AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

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Is this unreasonable?
Apparently "every other mum" is letting their school year 9 kid watch the 1am match tonight and phone in sick to school tomorrow morning then go in at lunch.
I've said no to staying up to watch it. Starts at 1am, it will go on till 3:30am, or later if extra time!
DS has to get up at 6:30 for school.
DH says let him, keeps going on about once every 4 years experience, it's only 1 night, etc. And he says it will be the final England match - they'll be knocked out by Mexico tonight so there will be no other England games to watch after tonight.
DS badly needs his sleep and at 14 he still needs a solid 11 hours to function.
Is anyone else letting their DC watch it live tonight?
AIBU?

Have I missed something?! It's not the final is it???
So glad we're not a footy house 🤣

We will all be watching 👀⚽️🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🥳 Come on England! ❤️

11hrs sleep…he surely doesn’t go to bed at 7.15pm???

100% I’d allow mine to stay up…except I’m in Scotland so there’s no need 🤣

my 7yo stayed up for the 11pm games Scotland played and got up for the 2am one and went back to bed.

Send him to bed and wake him for the match? Or he stays up and he has to suck up being very tired tomorrow because it’s school as normal OR he stays up and you allow him to stay off tomorrow

He needs a solid 11 hours sleep & he gets up at 6:30am. 14yo goes to bed at 19:30 every night - really?

We're team, early to bed, get up & watch, back to bed and power through for the day in our house (years 10 & 6) - def not phone in sick/go in late but dad's friends seem to not go in at ths drop of a hat so I can well believe that lots are doing this.

You are being unreasonable. He will probably be the only one in his class. My nephew's are in year 7 & 8 and have gone to bed now and are getting woke up for it. They're very excited.

Not soccer but I can vividly remember our American football crazy, mid-teenage daughter staying up until the early hours to watch the Superbowl when her team was in it. That was nearly 40 years ago. We wouldn't have dreamt of saying she couldn't 😉She still got up for school next morning.

Of course let him watch. I hope you've reconsidered now. He can sleep 9pm-1am. And again 3-6.30am. 1 night won't hurt. Although reading that he'll be up on.his own without you or his dad so maybe it'll lose its excitement?

Let him stay up, it’s a one off and end of term anyway.

Oh, it's so much more than that, @Hattermadness, it's the equivalent of the moon landing. Apparently there's never going to be another WC, or England will never get to the last 16 ever again, so denying your children to watch this once-in-a-lifetime historic moment is a terrible thing to do.

I think a 14 year old should be able to watch it, but find all the posts about 'core memories' and how unmissable this not even the final match is is frankly ridiculous.

Maybe if we stopped all being a bit silly about it, it wouldn't be this big of a deal to the kids.

My son’s school is showing the match at 9am on Monday morning. We’ve to send him in wearing a footy kit and they are making a football breakfast for all kids wishing to watch the match. We just hope to keep the result a secret for them, he’s in year 6 and leaves in a few weeks.
Other son in year 10, email from
his school saying it would be unsuitable keeping students up so late and they hope we make the responsible decision of making sure they go to bed at normal time so they can come into school ready to learn on Monday. Mine won’t be staying up and neither will we but schools need to hit their attendance targets don’t they!

15 year old and 11 year old setting alarms to get up here. Plus it’s the end of the summer term. The least important few days of the school year!

Let him do it and see how tired he is tomorrow. A life lesson about why you shouldn’t always have what you think you want

Nope my year 9 son is going to bed normal time and he said if they some how win he will just watch highlights online. However looking at the weather in Mexico City there is a good chance it will be delayed and he might see some before school

No, you're doing the exact right thing. Parenting isn't convenient and your child's job is education, not watching a bunch of man-children millionaires flopping around the pitch at 0100 in the morning

Don't ask anyone what they think. They have no investment in your children or their future.

Quite likely the final for England given the circumstances, sadly, but you never know!

It’s one day. Let him stay up, he’ll live.

You're not being unreasonable in that I don't disagree with you, but I think the PP that suggested waking him up for the match then straight back to bed was spot on. I'd follow their advice!

This whole situation is ridiculous. What on earth is going on? It's bluddy football. I find the situation regarding football unendurable at the best of times, but it really has now gone mad.

I'm sure that my ex will refer to it as 'an important game', but every football match was 'important' to him.

It's total bollox. Do not allow your children to be ruled by it. Perhaps take them to the Bayeux Tapestry exhibition instead where they can get some worthwhile education in their history and the development of humanity.

I’m letting my 10 year old! Only happens once every 4 years. We are bringing our duvets down and memory making!

I'm with you on all of this. Send him to school totally knackered, He won't want to do it again.

(an ex secondary school teacher)

Sorry, that was mean on your DS but you get my drift.

Consider this - who is going to need to look after your son tomorrow? Is he going to give the teachers a hard time because he can't cope with lack of sleep with SEN? If the answer is yes, you are correct in not letting him stay off. If simply he is going to just be a bit tired, then wake him up to see the game. If he goes to bed at 8.30 he will already have had 4.5 hours sleep then another 3.5 hours post match - not masses but still enough that a 14 year old should otherwise be able to cope with. Who knows? If he takes a quilt and pillow to the living room he might just fall asleep anyway in front of the TV.

My 12 year old is, he's off to bed at 8pm and will be woken up at 12.45 and then back to bed after! It's not a final, but he absolutely loves football!

Only on mumsnet can a parent who dares to say no to their child be called controlling.

My DS is 15 and asked, jokingly, if he could watch the match. I chuckled and before I could even say no, he told me he knew the answer. My son also has SEN and need a good 9 hours sleep. He can watch England's crappy performance on catch up after school.

Its not even a semi-final. It is also nowhere near the same league as a lunar landing or eclipse which others have alluded to. SMDH

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dont be an uptight fun sponge - it could be a wonderful memory its not like he is operating heavy machinery the next day

i am a teacher ( who will not be staying up ) i have planned a whole day of easy non taxing lessons for those that turn up

Sorry, am dominating here for a second. I can't believe the way in which this thread has developed, even for Mumsnet. So much shit, judgement and ridiculous preconceived ideas.

Do your thing OP. Do what you believe is right for your child.

Unbelievable.