AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

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Is this unreasonable?
Apparently "every other mum" is letting their school year 9 kid watch the 1am match tonight and phone in sick to school tomorrow morning then go in at lunch.
I've said no to staying up to watch it. Starts at 1am, it will go on till 3:30am, or later if extra time!
DS has to get up at 6:30 for school.
DH says let him, keeps going on about once every 4 years experience, it's only 1 night, etc. And he says it will be the final England match - they'll be knocked out by Mexico tonight so there will be no other England games to watch after tonight.
DS badly needs his sleep and at 14 he still needs a solid 11 hours to function.
Is anyone else letting their DC watch it live tonight?
AIBU?

None of mine give a rats arse about footy and we’re in Wales anyway but if they did this is not a hill I would choose to die on if I was you.

My year 9 will be watching it! No one will die, a day of tiredness will cause absolutely no harm whatsoever. He’s 14 - he will survive and if he has a crap, none-productive day at school - so what?

I agree. It's costly as well to shut things down. It is not the end of the world to go in tired, fgs.
Just go to bed after dinner and set your alarm for 3am. 🤷‍♀️

I think as a one off, in the last week of term you should absolutely let him stay up.

If you’re into football, you always remember the World Cups from your teens - this will be a core memory for their generation, and if this is the year we win they’ll literally never stop talking about the 2026 World Cup! Don’t rob him of that memory.

One night of disturbed sleep won’t hurt.

Why are pps saying it’s a one-off? If we do win, however unlikely that may be, there’ll be another match. And many other World Cups.

I’d probably have let mine watch around the Y9 mark, they played a lot of sport and were used to unsociable hours for fixtures up and down the country, but I don’t think it’s unreasonable for parents to say no, not this time, for one football match. As for it being an official day off… please.

Yup this is our plan - everyone in bed for 8.30, up at 12.45 then hopefully another couple of hours after the match.

Yes, If let him watch it but he'd have to go to school as normal. Perhaps go to bed at 9 then get up for the match, back to bed after

Mine is staying up to watch and has been told in no uncertain terms he will be going to school at the normal time

Honest to God, how can one night hurt?

No: https://www.bbc.co.uk/sport/football/articles/cvgmz3jyq9qo

And I'm Welsh and I know this!

World cups are every 4 years.

Let him watch it if he wants to!

We were all awake for a few hours during the night in the huge thunderstorms a couple of weeks ago and all survived. People get up early/miss sleep to get early flights for holiday. It’s one night and he’ll survive.

I’m planning on trying to get a couple of hours sleep before the game, a couple more hours after and then a slightly earlier night on Monday.

Just be warned that, as the game is not being brought forward, if the predicted storms hit the game may finish a LOT later than 3am. If they go off for lightning they have to wait at least half an hour from the last lightning strike before they can come back out.

As a teacher , I am not looking forward to tomorrow, must say.

Tired kids are not a malleable and easy to teach as many might think.

I have year 12 first thing , followed by year 9. Fun times.

My DCs are all staying up. It’s England in the World Cup.

You say he needs a solid 11 hours of sleep a night, and has to be up at 6.30 for school.

Has he got a7.30 bedtime normally then?

I’d also be letting him, to paraphrase another poster ‘he’s 14 not 4’.

Perfect chance here to teach about choices, resilience etc... its ok to stay up as a one off, but you still have to function the next day....get up as normal and go to school.
Its a cop out to ring in sick, lie in and go in later....if he wants to stay up fine, but he has to manage the next day and get an early night on monday....great life lessons for work.

My kids have learnt this from a young age with their shows and competitions - sometimes a full on weekend, lots of late nights, even on the sunday, but they still go to school on the Monday.....

We also had this last year when we went to the F1, very full on weekend, 50,000 steps over 2 days, late nights camping etc, back late Sunday night, still up for school. Yes we were tired and groggy but we managed and slept great monday night....the memories and buzz drag you through....my youngest was only in reception too....

Yes we can have fun but that doesnt diminish our responsibilities or commitments, I see it as setting them up for life

Is he a football fan? Has he been watching the other matches? If so yes I'd let him.

If he's just jumping on the band wagon for this one game to say he's stayed up most then night then no.

I’m letting my 14 yo. Wake up just before the game then back to sleep when it finishes. I’m letting him go in at half 10

Oh for goodness sake he's 14 and it's one football match not 10 lines of cocaine! I'd let him have the option of either stay up and watch it or wake up early and watch it on catchup but he will not be missing school for this. You'll be throwing cold water on him if needed to get him up for school and he needs to suck it up.

I don't belive in calling in sick. He's almost an adult and adults don't have the option.

I would definitely have allowed my children to watch the match if they were still teenagers. It’s these memories that they will remember forever.
Also unless you live away from pubs,streets etc there will be a lot of noise outside!
One shit nights sleep really isn’t a big deal!

It’s the last 16
Its not like it’s the final
While staying up till 3 to see them knocked out won’t kill him he could watch highlights on catch up before school and pretend he saw it live

I let my younger ones stay up in Scotland for our 2am game, but we had a day off school. I don’t care much for football but it was such an event! I agree with others at 14 that he should be able to do this and suck up the fatigue, I wouldn’t let him stay off though so just try to sleep around it and let him feel tired, he’ll manage.

I’d let him stay up on the caveat he goes to school - nap this afternoon to see him through.
My adult DD went to bed at 4am last night after clubbing and got up at 7.30 to go to work.
DH is going to the pub which is round the corner from his office - I said he may as well go straight to work!!

My 10 year old got up for the Scotland game. Went to bed at 9, got up just before 1 and then went back to bed! He was still up as normal the next day just went to bed earlier in the night