AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

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Is this unreasonable?
Apparently "every other mum" is letting their school year 9 kid watch the 1am match tonight and phone in sick to school tomorrow morning then go in at lunch.
I've said no to staying up to watch it. Starts at 1am, it will go on till 3:30am, or later if extra time!
DS has to get up at 6:30 for school.
DH says let him, keeps going on about once every 4 years experience, it's only 1 night, etc. And he says it will be the final England match - they'll be knocked out by Mexico tonight so there will be no other England games to watch after tonight.
DS badly needs his sleep and at 14 he still needs a solid 11 hours to function.
Is anyone else letting their DC watch it live tonight?
AIBU?

It’s probably a majority of the country who will be tired at school and work, including the teachers! So on this occasion, yawning in class will be excused.

The schools are expecting it. It's not like they're going to be tired and unfocused at school, and the teachers are going to be calling/emailing saying they don't understand why they're not themselves today. Everyone is going to be in the same boat, teachers and kids. Might as well go with the flow and let them watch it, then go to school a bit tired at the usual time

Let the kid stay up, I’m on dad’s side with this. He’s right we will get knocked out and it’s not like it’s a common occurrence. My kids can watch it if they want too.

My Y9 DD plans to go to bed and then wake up at 1am to watch. DH has already had his afternoon nap so he can make it.

I’m letting my two watch who are slightly younger. Bed from 8pm to 12.45am, wake up for the match and straight to bed afterwards.
No time off school.

Nope my kids will be fast asleep and at school on time tomorrow.

A couple of weeks ago we had a mahoosive thunderstorm which was very very noisy and lingered around all night, everyone I've spoken too said their kids were woken by the noise and didn't get any sleep that night and were very tired. So the kids had to go to school after being up nearly all night looking at the lightning. They all coped and caught up on sleep the next night, so that wasn't a question of letting them stay up, it was the weather. Kids managed a night of thunder and they'll manage a night of football. I'd let your 14 year old stay up as he won't want to be the only boy in school who didn't watch the footie and the other kids will mercilessly make fun of him

feel sorry for all the teachers tomorrow trying to tackle a room full of sleeping kids

I'm not into football at all but my DS (15, Yr 10) is staying at his dad's tonight so they can stay up and watch the game. He'll be shattered tomorrow but I won't deny him the opportunity to watch it, make some memories, and join in all the chat about it at school tomorrow. I'd hate him to feel the odd one out. And yes, I always take the 'but everyone else is doing it' stuff with a pinch of salt, but on this occasion everyone else will be doing it! (Except for me, I'll be happily sleeping 😴 😅)

When I was 14 it was decided i was old enough to set my own bedtime. If he wants to watch the match let him but not at the expense of school, tell him you still expect him to be up and ready as usual, no calling in sick.

My y9 is watching it. He's had a sleep this afternoon, will go to bed normal time, wake up for the match then have a sleep when it ends.

My 7 year old stays up later than that on a typical night. (Neurodivergent before anyone comes at me)

It's one night, let him ffs

My 12 year old is watching it with her dad and 17 year old brother, I have no interest so I’ll be tucked up in bed but she’s so excited I would feel terrible stopping her! She’ll be going to school at the regular time and no doubt will fall into bed tomorrow night.

Honestly I’m letting mine. All are ND. Ages 15/14/11. They’re all keen on the football. It’s once every 4 years. It’s the last two weeks of the summer term. If they’re a bit tired tomorrow i’m like so what. They’ll remember the experience as adults I am sure and that they were allowed to do it. I know it’s the kind of thing is remember from being a child. I however have no intention of watching it and shall be fast asleep way before 1am!

I’d let him him tbh.

My kids primary school is letting them go in late because they know all the year 5 and 6 will be. Year 9? At the end of term? Yes you are being unreasonable

Yeah. We will be going to bed for a couple of hours and setting an alarm. It just has to be done!

Earlier bed, get up earlier and watch recorded is what we're doing. Xx

These are the things people remember their whole lives! A day at school isn’t!

Let him stay up. It only happens every 4 years and the memories will last a lifetime. Still remember Italia 90 vividly when I was a child. It's a one off and I don't think one sleep deprived grumpy day will affect his education in the grand scheme of things.

Tempting to go to bed now. Get up at 10pm to Watch Brazil V Norway on ITV + 1. Then only a short gap until England game.

Compromise. Early early bed. Your husband wakes him 12:55.
If they’re losing badly at half time (eg 3-0) then bed. If they’re not, stay up.
get him to agree to an early bed time the rest of the week and no grumpiness.
life is about communication, respect, sticking to agreements. This is an opportunity to teach him about that.

My 15 year old will stay up and have to be at work experience at 9am! Honestly it’s once every 4 years and it’s a life lesson in staying up late and having to just get on with it the next day!!

Ask him to go to bed a bit earlier and set rhe alarm. He’s 14 and could leave home in two years if he wanted to. I’m soft but Îd probably let him have Monday off it’s the end of the year anyway.

its every 4 years and its clearly important to him, just let him stay up and go to school later.

Couldn't agree more Claudiebus.