AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

[BlackTulipss]

Is this unreasonable?
Apparently "every other mum" is letting their school year 9 kid watch the 1am match tonight and phone in sick to school tomorrow morning then go in at lunch.
I've said no to staying up to watch it. Starts at 1am, it will go on till 3:30am, or later if extra time!
DS has to get up at 6:30 for school.
DH says let him, keeps going on about once every 4 years experience, it's only 1 night, etc. And he says it will be the final England match - they'll be knocked out by Mexico tonight so there will be no other England games to watch after tonight.
DS badly needs his sleep and at 14 he still needs a solid 11 hours to function.
Is anyone else letting their DC watch it live tonight?
AIBU?

DH is leaving for work at 05.30 in the morning, he has gone to bed and I will get him up for the match, so if it’s a late kick off due to weather, he can have a longer sleep. He won’t bother going back to bed after the match.

DS and DD1 have already finished school and college, they are night owls, so will be up. I work nights, but not tonight, so I’m used to sleeping when I can.

DDY9 loves football, so she is going to bed at 21.00, I’ll wake her for the match. She has a lift to school in the morning so doesn’t need to get up until 08.00, she’ll be fine, probably won’t even feel tired until she gets home. She will go to bed early tomorrow if she needs to.

When high school do school trips that return late, the kids always have to be in school as normal in the morning. My DC like a nap, so are pretty adaptable when needed.

We are so much not a football house that I was baffled by the message from school announcing that it’s normal school hours on Monday. As in had no idea who it might not be.

But that said I’d probably tell my teenage DS that if he woke himself up and got up to watch it, then went to school without complaining the next morning, then that would be his decision and at his age he is allowed to try out things like that.

the morning I found it hard to wake him then realised he’d gamed in the night, the “punishment” was to get up and get on with the day without complaint. Any complaint and we works have talked about alternative consequences for poor choices.

God let him live. It's one night. Make a big deal of it. Then if they win, he'll have a great memory to look back on. 'I remember when Mum & Dad let me stay up to watch England beat Mexico...on their turf. Good times'.

If they lose it'll be flushed from his memory like it never happened.

@BlackTulipss Is there a class WhatsApp? You can soon find out if Everybody Is Staying Up
Or, tape the match and get him up at 4:45 am to watch it before school
Or, just be a parent and say No

It is a one off so I’d let him. I’d say he has to go to bed at the usual time and set an alarm and watch it in bed, if that’s what he wants to do. Then there’s a real possibility the alarm will go off and he will realise he’s too tired to actually get up and watch or he’ll get up, watch, and fall back asleep in front of the TV during half time. And if he does watch the whole match, so be it! He may find it’s worth feeling groggy tomorrow.

Yes - good idea he can fast forward all the breaks and half time! I’d be doing this.

I bet a lot of these kids staying up will fall asleep and miss it anyway!

i do think a lot of people have had a long nap today - roads and streets have been eerily quiet!

We are away with a 2 hour ahead time difference. They had a nap this afternoon and will be up at 3 to watch it. Obviously we don't have to be up in the morning BUT we would have let them stay up if we were home (year 7 and 10). I would have been staying up and I leave at 6am for work. We would have gone bed early and woke up at 0030 and gone to bed after for a few hours. It's a one off. I wouldn't have let them call in sick/go in late though. Part of life. Want to do something, deal with consequences.

Get a grip! It's a football match!

I wouldn’t unless he is allowed to sleep in. Ten hours a night is within normal range for a teenager.

Honestly OP it’ll be the ruin of him having one nights disturbed sleep!

He’ll fall behind in his studies, important time of year July in schools, big teaching time,

He will forever remember it, the year he couldn’t watch the game!

Id suggest, you all get up and watch it together.

Early nights them alarms set and “make memories”!

All these ‘fans’ saying this will be England’s last match - it’s Mexico, not bloody France we’re playing. England have outplaced Mexico in the last however many world cups 😂

Just have the day off!! If he's got great attendance I don't see the point in rigidly adhering to rules for the sake of it. It's a one-off. Why push the kid and send him in at the normal time. Can't people just be kind and let the kid have a special moment. He'll remember it forever- that one morning I was allowed to sleep in because it was the world cup - and my Mum was cool with it.

You know there’s 2 weeks left of school? What do you imagine he’s going to miss out on? Let His dad sit up with him. It may be the last game that England play in this whole thing; he can sleep during the summer holidays.

I’m an absolute control freak for wanting my kids to have the right amount of sleep, but this is such a rare occurrence. I absolutely would let him just this once.
I’d ask him to go to bed a bit earlier (like, now) and set an alarm for 12:30am and let him decide if he wants to go ahead with the plan when he wakes up.

If you would let him be up at that time to catch a flight for a family holiday, then let him be up for the football. One bad night's sleep isn't going to ruin his future. If you make him go to bed and miss out, he won't forget that. He would probably watch it on his phone in bed anyway. Let him enjoy it with his dad.

There is no way he isn't gonna know the result by 9am. Absolutely pointless in my opinion that the schools are doing this.
We have had a pass agg email from my daughter's school which I am dutifully ignoring 😅

Unless he has something critical going on or has missed a bunch of days already for illness, just let him have fun.

For everyone who says it's not a big deal to let a child lose sleep and hinder his education.Guess what's not a big deal.

Football.

And anything and everything that has to do with football. Also, your children's education per your opinions.

Unless he is a very bad attender just let him stay up and go in at lunchtime or have the day off.

One day tired “hinders education” I think not!

And this

And anything and everything that has to do with football. Also, your children's education per your opinions.

Makes no sense whatsoever!

Why not record it and get up at 6am to watch it before school? Same outcome, less disrupted sleep 🤷‍♀️

Let him stay up and drag his tired self into school the next day. Are 14 year olds really so precious that they can't cope with one night's interrupted sleep without scuppering their entire education?

We are going to be early at 9 (12 and 15 year old) then getting up for the game and then going back to sleep. I would let him as a one off.

Let them watch. Bed first then get up. One of my best childhood memories was a world cup game. No idea if I was sleepy in school. 100% remember my dad's reaction. Its just once. Make it clear this is a one off then be the hero.

I would let him if he's year 9.

I don't think my two teenagers are particularly bothered about watching it live so they'll most likely watch it on catch up before school. If they wanted to stay up though they could as long as they made it in to school for 9am.

My 9 year old, however, would have loved to stay up. I had been planning to let him but I now have a job interview tomorrow and he has to be at school early for a school trip so he will have to make do with watching it before school on catch up.