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AIBU to feel helpless about a large asylum camp in our village?

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putupwhatever · 29/06/2026 16:15

My village has been chosen for a 1500 open asylum camp for single men. It will be an open camp (as the men haven't done anything wrong so aren't detained.)

The thing is the village only has 700 people and it is pretty isolated. it's about 10 miles to the nearest city and you can walk to another small village. There is a playpark, a pub and a primary school.

It has to go through planning, but the government have changed the planning laws so that they grant themselves planning and you can't see it as it is deemed sensitive. So they will just grant themselves planning and you can't oppose it without a judicial review--by which time it will probably be already open.

They want to reduce the number of people in hotels. But am AIBU to think that this puts the burden of sorting these issues out on one tiny community? Feels like we are collateral damage to be honest. The community will be outnumbered 2 to 1 and it feels too much. There is nothing for them to do or places to go. Also the fact that it is all single men put in one massive place with no money or means or anything to do is going to lead to problems

Apparently the camps cost £10 less a night than the hotels. But they don't count the set up costs which are astronomical (the one in Essex was £47 million to set up). So it seems like it's not not even cheaper than the problem it is trying to solve but much more expensive.

AIBU to feel a bit helpless? It seems so unfair but there is nothing I can do. We wouldn't be able to move from the village anyway as no one would buy a house here.

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nomas · 29/06/2026 21:58

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 21:56

Nomas. It isn't working

You seem to be under the delusion that I would try to work something for you in any capacity. Not worth my time.

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 21:58

Livelovebehappy · 29/06/2026 21:54

I said ‘inhabited’, meaning no-one lives there……

Oh no...

'Inhabited' means people live there
'Uninhabited' means no one lives there

Livelovebehappy · 29/06/2026 21:58

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 21:55

Sorry, pedant alert, but that is "uninhabited". Inhabited means people do live there.
I do agree with your point though.

Edited

Yes, yes, I stand corrected. Maybe time I went to bed. It’s been a loooong day…

Nuthatch26 · 29/06/2026 21:58

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:55

Male depravity transcends borders. We should be against it everywhere, not just abroad,

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Killing_of_Natalie_Connolly

White male John Broadhurst killed his victim with multiple attacks, including by raping her with a bottle of carper cleaner in her vagina.

Why do this?
You keep bringing up crimes that have nothing to do with the op. I am against vawg anywhere in the world, which is why I don't want it to increase further in the country I live.

ISnoggedYourMum · 29/06/2026 21:58

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:42

Why would anyone send their daughter to Mogadishu, which the Foreign Office has currently classed as a war zone? You wouldn't even get travel insurance.

All war zones are verboten by the FO, including Ukraine.

Ah. Ignoring the question it seems.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 29/06/2026 21:58

ISnoggedYourMum · 29/06/2026 20:58

So the per capita data from our European friends means nothing then does it?

Yes nothing to see here.
Must be racist or watch GB news etc etc etc .

lightseeker · 29/06/2026 21:59

ThreadGuardDog · 29/06/2026 21:46

Do you live close to a migrant facility ? We do - a hotel. My 14 year old DSD and a number of her friends have to walk past it to get home from school. They are regularly followed by men from this facility variously offering money for sex and going into disgusting detail about what they would do to them, and berating them for not covering up their bodies. The police are largely useless, often treating complainants as racists.

Correct me if I’m wrong but as wrong as any sexist behaviour is, white van man doesn’t usually openly target underage girls in public. Stating that all men are a threat is the equivalent of saying ‘look over there’ as a distraction from the fact that we are allowing into this country men from violently misogynistic cultures, who deem it acceptable to marry children and who still allow women to be stoned to death. Men may be a risk per capita, but allowing men from these backgrounds into the country isn’t exactly helping is it ?

The point t is, my girls wouldn't be aware if they were walking past a migrant facility. The streets are busy - how would you know? There are all kinds of 'facilities' on the streets. All kinds of homeless hostels, etc. The ones I'm most worried about are mental health facilities housing men just out of secure psychiatric hospitals. Asylum seekers are just 'men on the streets' to us - no different to anyone else and not distinguishable. Creepy men come in all walks of life.

ISnoggedYourMum · 29/06/2026 21:59

Allseeingallknowing · 29/06/2026 21:43

Which is why we don’t need to import more in addition to our home grown ones!

@nomas can't seem to comprehend this

nomas · 29/06/2026 22:00

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 29/06/2026 21:56

One too many, you say.

Not completely unacceptable?

Eh? One too many means one is more than zero, so zero is the only acceptable number of rapes. By any nationality.

AuraBora · 29/06/2026 22:00

ThreadGuardDog · 29/06/2026 21:46

Do you live close to a migrant facility ? We do - a hotel. My 14 year old DSD and a number of her friends have to walk past it to get home from school. They are regularly followed by men from this facility variously offering money for sex and going into disgusting detail about what they would do to them, and berating them for not covering up their bodies. The police are largely useless, often treating complainants as racists.

Correct me if I’m wrong but as wrong as any sexist behaviour is, white van man doesn’t usually openly target underage girls in public. Stating that all men are a threat is the equivalent of saying ‘look over there’ as a distraction from the fact that we are allowing into this country men from violently misogynistic cultures, who deem it acceptable to marry children and who still allow women to be stoned to death. Men may be a risk per capita, but allowing men from these backgrounds into the country isn’t exactly helping is it ?

This is so sad to read. How awful for your DSd and her friends. They shouldn't have to put up with that. Just awful

JuliaBraverman · 29/06/2026 22:00

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 21:51

Honestly, I don't care whether they're black, white, yellow, magenta, believe they're a woman, believe they're a frog, etc. If they're demonstrating that they're a threat to the society whose taxes are accommodating them, and especially to women and girls, then they can GTFO. It's really that simple.

It really is this simple but it seems to have gone too far to reverse not just in UK but in whole of Europe.

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 22:00

ISnoggedYourMum · 29/06/2026 21:59

@nomas can't seem to comprehend this

He can... he is doing his job.

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 22:01

lightseeker · 29/06/2026 21:59

The point t is, my girls wouldn't be aware if they were walking past a migrant facility. The streets are busy - how would you know? There are all kinds of 'facilities' on the streets. All kinds of homeless hostels, etc. The ones I'm most worried about are mental health facilities housing men just out of secure psychiatric hospitals. Asylum seekers are just 'men on the streets' to us - no different to anyone else and not distinguishable. Creepy men come in all walks of life.

You should see parts of Glasgow now. These men hang around aimlessly and harass women (and more and more frequently, rape them). It's a big city but they're pretty obvious.
Some, at least, do Deliveroo. Illegal, but at least keeping busy probably keeps them out of trouble a bit.

catantanta · 29/06/2026 22:01

This thread has it all. People living in Knightsbridge saying that it's fine, actually. Supposed left-wingers talking about working class people holding unapproved opinions like they're shit on the ground. Vibrant (bingo), art projects (inevitably slop where they push the token smiling woman out to guilt people into pretending bad murals of people holding hands are great, actually), why don't you set up a community football team (is that the MN immigration thread equivalent of 'why didn't you buy her a creme egg'?).

catantanta · 29/06/2026 22:02

Also 'British men rape too' - yes, and we're stuck with them (and I'm extremely carceral in how I'd like those men to be treated) - what is the logic of bringing in more?

hairbearbunches · 29/06/2026 22:02

39% of British adults have less than £1000 in savings. We are giving a leg up to people who have the financial wherewithal to find the money to pay to get here, and then banging them to the top of the queue for state help over and above our own working poor.

the people we should really be helping and offering asylum to are the poor people stuck in refugee camps who have no means to change their circumstances at all.

The UK, with its ridiculous middle class liberal mea culpa ‘we must pay for the sins of our forebears’ absolute bullshit policy, is going to bitterly regret this madness in the coming years.

nomas · 29/06/2026 22:02

ISnoggedYourMum · 29/06/2026 21:58

Ah. Ignoring the question it seems.

I think if anyone needs it explained to them why asking whether a non-war zone is a better holiday destination than a war zone is a stupid question, then they don’t deserve an answer quite frankly.

ISnoggedYourMum · 29/06/2026 22:02

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:48

So which part was incorrect? Is Mogadishu not a war zone according to the Foreign Office?

And anyone who disagrees with you must be foreign and not British?

I actually knew a girl who solo travelled to Ukraine for "fun".

It's not impossible to go to Mogadishu. But VAWG is atrocious there..... Maybe we don't want those men here.

LakieLady · 29/06/2026 22:02

Dollymylove · 29/06/2026 19:44

Ask the Crowborough residents. Their properties are more or less worthless now

Really?

I need to downsize and Crowborough is one of the areas I've been looking in. I certainly haven't noticed any reduction in asking prices.

LuckyHazelFox · 29/06/2026 22:03

lightseeker · 29/06/2026 21:59

The point t is, my girls wouldn't be aware if they were walking past a migrant facility. The streets are busy - how would you know? There are all kinds of 'facilities' on the streets. All kinds of homeless hostels, etc. The ones I'm most worried about are mental health facilities housing men just out of secure psychiatric hospitals. Asylum seekers are just 'men on the streets' to us - no different to anyone else and not distinguishable. Creepy men come in all walks of life.

Where do you even start with this. In fact, I won't bother.

ISnoggedYourMum · 29/06/2026 22:03

nomas · 29/06/2026 22:02

I think if anyone needs it explained to them why asking whether a non-war zone is a better holiday destination than a war zone is a stupid question, then they don’t deserve an answer quite frankly.

Edited

Ignoring the sexual violence against women there it seems

Greywhitesparrow · 29/06/2026 22:04

I thought one of the reasons Polish people are returning to Poland is because Poland is thriving. Excellent benefits for families and decent healthcare.

LuckyHazelFox · 29/06/2026 22:04

nomas · 29/06/2026 22:02

I think if anyone needs it explained to them why asking whether a non-war zone is a better holiday destination than a war zone is a stupid question, then they don’t deserve an answer quite frankly.

Edited

Yet you're never short of answers.

Cannybeme · 29/06/2026 22:04

nomas · 29/06/2026 21:55

Male depravity transcends borders. We should be against it everywhere, not just abroad,

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Killing_of_Natalie_Connolly

White male John Broadhurst killed his victim with multiple attacks, including by raping her with a bottle of carper cleaner in her vagina.

@nomas Yes we get it. We have bad people born and bred here too. Unsure why you feel the need to highlight it?

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 29/06/2026 22:04

nomas · 29/06/2026 22:00

Eh? One too many means one is more than zero, so zero is the only acceptable number of rapes. By any nationality.

Edited

’one too many’ implies that there is an acceptable number of rapes and that that threshold is crossed.

I happen to think that no number is rapes is ever acceptable.

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