Should I dump my boyfriend because he won't stop eating crisps?

[Spicyseniorita7]

I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

Truth is you don’t like him and only either him for his money or because he likes you. Please let him go so he finds someone who likes him for who he is. Icks and all.

The eating British food only would bother me. I wouldn’t allow the crisp packet popping either as who’s hoovering this shit up? (Definitely not me)

@Spicyseniorita7 - yes I think you should dump your boyfriend. Not because of the crisps but everything else. When I was with my boyfriend, now husband, he could do no wrong. He had no faults and everything was amazing. I think he’s just not right for you.

Please break up with him..

He needs releasing from the uptight, crisp-choice judgment girlfriend of doom.

TEAM MONSTER MUNCH!!

But you don't have to eat them? The fact you think it's disgusting he eats skips etc as opposed to kettle chips?! Honestly what difference does it make? Except kettle chips are louder and greasier.

Tell him not to pop the bag all over you and put packets down the side of the bed. As obviously that's dirty.

But he may have arfid or something. Some people have very limited/childish seeming palates.

To me if everything else was good I couldn't dislike someone over eating crisps!

OMG OP I am crying with laughter.

I could easily eat fifty packs of crisps a day so I sympathise with the poor beggar but I draw the line at not washing his hands and then blowing up the pack and popping it, and as for the spread of the synthetic crisp dust LOL

I think you need to dump him and be aiming for a sophisticated kettle crisp eater who limits himself to one pack a day and washes his hands immediately

Sorry OP, this reads as quite funny, but I get what you mean. I did finish with a boyfriend once because he was eating a bag of pineapple chunk sweets and his breath smelt too sweet when we kissed, but I was only 15 at the time!

YABU OP
Good luck on your quest to find someone who doesn't irritate you in some way.
Fwiw, I don't hold out hope for this relationship longterm.
Take care

Salt cravings can be a sign of worms. Not joking. All adults should deworm once a year.

Yes, something is off here.

I could have similar crisp habits if I was left to my own devices so I wouldn't dump someone for this. But if its making you resent him and you can't talk about it, then I would suggest you finish it because it will only get worse and you'll probably find other things you don't like about him as well. Resentment is a total relationship killer IMO.

In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with preferring a man to pay for me and having traditional values.

he has been incredibly mollycoddled his entire life, has never really cooked a meal for himself and I had to show him how to use the washing machine. His mum does it for him usually (I didn't realise this until recently).

So you are happy to be a domestic servant to a man-child as long as he pays for everything?

Good luck! The crisps will be the least of your problems with this one.

So you want a man who treats you traditionally but you are shocked that same man is reliant on women to do basic things for him which is traditionally the way things are done.

sorry, but you need to reassess this mentality when dating as it might bite you in the arse when picking a life partner.

Well hon if you’re objective is a man who pays for you I’d suck up the crisp habit.

I love spicy nik naks. I also think kettle chips are crap.

what is his physique like, OP? I can’t imagine it’s very good when eating three packs of crisps a day.

Also, his breath…?! Can’t be too fragrant

Schoolboy habit that seemed dead cool when you were 12, carried on into adulthood. I can remember blowing up crisp bags too. But not as an adult.

I live by the saying "posh bubbles and cheap crisps"...

Really?

This!

Though I don't for one second think this post is genuine. Its comedy gold. The outrage at the munched crisps being nik naks rather than posh crisps, like kettle chips was a particularly masterful touch. Bravo OP!

There is about 5 crisps in each pack these days so 3 isn’t loads however the noting but crisps and McDonald’s on holiday would probably be a deal breaker! 😅

Yanbu to have the ick as that is all really vile tbqh. Yabu not to simply just bring this up to him. In any relationship there will be things you don't like, it's never going to go anywhere if you don't communicate your feelings and just dump them instead. Communication really is key

I don't think that crisp packets can be exploded as well as they could in th'olden days when they also had a blue twist of paper containing salt!

When they have them in I love to buy the garlic and herb bruschetta from Aldi, one of the most satisfying thin is once the packet's empty I cut off the top 75% and get a little spoon to get the wonderful garlicky crumbs from the bottom of the bag, I will then run a damp finger round to get the last bits!

It would be an awful lot more calories though. The little bags of skips, wotsits etc are essentially a few bits of flavoured air

If this is seriously about a crisp habit you're being ridiculous. The perfect person doesn't exist, everyone will have an annoying habit or 10, yes, even the one you end up with. I would be far more concerned about whether you align on the big things in life, job, kids, marriage etc etc those are what will become deal breakers if you get more serious. As long as he doesn't stop you enjoying the food you want to eat then his being a little uncultured shouldn't be an issue. Sounds like you need a little reality check here, you're being a bit of a princess. P.S have you tried asking him to stop popping the bags and putting crumbs everywhere?!