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AIBU to feel helpless about a large asylum camp in our village?

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putupwhatever · 29/06/2026 16:15

My village has been chosen for a 1500 open asylum camp for single men. It will be an open camp (as the men haven't done anything wrong so aren't detained.)

The thing is the village only has 700 people and it is pretty isolated. it's about 10 miles to the nearest city and you can walk to another small village. There is a playpark, a pub and a primary school.

It has to go through planning, but the government have changed the planning laws so that they grant themselves planning and you can't see it as it is deemed sensitive. So they will just grant themselves planning and you can't oppose it without a judicial review--by which time it will probably be already open.

They want to reduce the number of people in hotels. But am AIBU to think that this puts the burden of sorting these issues out on one tiny community? Feels like we are collateral damage to be honest. The community will be outnumbered 2 to 1 and it feels too much. There is nothing for them to do or places to go. Also the fact that it is all single men put in one massive place with no money or means or anything to do is going to lead to problems

Apparently the camps cost £10 less a night than the hotels. But they don't count the set up costs which are astronomical (the one in Essex was £47 million to set up). So it seems like it's not not even cheaper than the problem it is trying to solve but much more expensive.

AIBU to feel a bit helpless? It seems so unfair but there is nothing I can do. We wouldn't be able to move from the village anyway as no one would buy a house here.

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GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 22:53

What a nonsense, the reason why asylum seekers often find it hard to embed into a community is because so many people adopt the 'not in my back yard' mentality.

So this is why they sexually assaulted 1200 European women on one new year's eve in Egypt style mob attacks?

nomas · 29/06/2026 22:53

smallglassbottle · 29/06/2026 22:49

I want to know how many British goat shaggers there are.

Would David Cameron the pig shagger do?

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 22:53

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 22:50

The issue with this though is that you are forgetting that they are more likely to be exploited than they are to exploit anyone else. They are by nature transient? What a nonsense, the reason why asylum seekers often find it hard to embed into a community is because so many people adopt the 'not in my back yard' mentality. If you aren't prepared to get to know them and you're writing them off without giving them a chance then you are a large part of the reason why integration isn't working. (You meant in the collective sense not you personally op).

This is so unrealistic. What on earth is someone from a small English village even going to have in common with a poorly educated Eritrean, Sudanese or Afghani man? Why should anyone have to get to know people they don't want there in the first place?

Giggorata · 29/06/2026 22:54

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 22:52

You know there are churches in the UK where women are not allowed to speak to the church collective/ hold positions of authority and where abused women are told to humble themselves and defer to men as the spiritual head right? Any religion can be manipulated for nefarious purposes. So why only suspicious of one. Also you know many asylum seekers are Christian right?

Of course. All fundamentalists are dangerous.

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 22:54

EasternStandard · 29/06/2026 22:53

Would you welcome 1500 men nearby? Do you have DDs?

Yes I would actually have no problem with it. But then I work directly with this demographic so I guess I'm thinking of them as human beings rather than one homogeneous mass. How many asylum seekers do you know?

ISnoggedYourMum · 29/06/2026 22:55

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 22:50

Big difference between being imported and being trafficked.

They want to come here don't they? Risking the channel to leave France

WhatFreshHelll · 29/06/2026 22:55

@Lavender14 when people move in vast numbers they don't need to integrate do they ? That's a really fundamental part of the issue

nomas · 29/06/2026 22:55

Nope, a random blog is not proof.

Google it, it’s been disproven.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 29/06/2026 22:55

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:38

Who is making 'clever' people leave? Maybe they're getting out before Farage's reign.

Edited

Ya what.

Come On What GIF by MOODMAN
daisybanks · 29/06/2026 22:55

smallglassbottle · 29/06/2026 22:49

I want to know how many British goat shaggers there are.

😃😆

notnorman · 29/06/2026 22:55

SkaterGrrrrl · 29/06/2026 22:33

We went all over the globe for centuries, changing people's way of life, wreaking havoc and destruction while raping and enslaving people and stealing their gold, diamonds, resources and wealth. In Australia we threw in some genocide for good measure.

We told them that they were part of the British empire and made them learn English. Is it any wonder that sanctuary seekers decide to come to England? We forcibly invaded them, told them they were British and taught them our language after all.

‘Sanctuary seekers’

🙈🤣

Clavinova · 29/06/2026 22:56

SkaterGrrrrl · 29/06/2026 22:21

Are you for real? Read a history book.

"British imperialism and exploitation in Sudan dates back to the mid-1800s, intensified into 56 years of colonial rule and led to civil war and the deaths of hundreds of thousands, as tensions created by British imposition of arbitrary borders drove a legacy of exploitation and conflict that left Sudan impoverished and war-torn."

https://www.stopwar.org.uk/article/britains-bloody-hands-sudans-ongoing-nightmare/ www.stopwar.org.uk/article/britains-bloody-hands-sudans-ongoing-nightmare/]]]]

They are here because we were there.

Did the locals welcome us with open arms in Sudan in the mid-1800s or did they kick up a fuss and start throwing spears at us?

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 22:56

ISnoggedYourMum · 29/06/2026 22:55

They want to come here don't they? Risking the channel to leave France

Or trying to get into the back of my fucking campervan. I'd be the one to get fined if they were successful and spotted on the UK side, as well.

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 22:56

Giggorata · 29/06/2026 22:54

Of course. All fundamentalists are dangerous.

Right, but you must also recognise that most people are not fundamentalists. And a religious text alone cannot cause harm. And many people seeking asylum are leaving to get away from that extremism you are accusing them of endorsing. Have you any idea how insulting that is?

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 22:57

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 22:56

Right, but you must also recognise that most people are not fundamentalists. And a religious text alone cannot cause harm. And many people seeking asylum are leaving to get away from that extremism you are accusing them of endorsing. Have you any idea how insulting that is?

Many men. They seem happy enough for their female relatives to stay behind and suck it up.

Giggorata · 29/06/2026 22:57

I would agree if it were not for the sizeable number that want Sharia law.

daisybanks · 29/06/2026 22:57

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 22:56

Right, but you must also recognise that most people are not fundamentalists. And a religious text alone cannot cause harm. And many people seeking asylum are leaving to get away from that extremism you are accusing them of endorsing. Have you any idea how insulting that is?

And I have a bridge I can sell you....🙄

nomas · 29/06/2026 22:58

Cannybeme · 29/06/2026 22:48

@nomas is waiting for someone to quote a crime or statistic so they can offer a similar crime perpetrated by a white British male.

AHA! THEY DO IT TO!!

Anecdata deserves anecdotal responses.

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 22:58

WhatFreshHelll · 29/06/2026 22:55

@Lavender14 when people move in vast numbers they don't need to integrate do they ? That's a really fundamental part of the issue

Of course they do. How else would they work? Have you any idea how hard it is to exist in a country where you've no income? No language? That's an extremely vulnerable place to be in life. Every asylum seeker I've met bar none has been working hard to learn English and to integrate. The thing that holds them back is the reception they get and the blatant racism they face. People here need to take accountability for their part in integration failing.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 29/06/2026 22:58

5MinuteArgument · 29/06/2026 21:50

This is because so many British people are leaving.

This keeps getting pointed out to those who claim that net migration is down……but they ignore that and still keep quoting it on other threads.

JuliaBraverman · 29/06/2026 22:58

SkaterGrrrrl · 29/06/2026 22:33

We went all over the globe for centuries, changing people's way of life, wreaking havoc and destruction while raping and enslaving people and stealing their gold, diamonds, resources and wealth. In Australia we threw in some genocide for good measure.

We told them that they were part of the British empire and made them learn English. Is it any wonder that sanctuary seekers decide to come to England? We forcibly invaded them, told them they were British and taught them our language after all.

Britain, over 200 years ago, passed the abolition of slave trade act which pressured other countries to do the same. Yet it’s still all our fault and not those countries who have failed their people by making no progress due to corruption.

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 22:58

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 22:17

Threads like this are so frustrating. I was hopeful at the start that there might be a reasonable discussion about what a solution could look like, but it's just been taken over by people who want them all gone because 'culture' and 'they'reall criminals'. The fact is, whether you want it or not, the UK is not going to suddenly stop taking in all asylum seekers. It is happening, so it would be more productive to talk about how to manage it rather than just ranting about how you want it all to stop.

Whether you agree with her political stance or not, PP who talked about how it would be better to house them near her in a big city has spoken the most sense. Asylum seekers ARE coming here, so PP suggests it would be better to house them near to existing infrastructure rather than in the countryside.

It's a shame that these threads just get taken over by extreme views because it completely stops any balanced discussion of solutions that are grounded in our current reality.

It is not an extreme view to say that I do not want any more asylum seekers in the UK...and I want the ones that are here, removed as soon as possible le.

This has been foisted upon us by wineries of the UK. Either home grown or other atates; or a mis of the two.

Other countries, Pakistan for eg, just deport hundreds of thousands of people.

No one says a thing.

Stop telling us what we can and cannot do in our country. Where there is a will there is a way.

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 22:59

daisybanks · 29/06/2026 22:57

And I have a bridge I can sell you....🙄

How many asylum seekers do you know personally?

nomas · 29/06/2026 22:59

Giggorata · 29/06/2026 22:57

I would agree if it were not for the sizeable number that want Sharia law.

How do you propose Muslims get religiously divorced without a Muslim court?

Sikhs and Jews also have religious courts.

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 22:59

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 22:58

Of course they do. How else would they work? Have you any idea how hard it is to exist in a country where you've no income? No language? That's an extremely vulnerable place to be in life. Every asylum seeker I've met bar none has been working hard to learn English and to integrate. The thing that holds them back is the reception they get and the blatant racism they face. People here need to take accountability for their part in integration failing.

People don't want them here, and certainly have no responsibility to help their "integration".
If it's that hard for them here, I'm sure they'd be more comfortable in their home countries.

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