers time then they’re in the wrong place.

Where do you want those children to go then?

FirstOneToBlathers · Yesterday 16:43

If a child in your kid's class needed glasses, you wouldn't complain that all of the children with good eyes weren't being given telescopes.

Thechaseison71 · Yesterday 16:55

Stressedoutmummyof3 · Yesterday 16:33

Where do you want those children to go then?

Isolation room? Or if it's a huge amount of kids a spare room where they aren't disturbing others

If they are being disruptive they aren't learning anyway. So remove them to not disturb others

Thechaseison71 · Yesterday 16:57

FirstOneToBlathers · Yesterday 16:43

If a child in your kid's class needed glasses, you wouldn't complain that all of the children with good eyes weren't being given telescopes.

That kid wouldn't be causing hassle for everyone else though.

Due to poor hearing I had to sit front row in class. Didn't affect anyone rlse

FirstOneToBlathers · Yesterday 17:23

Thechaseison71 · Yesterday 16:57

That kid wouldn't be causing hassle for everyone else though.

Due to poor hearing I had to sit front row in class. Didn't affect anyone rlse

My child is well behaved with SEN and not disruptive in class. That's another bugbear of mine, when people assume SEN = bad behaviour (or vice versa!)

There's this phrasing that sen provision is there to help children reach full potential and it can lead to people thinking 'well all children deserve that', which is what I got from the op. But the adjustments my child has are to accommodate a disability so I just get frustrated with that line of thinking. He doesn't have the equivalent of a private tutor, he has recommendations from a paediatrician and speech therapy based on his diagnosis.

ImImmortalNowBabyDoll · Yesterday 17:27

Thechaseison71 · Yesterday 14:48

The problem isn't ND children, it's DISRUPTIVE children With or without special needs.

As many posters have pointed out they were sent out of class for being disruptive in the past

That might be what the comments have said, but the OP says that she doesn't like seeing that accommodations are being made for ND kids to cope with things like chill out areas and forest schools. Idk if NT children hate the forest or something? It's not clear what adjustments she thinks her bright, NT child needs.

DontBuyAnotherBook · Yesterday 17:52

Ablondiebutagoody · Yesterday 15:45

I wouldn't be surprised. At the start of my final teaching year before I quit, SLT refused to provide the resources that the class had been given the previous year. Things like 1-1s, time out of lessons for a few of the kids, various interventions, bespoke timetables etc. etc. I had to start from scratch and "see how things go". They went to shit.

He started the preschool of the school of which his siblings goes to. I suspect they didn't start the EHCP until his place was confirmed and they are saying it is a long process and they don't get funding for him. Well if you had started it in September...! I will just have to keep my fingers crossed but it does feel mostly lip services and promises they can't keep. See what happens. There are two other children who are more severe who probably should be given an SEN school space going in with him too.

DontBuyAnotherBook · Yesterday 17:53

Thechaseison71 · Yesterday 16:55

Isolation room? Or if it's a huge amount of kids a spare room where they aren't disturbing others

If they are being disruptive they aren't learning anyway. So remove them to not disturb others

Edited

How will they learn to behave and socialise properly if in isolation all the time?

PoppyseedPurple · Yesterday 18:03

Ablondiebutagoody · Yesterday 10:51

When you work in a school all you hear is SEN, SEN, SEN. It's pretty much all that matters and takes up 80 odd percent of time and resources for 20 something percent of the children. It's nuts and I think explains why so many parents want their children classed as SEN. It's the only way for their child to be seen.

Having worked in schools for decades I can confirm that the words most commonly heard are data, attendance and Ofsted.

C4tintherug · Yesterday 18:08

Accommodations like glasses etc don’t affect anyone else.
accomodations like fiddle toys (latest research from EEF is saying no benefit anyway!) are distracting to all! Loud noises, argumentative behaviour, physical assault affects all children. Constant lateness to every lesson impacts every other child in that lesson. Needing support with every single task means other pupils don’t get any support.
This will be unpopular but even stuff like printing all PowerPoints, millions of different colours for different kids is starting to feel unsustainable. Some kids with ADHD don’t even have reasonable expectations of equipment as they can’t manage it, so it’s even more on the teacher. I don’t have any extra time in my timetable to print all these things. Printer is not near my classroom. Oh, and my school has no money for LSAs. Those with EHCP may have one if it is named in their EHCP but the vast vast majority do not. I teach 14 different classes each week by the way. It’s impossible to manage.

PoppyseedPurple · Yesterday 18:13

Thechaseison71 · Yesterday 16:57

That kid wouldn't be causing hassle for everyone else though.

Due to poor hearing I had to sit front row in class. Didn't affect anyone rlse

Neurodivergent children are not all “causing hassle for everyone else” by any stretch of the imagination.

C0dename · Yesterday 18:15

C4tintherug · Yesterday 18:08

Accommodations like glasses etc don’t affect anyone else.
accomodations like fiddle toys (latest research from EEF is saying no benefit anyway!) are distracting to all! Loud noises, argumentative behaviour, physical assault affects all children. Constant lateness to every lesson impacts every other child in that lesson. Needing support with every single task means other pupils don’t get any support.
This will be unpopular but even stuff like printing all PowerPoints, millions of different colours for different kids is starting to feel unsustainable. Some kids with ADHD don’t even have reasonable expectations of equipment as they can’t manage it, so it’s even more on the teacher. I don’t have any extra time in my timetable to print all these things. Printer is not near my classroom. Oh, and my school has no money for LSAs. Those with EHCP may have one if it is named in their EHCP but the vast vast majority do not. I teach 14 different classes each week by the way. It’s impossible to manage.

It’s not millions of colours and you have PPA time every week. Doesn’t take two minutes to send PowerPoints to the printer each week in one batch. It’s part of your job.

C4tintherug · Yesterday 18:23

C0dename · Yesterday 18:15

It’s not millions of colours and you have PPA time every week. Doesn’t take two minutes to send PowerPoints to the printer each week in one batch. It’s part of your job.

Actually it does, I need to find the right coloured paper, put it in printer, the batches need to be broken up as 1 kid needs blue, another yellow, another beige…and so on. Do you really think I don’t have other things to do in my PPA time?! There’s always a queue for the printer. It sounds like it’s a quick job but it’s really not. And it’s on top of so many other “quick jobs” that as I said, these sorts of tasks are really starting to feel overwhelming. If you dare forget you get threatened with legal action by parents!
As I said I’m human, I’m 1 person, and I’m being 100% realistic about my personal capacity for these tasks.

Jumbaree · Yesterday 18:27

lanthanum · Yesterday 16:17

What do you mean by "an adequate education"? Very few schools will not deliver an adequate education to their higher achievers. Some will push them more than others, sure, but that doesn't make the others inadequate.

An adequate education is one where a child:

  1. is safeguarded and not in fear of violence
  2. has a classroom environment free from disruption and are able to learn, and
  3. is stretched to the extent of their abilities.
Jumbaree · Yesterday 18:29

Stressedoutmummyof3 · Yesterday 16:33

Where do you want those children to go then?

That’s an issue for the Local Authorities not the parent whose child isn’t given an opportunity to learn. I’d happily pay more tax so every child received ann adequate education.

C0dename · Yesterday 18:30

C4tintherug · Yesterday 18:23

Actually it does, I need to find the right coloured paper, put it in printer, the batches need to be broken up as 1 kid needs blue, another yellow, another beige…and so on. Do you really think I don’t have other things to do in my PPA time?! There’s always a queue for the printer. It sounds like it’s a quick job but it’s really not. And it’s on top of so many other “quick jobs” that as I said, these sorts of tasks are really starting to feel overwhelming. If you dare forget you get threatened with legal action by parents!
As I said I’m human, I’m 1 person, and I’m being 100% realistic about my personal capacity for these tasks.

Photocopying which you get paid to do really isn’t a big ask. Putting a few pages of coloured paper into to the drawer before hitting print which you’re doing anyway isn’t a big job.

Jumbaree · Yesterday 18:33

DontBuyAnotherBook · Yesterday 17:53

How will they learn to behave and socialise properly if in isolation all the time?

Not the issue of the calm children to solve though is it. They have to give them a different provision, teach them how to behave THEN they might be allowed back in the classroom. Until then, no.

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