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AIBU?

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AIBU to hammer on the walls when neighbours are noisy?

123 replies

Senso · 04/07/2026 19:58

I have neighbours who think nothing of putting on a washing load at midnight, and generally behaving utterly selfishly with regards to noise.

I have asked politely if they could be mindful. Their response was to let me know when they are going to do noisy activities, as though that makes it ok.

AIBU to take to hammering on the walls each and every time they annoy me? I have been doing this for a few days now.

The first few times, they knocked on my door to say that they were disturbed by my hammering to which I replied that they had disturbed me with their noise so I decided to do my own diy to co-ordinate with their noise.

This afternoon, they were playing loud music and so I started hammering. They knocked on my door but I ignored them.

AIBU?

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AmIrightAmIright · 04/07/2026 22:35

Oh god. I sympathise with the "fan" neighbour, because my neighbours also have one. It's like listening to one of those refrigerated lorries parked and idling on top of my ceiling all night. It's beyond annoying. I don't think you're being unreasonable, but that's maybe because both sets of neighbours make noise here, above me and below. So I know that sense of sick dread when you hear it start up...

MyLimeGuide · 04/07/2026 22:49

Senso · 04/07/2026 22:12

Bring it on! I welcome them to complain about my noise. I am literally only making noise when they are. Like I said, tit for tat. Doesn’t make me right I know. But it makes me feel a helluva lot better knowing that they are disturbed as much as they disturb me. I am fine with normal bay to day noise. But washing machines on at midnight is NOT acceptable when you are sharing a wall/floors

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You need to chill the F out. Get some earplugs etc.

50Balesofgrey · 04/07/2026 22:53

I live in a detached house. No neighbour noise. I would suggest you do this, or accept some noise.

cannibalfish · 04/07/2026 23:29

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Senso · 04/07/2026 23:44

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🤣🤣🤣

MN bingo!

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Senso · 04/07/2026 23:47

I pity the 14 yo you work with if that is the level of critical thinking you provide 😔

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DontTeaseMyDog · 05/07/2026 00:43

Senso · 04/07/2026 23:47

I pity the 14 yo you work with if that is the level of critical thinking you provide 😔

Go to bed OP.

She's not wrong, btw.

Senso · 05/07/2026 01:16

DontTeaseMyDog · 05/07/2026 00:43

Go to bed OP.

She's not wrong, btw.

You are wrong.

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myboyfriendisadokkaebi · 05/07/2026 01:33

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PenelopeJoanSterling · 05/07/2026 01:40

Senso · 04/07/2026 22:33

I’m not going to dignify the now hackneyed MC Hammer reference - we’re not looking to go into MN Classics - but I bid you all goodnight. The good, the bad and the unintentionally amusing.

And the hammering too, Mc hammer time,

Mumtobabyhavoc · 05/07/2026 05:46

Making noise early morning or late at night when you have shared walls is inconsiderate.

Maybe you need to break it down for them?🤨

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MyLimeGuide · 05/07/2026 07:30

Did the neighbours put the washing machine on at midnight last night OP?

Quine0nline · 05/07/2026 07:39

We got Rockwall insulation installed. 5 inches on the four walls adjoining the neighbours. Extremely little noise, and the insulation reduced the heating bills.
It cost £2000 and a wee bit of disruption whilst being done. Well worth it.

Missjonesandrigby · 05/07/2026 07:51

Mumtobabyhavoc · 05/07/2026 05:46

Making noise early morning or late at night when you have shared walls is inconsiderate.

Maybe you need to break it down for them?🤨

I think she's already trying to break the walls down, so perhaps not encourage her ? 🙂

Washingforweeks · 05/07/2026 07:57

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Jc2001 · 05/07/2026 08:22

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 04/07/2026 20:04

What makes you think you can decide how others live in their own home?

As a more general point, if you live in a terraced, semi house or in a flat, then you should have some consideration for your neighbours.

Overthehillmum63 · 05/07/2026 08:25

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 04/07/2026 20:04

What makes you think you can decide how others live in their own home?

Why bother posting this?

Mumtobabyhavoc · 05/07/2026 09:55

Missjonesandrigby · 05/07/2026 07:51

I think she's already trying to break the walls down, so perhaps not encourage her ? 🙂

My post was a bit too obscure...

"You can't touch this
(Woah, woah, woah, woah)
You can't touch this
(Woah, woah, woah, woah)
You can't touch this
Break it down"

U Can't Touch This/MC Hammer

I thought I was being clever. 😂🤷‍♀️
Failed. 🤦‍♀️

cannibalfish · 05/07/2026 10:43

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BMW58 · 05/07/2026 10:54

YANBU at all OP.

Much like bullies sometimes you have to meet like with like to get any resolution.

When I was renting a flat a downstairs neighbour incessantly played music loud with the bass turned up to the max. Stuff on my shelves was jumping FFS.

I spoke to him several times and he'd turn it down for a short while then back up another day.

I had enough so played classical music loud with the speakers pointing down so right through his ceiling. Ignored his knocking seconds later. Let it play for an hour.

No more heard from his place at all.

The funny thing is when he first moved in he came up, knocked and introduced himself, and asked me to tell him if he was too noisy..........I suspect he had issues wherever he went.

Wanker.

Keep going till they finally get the idea that if they want to be inconsiderate then so can you!

AlreadyBetty · 05/07/2026 10:58

There are better ways to get revenge that appear more innocent.

My friend had a neighbour who did yoga in the garden with lots of music at dawn every day.

Another friend had a neighbour who blasted out the call to prayer twice a day (he was at least Muslim but it was bloody annoying).

I would put your TV against the shared wall and turn on a loud pumping Zumba workout video whenever they run their washing machine at an anti social time.

LetMeGoogleThat · 05/07/2026 12:16

I'm glad you're not my neighbour. You need to coexist, not dictate how you feel they should live, in their home! This is the first step to being at war, and they'll probably escalate the noise now.

DontTeaseMyDog · 05/07/2026 12:51

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