Should I dump my boyfriend because he won't stop eating crisps?

[Spicyseniorita7]

I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

Personally I think that you need to grow the hell up maybe you should just stay single

If this is annoying now it would be even more annoying to live with. It doesn’t sound as though you are compatible.

2 years in and you never pay for anything but moan when he eats a bag of crisps! You’re lucky he’s not dumping you, I would

Dumping someone decent, because they eat crisps too often and not the right type?? Coercive control the first thing on ppls minds, with no evidence or reason, other than someone paying for their partner (god forbid!!) And not being adventurous with food?!? Wow...what has happened to ppl and their firat world problems and assumptions...wish this is all i had to worry about in life...just WOW!! Have an actual word with urselfs and remind urselves what "real problems" are and then thank urselves lucky u obviously actually have any!!!

My gosh - this man sounds like my spirit animal! When you do dump him, send him my way 🤣

You don't like this habit? Fair enough, but it's not fair of you to ask him to stop, if it gives you the ick then you need to leave him and find someone you are more compatible with, you can't mould someone into how you want them to be

"Sophisticated crisps" - oh ffs!

Stop making up stupid excuses and dump him if you're not into him.

If it upsets you enough to write this post, it won’t stop bothering you and nor should it. Tell him how disgusted you are, especially when you get showered by spitty crisp crumbs. If he changes the habit, great. If he doesn’t, you have a decision to make

Your 7 months in and you have the ick from his habits, that won't change by the way just because your with him.

So just imagine when you move in together and you find yourself finding crisp packets not only in the bed but also down the side of the sofa or stashed somewhere else! this habit won't just disappear.

But dear, it's sounds like your just not that into him, so go find someone who can match your standards.

I once had to leave a venue because it smelt so overwhelmingly of beef Monster Munch, so YANBU. Unrelated but is your username deliberate @Spicyseniorita7 ? If so I think you're being a bit harsh on yourself, I hardly think 28 counts as senior.

i would cut all contact with him. Nothing worse than a guy eating crisps and you would be better off living on your own for the rest of your life than putting up with it.

"Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything but I don't like how he snacks so I'm asking strangers on the internet if I should dump him"

And you have the audacity to mention your history of 'dating disasters'. What a drama queen. Dump the guy, let him find someone who isn't psychotic and you can enjoy bring single forever. Win-win.

I certainly don't

This is what I was looking for. I had hoped it was a play on words for an older lady but it was giving me the ick.. 😂

He needs to move on. If that was my son I’d want him away from you. Seem happy to let him pay all the time though?
if u have the ick time to split he’s not gonna change. Not a great way to eat but …..

Maybe just communicate your feelings regarding hygiene and also food habits, see if he'd be willing to improve as long term you can't be with someone with such different health and eating habits.

His age and predeliction for fatty snacks suggest he will be becoming increasing tubby and, more importantly, unhealthy. During the 30s our metabolism begins to slow down and men experience unstable levels of testosterone which results in fatty deposits around the viscera. Men also start to lose muscle which means less calories are burned off. Perhaps you might talk to him about how you'd prefer to have a slimmer BF, and hope that your slimmer BF will be him rather than a someone else. Don't be scared to ditch him if he chooses not to make a few changes for you. Be clear with yourself about what you want and are prepared to tolerate. What is concerning is that at around 7 months in your relationship is stepping out of the honeymoon period and into a more durable set up. That may be why you have posted your question because it is about now that the rose tinted specs come off and you are having to work out if he is someone you want to stay with or not. His habit of eating more packets of crisps than you would like him to. First time away abroad together and you have noticed that unlike you he isn't keen on foreign food. If you find some of his eating habits 'disgusting' now I suggest that as time passes those habits will become wholly unnacceptable to you and you may end up despising him altogether.

That would wind me right up as well.. but I have a low tolerance for really strong smells so the pickled onion monster munch would send me over the edge. I think the slobbiness would make me want to dump him. Can’t abide a lazy man.

It's my dream to eat pickled monster munch all day - the way your tongue tingles afterwards is delicious.

However, the not washing his hands and bag popping is indeed gross.

He sounds perfect,imagine being married to him and having to have a meal ready for him. just open the cupboard, one packet of wotsits, one of frisps and one onion rings, a three course meal in seconds, with the bonus of no washing up!

@Spicyseniorita7 Unless this man is literally godlike in other respects, I would recommend moving on. The ultra processed snack habit is horrible, and his holiday behaviour proves it's a deep habit. Marry him and your whole life will be cringe.

But he has been incredibly mollycoddled his entire life, has never really cooked a meal for himself and I had to show him how to use the washing machine. His mum does it for him usually (I didn't realise this until recently).

Big red flag.
Try renting together before you buy a house together, for at least six months. If he does even a tiny smidge less than 50% of the housework, or if he moans, sighs, asks for instructions, or expects you to be the 'manager' of housework, move back out and dump him.

Blowing up the bag and bursting it is what most 5 year olds would be reprimanded for and not do it again!

Oooh, he sounds like a P I G pig but, just imagine how he’ll feel when he discovers you’re a self sabotaging pain in the neck that finds fault in everything in the world. Best of luck.

If you don't like his eating habits, you are at liberty to dump him.