To think one child is easy

[smooooothie]

Assuming NT, not unusually challenging … past a certain point parenting just one child feels really easy in a way multiple children don’t?

One is definitely easier
in so many ways including when they are older
Although We had one and then twins and we are still here, we survived. Weirdly much like the pain of giving birth it all starts to blur after a while

So I’m glad we had more than one

Do people not realise when you have more than one they can often ask and still expect you to always play with them? My youngest always asks me to play with them because her older siblings are both boys and aren’t interested in playing with her. Thats not exclusive to only children.

I didn't find school - post 4 - eaiser - I know it's partly the SEN, now know ADHD - and them being summer born. They all needed so much support and got so tired after school.

We also didn't get the golden years between 6 and 10 - mine still threw tantrums/had meltdowns.

I stil enjoyed them - instead of focusing on whether one or two is easier you have to find way to make it easier or at least cope-able.

We all did better if we went out at least in the mornings rather than being in house - so did that - more distractions and oddly even if they'd been arguing in house they often chose to be together. Also found noise eaiser outside or in bigger rooms.

Mine were close enough in age and got on enough that they were pretty much into same things most of their childhood and could learn to take turns and share though that was a process.

Dealing with one less child than usual is usually easier - as it's a lighter load to manage. I don't think my kids missed out by having siblings - they are late teens eldest 20 and they get on still and seem to like each others company chossing to visting each other at uni and hang out.

because you get to experience the joy of the relationships between the children and the love between them. I have too many children by mumsnet standards but I didn't want the semblance of hanging onto my old life. I wanted a life filled with kids!