To decline my friend’s bbq invite ?

[AleaEim]

I have a friend who is amazing however, I am not crazy about her friends or even her husband for that matter. She’s invited me to a bbq as she does every year and I think this time I will decline and just say I’m busy. I didn’t attend her birthday this year for the same reason. Anytime I have been out with her husband he doesn’t talk, doesn’t even say hello (she thinks he’s autistic but I get a snobby vibe from him). Her friends are just not my cup of tea and I struggle to find common ground, they’re quite reserved and middle class whereas I’m more chatty and have a very different job/ lifestyle to them. Some of them are on the obnoxious side and I just don’t have similar values. I have tried several times to enjoy their company at these gatherings but it’s getting to the stage I’m wasting a precious weekend day with people I don’t care for and I don’t have time for that as I work full time. Sometimes I feel I need to force myself to these things because i don’t have many friends left in my area (lots have moved out of the city) but surely I shouldn’t have to right?

Ok don't go then. This reads like yet another non event made up to incite a class debate anyway
incite? Invite? Oh you know what I mean 😂

I don't think there is anything controversial about admitting that it can be awkward to be the odd one out in a group for whatever reason. Some people have the charisma to socialise well despite it and some groups are better at including the outlier than others but let's not kid ourselves that this sort of exclusion never happens.

Mostly conversation, travel experiences, 5 star luxury hotel breaks in faraway lands, not a camping trip or a trip to Spain.
Food, discussions about worldwide cuisine, pension plans, rental properties, electric vs fuel 4x4.
When you drive a fiesta, have been abroad a handful of times on a budget, your fanciest restaurant experience is the local 3* restaurants, it stunts the conversation.
I am sure a middle class person would feel a bit outside listening to a group discuss their favourite holiday in Blackpool, sneaking beers in to save a few pound. They cannot relate.

I think you are confusing wealth with class. There can be a class divide but attitude to money/talking about money is more of a divider IMO.

You are confusing a wealth disparity with social class. And you must hang around with some incredibly dullards if they spend barbecues discussing their pensions, rental properties and what type of car they drive.

This is not solely my experience.
The question was asked, what’s the difference, in my opinion my answer is conversation and life experience.
Your reply was rude and dismissive.

What is so “amazing” about this friend?

Oh yes because middle class people are classy and never brag. 😳 The divider has always been about money since the beginning of the system.