AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

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Is this unreasonable?
Apparently "every other mum" is letting their school year 9 kid watch the 1am match tonight and phone in sick to school tomorrow morning then go in at lunch.
I've said no to staying up to watch it. Starts at 1am, it will go on till 3:30am, or later if extra time!
DS has to get up at 6:30 for school.
DH says let him, keeps going on about once every 4 years experience, it's only 1 night, etc. And he says it will be the final England match - they'll be knocked out by Mexico tonight so there will be no other England games to watch after tonight.
DS badly needs his sleep and at 14 he still needs a solid 11 hours to function.
Is anyone else letting their DC watch it live tonight?
AIBU?

Not a decision I have to make as my children are not interested in watching football, only the results 😆

That said, some of their friends are staying up to watch it but have said they are going to bed early Sunday, setting their alarm for the match and then a quick few hours kip after. Still going to school on time the next morning.

Why not go to bed at 7pm and get up at 3:30am, watch the game then go to school?
Why don't all of you do that, make an event of it that way? Breakfast, snacks, juice, coffee etc???

Looks like FIFA U-Turned on moving the match and it is back to original kick off.

Slowly backs out if thread

I would have had the same dilemma when mine were that age. We’re not a football family by any means so it would just have been to keep up with peers. But I think that’s a good enough reason on this occasion.

Definitely no to calling in sick. There will be others whose parents made them go to school so they can be miserable/celebrate together.

A bank holiday at less than a weeks notice would have been a nightmare- people have work planned/ meetings / appointments etc. Rejiggljng it at short notice would have been very difficult. Tourist attractions likely wouldn’t have enough staff and supplies for a bank holiday.
what if you had a much waited for doctors appointment, would you be happy to have that moved

Let him watch it. He will be knackered for one day it’s not the end of the world. He will go to bed early the next night and be fine by Tuesday.

He's 14 and needs 11 hoursof sleep!!?

11 hours of sleep at 14???

I think it’s unkind to stop him. If he’s tired he’s tired. So be it. It’s not like he’s driving or performing heart surgery the next day. He’s a child who is interested in a national sporting event. What would you rather he was interested in?

My DS is also Y9. Of course he's watching it and so are all his friends. On Monday he has lessons for 3 subjects he is dropping next week anyway (not doing for GCSE) plus PE. But even if it was maths and English, they're about to start the GCSE course and anything covered now will be repeated umpteen times before the exams anyway. Y9 is the perfect year to have a late night!

I’m really over it now. My teen wants to stay up or wake up for it which is fine, I’m not going to stop him and it’s his own problem if he’s tired tomorrow. But I can guarantee he’ll get up, loudly go for a wee, probably get a drink, slam a few doors and I will be woken up too. My work haven’t offered a later start tomorrow but even if they did I wouldn’t be able to lie in because my pre schooler needs taking in for 8:30. I need my sleep and I know tomorrow will be awful.

It’s just such a pain. But saying all this if he wants to he can because it’s a one off and I don’t want to control him like that.

Agree he can stay up providing he has a sleep/rest in the afternoon with no screens or distractions…….don't mean that as a punishment but it will help him relax and he might get some sleep.
Make sure everything is ready for school before kick-off and send him to school at the usual time.

So he goes to school on time on less sleep.

What’s the worst that can happen?

People book holidays that require interrupted sleep to travel, mine went on a school trip to the WW2 landmarks and left at 4am, did many scouts adventures including (not) sleeping in shelters they built,

He’ll be tired, come home, get early night and back to normal.

You will smother him into helplessness.

The age group needs 8-10. Eleven isn't unusual, especially if very active.

I’d let him stay up for this one night.

it changed back I think

I actually cannot understand the hype over the fucking football its just a bloody game?!!

My kids will not be staying up to watch it, there really are waaaaaay more important things in life than a football match, jeez.

Its not even the final or semi final for pity's sake!

The 'every other mum' is probably a lie, that all the other children in his class are using.

In any case, England will lose, so why subject him to misery.

Hid he’s 14 ! He can choose to stay up and knackered for ONE day.

you sound like a controlling killjoy

This. It's crazy.

This

I don't think I know or know of any 14 year olds who sleep 7:30pm to 6:30am as would be required given his getting up time?

Lots of activities for 14 year olds (e.g. explorer scouts) wouldn't even start til 7pm. I'm pretty sure our cub group for 8-10 year olds used to run til 8pm and scouts (10-14) til 9.

If his dad is staying up anyway, I’d allow it, as long as he knows he has to go to school as normal. It’ll be a great memory for him, and something to share with his friends.

It’s crazy. Let him go to bed. And anyway England will probably lose as the high altitude is against them.

It is extremely likely to be the last game that England play in the 2026 World Cup, yes.