To ask if you have had a boob job?

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I've always had really tiny boobs (32B) and have always really disliked them. I know it's really silly but I just feel like less of a woman with them being this small. When I was breastfeeding my kids, I went up to a 36C-D, and was elated with them. Now they've sagged and deflated and I'm back to hating them again. They used to be even smaller when I had an ED, they were a 30A.

I don't know what to do. I want to get a breast augmentation but I have a lot of reservations about it, namely;

• cost
• cost of second one when needing to get them switched out
• not wanting to do it then regret it
• considering maybe a fat transfer instead as I don't particularly like the implant look, but I feel anything would be better than this
• I don't want my DD to look at me and wonder why I have done this. I don't want her to think she needs to change herself. Equally, I'm all about supporting people doing whatever makes them feel good. Yet, I can't help but feel implants are rooted in pandering to the male gaze. On the contrary, I feel that having boobs is of course a feminine quality, so maybe it's not all about that? I'm trying to figure out in my head if I'm doing it to look better for myself or other people.

This is something that I am very insecure about, so please be kind. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with small boobs, I just wish mine were bigger. I know I should be grateful that they breastfed my kids etc., and I truly am. It's just the size that bothers me. I feel like clothes just look childish on me because of it, too.

Have you ever had a boob job and did you regret it, or were you happy with them? Any complications and would you recommend? Would be interested to hear if anybody has had a fat transfer there, as well.

Yabu - don't get one
Yanbu - get one if you want to

My best friend had hers done and she sounds similar to you in size.

Firstly, she was black
and blue and in extreme pain initially as the implants were placed under the muscle. Then she was really unhappy with how big and ‘matronly’ she looked after a lifetime of being able to wear skimpy vests etc.

If she could have faced the pain I think she’d have had them redone at a far smaller size, ie a firmer and perter version of her old breasts

Please don’t put these things into your body - I have heard plenty of horror stories - surely something you put under the skin with all sorts of silicone chemicals is not going to be good for you in the long run -

Where on earth did you get the cancer ‘fact’ from?

Interesting, this is the kind of way I was thinking of going. I'm very petite (size 6, 5'1) so I didn't want some random massive boobs. Just maybe a 32C/D or something like that. I'm so glad that you're happy with yours, do you feel more confident? That's all I'm hoping to achieve, it's the only thing I'm really insecure about tbh.

I think small boobs are so elegant. I used to have small boobs but now that are huge, they are annoying. I would swap with you. Mine are an okay shape and surprisingly pert but I think big boobs are just frumpy.

I had a similar story to you. I had them done 18yrs ago. They said at the time they would need to be replaced after 10 years, they've been checked and are fine. My scars are barely seen unless looking for them (under boob). Best thing I ever done.

Thank you for saying this. I have been going back and forth in my mind about my true intentions behind this. I think some of it comes from abuse, being mocked over it, being told I'm too small everywhere (by a past partner, ex-friends) etc etc. There's a lot to it, you are right. I feel like other women have put me down most about it in my life that kind of is what made me associate them with being 'womanly', as well as seeing it in media and so on.

I have been and am in therapy regarding the ED, and we have together determined it likely plays a part in this. My therapist suggested that once I 'fix' this, there will be something else. She could be right. But for me, if have come a long way since then and for the first time in a long time I am happy with my body as it is. I am grateful for it. It's just this one thing that really bothers me and I'm trying my hardest to just work through it mentally but I guess we will see. I appreciate this comment a lot. Thank you

Wow ok yikes a lot of horror stories!

For balance - I had mine done 8 years ago once breastfeeding out the way. I'd gone from a 32b to not even being able to fill an A. My chest was totally flat like a man, could see all my ribs. I also have broad hips so it was just such a bad look and I couldn't get any clothes to fit at all.

Went up to a 34C and never looked back. Obviously I did my research and got a surgeon with great results. Checked no outstanding claims or anything against him. Was meticulous on aftercare and wound maintenance (infections should be absolutely avoidable). They look great and natural as I didn't go big.

They totally changed my relationship with my body. I only wish I had them done years before.

I have been looking into it for a while but just still unsure. The procedure itself is what scares me, as well as people saying they've had infections and other horrible recoveries. I do think it would make me feel better, but I'm starting to question for how long before I think about the next procedure, as you have stated. I don't think I'd get addicted but then again I'm probably just being naive as I am rather insecure and impulsive lol.

Yeah that's one of my concerns, what if my financial situation turns dire and I can't afford it later down the line, or many other complications. Think I will wait this one out while I weigh up the benefits

Was replying to a quote here about having to have them redone later down the line etc but the quote disappeared, sorry

Interesting take, thank you for this. Skimming through the thread and can see many people not fully happy with their decision post-op. I didn't really consider all of these little things tbh so I'm glad I made the thread. In my head a boob job is just a quick answer to make my insecurity go away. But now thinking about all this idk if it would be worth it

I started to make peace with my smaller breasts when I started seeing more actresses with bodies like mine, particularly on Netflix. Dh has always liked my figure and been vocally appreciative but I always heard that as him saying what he thought I wanted to hear and it just made me feel more insecure. Then I stumbled on a fetish board one day, where men were talking about slim, small breasted women and it was the first time that I properly grasped that my body was both feminine and attractive.

That sort of unlocked something inside me. I was able to hear and receive dh’s compliments as well. It hurts a bit that I was with him for 12 years at that point, feeling the way I had every time he tried to admire me.

Now I’m not suggesting you go looking for a fetish site, but I’m sharing because you mentioned feeling childish and less of a woman, and it just seems like there might be room to explore those feelings first?

Ack I'm honestly beginning to have second thoughts. I think when I thought about it in my head for the last year it just made sense that it was the right thing to do. Loads of my friends have had them done and are so pleased with them I thought why not me as well. I read people's views on other sites and mostly all positive. Yet reading this thread and all of the little complaints people have I think would really annoy me, and I'd end up insecure about the implants (knowing me).

I also think it is in large part something im better off mentally working through, but after having been through so much I just wanted a bit of space from mental processing and to cop out on the easy option. Sounds stupid because it is, but it's what I actually was thinking. Now I just don't know.

What would worry me is implant illness. I’ve seen lots of women documenting their explant surgeries recently.

I would honestly love to lose all feeling in my nipples, I cannot stand them being touched after almost 4 consecutive years of breastfeeding. Never again!

Though this was my initial thought - I can afford it, so why not? Yet reading this thread I'm beginning to realise it could be a lot of hassle, potentially more than it's worth...

I’ve had 3, the last 10 years ago. One of the best things I ever did.

Yeah my only real concern appearance wise was them making me look fat. From the ED this is a big worry for me. I was hoping to only go up a bit though not majorly. Thanks for this though, I'm considering all of these comments in my decision

Yes I've had two.First one before dc and second one after.Research your surgeon.Id highly recommend Mr Moritt at Claremont Hospital Sheffield.

I was 30A before breastfeeding and didn't register on the scale afterwards. It did leave me really paranoid for several years, especially as fashion seemed very cleavage heavy at the time. So I understand where you are coming from.

I didn't want surgery but after a few years I accepted my body and it doesn't bother me at all now, if really is incredibly freeing when you just accept yourself as you are - it doesn't happen overnight though.

On the practical side - do consider seriously side effects such as them feeling artificial and numb in parts. Some women really regret having them for this reason.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

I’m 32B and I consider them the perfect size. Big boobs go saggy with age and hurt when you run.

It's wise to be concerned that once you start doing such things, it can become more normalised.
And I'm sure your breasts are absolutely fine. Mine are a similar size and a wee bit saggy but I'm not tying them round my waist! 🤣
Having small ones is good in many ways and you may regret how it changes the proportion of your body. And how you feel and move.

Either way, you don't 'need' surgery. But if you do go for it do so with all the knowledge possible.

Yes this is true, I've just been saying to someone else that while I am working through it in therapy, I'm also working through a lot of other trauma and honestly cba with all the mental processing right now. Been in for years. It sounds like such a cop out but I feel like it would just be a quick way to make me feel a bit better. I know the right thing to do would be to work through it in therapy and deal with the mental side of things instead. I think I will try at this first and see if I still feel the same. I'm just not sure I'm willing to give it an awful lot of time. Thank you though

OP I just read you're 5ft 1 and size 6 - me too!

Just thought to come on and mention that my big post breastfeeding boobs actually looked awful on my frame, really matronly and "mumsy" and I looked quite out of proportion/short and stout. They got smaller about a year pp but at 30F or 28G they definitely make me look "older" than when I had tiny boobs pre pregnancy.

I still probably prefer them bigger but just a warning to not go too big and also big boobs do make you look less slim.

If you are small and slim don’t get bigger boobs. Slim with small boobs is a great look.

Thanks for this - I have been thinking I can imagine myself being miserable after having them done, knowing me. You sounded very similar to how I feel now - like I just wish they were a bit bigger to look better in clothes, feel more confident etc. Such a mixed bag of comments it has given me so much to think about. Thank you for sharing, I do appreciate it