To not attend a family christening because it’s the day before my daughter’s birthday and I’ve double booked 🙈
basically, that in a nutshell. My daughter (11, 12 in two weeks) goes to a drama class on a Saturday. I thought their end of term performance was the 18th, literally day before her birthday. This also happens to be the date of a christening on my in laws. For more complicated reasons, my in laws tend to send invites to my husband, and not me, and thus said invites are completely ignored until I found out about them and sort it out.
Anyway, I told DH about the supposed drama performance so he RSVP-d for himself and our two other kids, leaving me free to watch the dad. BUT what I hadn’t realised at the time is that the class is actually ending the week before because they kept it open for the first time in May half term. When I found this out I told the DH but he said just leave it, so something nice with our DD to make up for the fact we actually can’t attend on the actual last week because we’ve been given theatre tickets for my birthday 😂😂 (booked months and months ago, before DD even started the club).
The PILs have not taken this kindly. They’ve taken it upon themselves to check the dates ofthe class, and challenge us about why myself and daughter aren’t attending. They do this sort of stuff all the time but my DH doesn’t care when it’s me or someone else. Now my DH is in a talespin as he’s apparently blamed me for the mix up (fine, whatever, I don’t care) but refuses to back down. We could go but it’s a two hour drive there and back so it’s our whole Saturday gone. I’ve also booked a birthday lunch for my Dd at a place she’s always wanted to eat, but we never do as our severely autistic son wouldn’t cope there.
So we’re the arseholes because we didn’t correct a mix up but in all honesty, how do you resolve this without causing an all out war? It is an act of aggression of the in laws to challenge what we’ve said? We weren’t trying to cause a fight or be rude. We thought we were compromising. Help?