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AIBU to feel helpless about a large asylum camp in our village?

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putupwhatever · 29/06/2026 16:15

My village has been chosen for a 1500 open asylum camp for single men. It will be an open camp (as the men haven't done anything wrong so aren't detained.)

The thing is the village only has 700 people and it is pretty isolated. it's about 10 miles to the nearest city and you can walk to another small village. There is a playpark, a pub and a primary school.

It has to go through planning, but the government have changed the planning laws so that they grant themselves planning and you can't see it as it is deemed sensitive. So they will just grant themselves planning and you can't oppose it without a judicial review--by which time it will probably be already open.

They want to reduce the number of people in hotels. But am AIBU to think that this puts the burden of sorting these issues out on one tiny community? Feels like we are collateral damage to be honest. The community will be outnumbered 2 to 1 and it feels too much. There is nothing for them to do or places to go. Also the fact that it is all single men put in one massive place with no money or means or anything to do is going to lead to problems

Apparently the camps cost £10 less a night than the hotels. But they don't count the set up costs which are astronomical (the one in Essex was £47 million to set up). So it seems like it's not not even cheaper than the problem it is trying to solve but much more expensive.

AIBU to feel a bit helpless? It seems so unfair but there is nothing I can do. We wouldn't be able to move from the village anyway as no one would buy a house here.

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nomas · 29/06/2026 20:40

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 20:33

Men assault women in every country in the world. However, it's only in African and Middle Eastern countries that women get publicly gang raped in broad daylight by huge mobs of men. Imagine that happening on Oxford Street or Times Square!

You're comparing war crimes in Syria and Sudan with Oxford St?

Cannybeme · 29/06/2026 20:40

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 16:24

"The community will be outnumbered 2 to 1 "

This is a really unhelpful way to look at it and it kind of speaks to an 'us and them' mentality op. That part I would say really isn't a fair thing and is your exposure to stereotypes speaking. I've worked extensively with single asylum seeking males and ALL of them bar none have been nothing but respectful individuals who were really keen to learn English, learn our culture, build a home and a life for themselves so they could get female or elderly relatives to safety. Most of them were strongly opposed to any sort of extremism which is what they were often running from. I have never ever felt unsafe working with them in the way I have with some local men.

Aside from that I think you are right to be concerned about the impact on community infrastructure which is a totally separate issue. I'd be asking council for their plans around access to healthcare and services that promote health, wellbeing and inclusion.

What I would also say is that for a small village this will likely bring a lot of money to your local shops, volunteers for local charity groups and probably new visitors to your local churches. So your community, if they approach this right, will have the benefit of people with free time and skills/ abilities to lend which is
in real decline in the current climate.

Oh please. Her community will be outnumbered. There will be over twice the amount of residents attempting to use the local services. Not to mention the groups of men hanging around with nothing to do but smoke/drink/look for trouble.

WhatFreshHelll · 29/06/2026 20:41

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 20:33

Men assault women in every country in the world. However, it's only in African and Middle Eastern countries that women get publicly gang raped in broad daylight by huge mobs of men. Imagine that happening on Oxford Street or Times Square!

It happened at new year's Eve didn't it somewherenin Germany

LakieLady · 29/06/2026 20:41

MyKindHiker · 29/06/2026 16:52

Well I'm from London and have literally just posted it would be way better to have asylum groups here, for all sorts of reasons, not least that with a population of 8 million we can integrate bigger groups than other places. There is asylum housing directly opposite me and the residents are lovely.

I think it would be better if asylum seekers were accommodated in cities, too. I can see that it's cheaper to use redundant military facilities and similar sites, but the asylum seekers are more isolated, which isn't good for them OR the communities they're placed in or near.

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 20:41

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 20:40

I don't understand how people are apparently so against antisemitism and yet feel comfortable to be openly against multiculturalism.

How do these two things even relate to each other in your mind?!

Puzzledandpissedoff · 29/06/2026 20:41

People seeking asylum often dont have the option to use legal channels. If you are in fear of your life from a repressive regime, you can't really ask them to give you a visa. That's why the law accepts that it is NOT illegal to not have full legal documentation at the point of claiming asylum

For those who are genuinely escaping horrors this is perfectly true, and so it should be because it's only right that the UK does its share

Unfortunately, however, someone claiming that they fled because their father was shot, their mother raped and their siblings chucked down a well doesn't make it true - and yes I've seen scripts suggesting just those things and the chortling types who consider themselves terribly clever for encouraging it

The difficulty of course is sorting one group from the other, which isn't easy - but I'm not sure that leaving all to wander freely is any kind of answer

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 20:41

The frustrating thing is that the types of people who support this are usually the types who'll never accept any responsibility/culpability. They'll just say it was the government's fault for managing it badly when it finally dawns on them what a horrorshow the whole thing has become.

Clavinova · 29/06/2026 20:42

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 16:24

"The community will be outnumbered 2 to 1 "

This is a really unhelpful way to look at it and it kind of speaks to an 'us and them' mentality op. That part I would say really isn't a fair thing and is your exposure to stereotypes speaking. I've worked extensively with single asylum seeking males and ALL of them bar none have been nothing but respectful individuals who were really keen to learn English, learn our culture, build a home and a life for themselves so they could get female or elderly relatives to safety. Most of them were strongly opposed to any sort of extremism which is what they were often running from. I have never ever felt unsafe working with them in the way I have with some local men.

Aside from that I think you are right to be concerned about the impact on community infrastructure which is a totally separate issue. I'd be asking council for their plans around access to healthcare and services that promote health, wellbeing and inclusion.

What I would also say is that for a small village this will likely bring a lot of money to your local shops, volunteers for local charity groups and probably new visitors to your local churches. So your community, if they approach this right, will have the benefit of people with free time and skills/ abilities to lend which is
in real decline in the current climate.

What I would also say is that for a small village this will likely bring a lot of money to your local shops, volunteers for local charity groups and probably new visitors to your local churches.

An Ethiopian asylum seeker/refugee was jailed last year for sexually assaulting a volunteer at a church social event.

JuliaBraverman · 29/06/2026 20:42

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 20:40

I don't understand how people are apparently so against antisemitism and yet feel comfortable to be openly against multiculturalism.

What?

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 29/06/2026 20:42

MightyDandelionEsq · 29/06/2026 20:06

Absolutely amazes me that so many women on here or the loudest feminist will openly scorn and slag off white men saying we don’t need them or they’re dangerous.

Then their mental gymnastics to overwhelmingly support and invite thousands of single young men into our communities from countries where women are treated like scum. It feels like there is a gang rape or child rape from an ‘asylum seeker’ in the news daily because of the ‘be kind’ brigade.

Truly remarkable stupidity. I don’t want any more men added to the country irrespective of their background, but I especially don’t want men from countries like these men are. Do you think they arrive and suddenly think women and girls are equal? Pull the other one. Adding tens of thousands of these men into our communities will not make women and girls any safer. Anyone who has lived near one of these hotels (I have) know how these men go around in packs shouting and leering at females and making us uncomfortable.

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Say it louder for the virtue signallers at the back.

BridgetJonesV2 · 29/06/2026 20:42

But just think of how many Doctors, Engineers, and Scientists will be among them and how much they will contribute to society Hmm

nomas · 29/06/2026 20:43

JuliaBraverman · 29/06/2026 20:36

We should just admit that multiculturalism has not worked. It’s been an abject failure. A multiracial society however could work but that would mean integration and assimilation so who is to blame?

Bet you won't be saying that to your BAME neighbours / colleagues to their faces.

Same old two faced rhetoric.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 29/06/2026 20:43

thefloorislavayes · 29/06/2026 20:32

Where are they supposed to go? Why does it seem to you like this is the only option? They could be processed outside of the country - like they do in Denmark or like they're planning to do in the EU.

Denmark is hardly handling mass immigration well, or they haven’t been. They are experiencing the same problems as Ireland and England. The country has changed drastically.
Even if we cannot deport the people already here, they have to stop this going forward.
The destabilisation of Europe is only going to get worse. Is there some secret money pot the government is receiving from allowing this
madness. I’ll believe these changes when they happen, for be it’s more distraction tactics.

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 20:43

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 20:33

Men assault women in every country in the world. However, it's only in African and Middle Eastern countries that women get publicly gang raped in broad daylight by huge mobs of men. Imagine that happening on Oxford Street or Times Square!

And it's the Middle East where women were burned alive in cages.
And type in " man hacks women to death Nigeria" in to Google. Disgusting and alarming results.

WhatFreshHelll · 29/06/2026 20:43

Puzzledandpissedoff · 29/06/2026 20:41

People seeking asylum often dont have the option to use legal channels. If you are in fear of your life from a repressive regime, you can't really ask them to give you a visa. That's why the law accepts that it is NOT illegal to not have full legal documentation at the point of claiming asylum

For those who are genuinely escaping horrors this is perfectly true, and so it should be because it's only right that the UK does its share

Unfortunately, however, someone claiming that they fled because their father was shot, their mother raped and their siblings chucked down a well doesn't make it true - and yes I've seen scripts suggesting just those things and the chortling types who consider themselves terribly clever for encouraging it

The difficulty of course is sorting one group from the other, which isn't easy - but I'm not sure that leaving all to wander freely is any kind of answer

Indeed it's become an entire industry hasn't it.

Also where are the women and children?

KateSixer · 29/06/2026 20:43

whoopsnomore · 29/06/2026 20:30

Sounds like you have drunk the right-wing Kool-aid. Why do you immediately assume every young woman is in danger? A policy of treating asylum requests swiftly and efficiently means these young men have more chance of either being granted the right to remain (and work, and contribute, and integrate) or being denied and removed to their country of origin. Can the local community offer language classes, skills training...? Or default to hostility and fear. Which will engender hostility and defensiveness

How many to you actually suppose get removed? They appeal and appeal and appeal.

Home Office figures show that only half of ALL asylum seekers refused asylum between 2010 and 2023 left the UK. So the other half are here still!

Even making a decision on asylum takes around 3 years!

Why do we even accept any asylum seekers given they have passed through safe countries first? They are just economic migrants. Not fleeing anything!

glitterpaperchain · 29/06/2026 20:43

JuliaBraverman · 29/06/2026 20:42

What?

Judaism is a culture as well as a religion. And you're against multiculturalism.

Ketzele · 29/06/2026 20:44

EasternStandard · 29/06/2026 20:29

Hmm yes. Is this what you mean by ‘wrong un’ @Ketzele?

Well, if I had been discussing those cases, then yes it would have been minimising. But I clearly wasn't, so dont be so manipulative.

JuliaBraverman · 29/06/2026 20:44

LuckyHazelFox · 29/06/2026 20:40

I reckon Kemi Badenoch could answer that!

Kemi speaks a lot of sense but I feel the situation is beyond politics now. What do you think?

lightseeker · 29/06/2026 20:45

They could easily accommodate these people in London and nobody would notice or give a hoot.

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 20:45

nomas · 29/06/2026 20:43

Bet you won't be saying that to your BAME neighbours / colleagues to their faces.

Same old two faced rhetoric.

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I'm sure I'm not the only one who has no problem with a multi-ethnic society.

That's not the same as a multicultural one.

Pistachiocake · 29/06/2026 20:45

GlobalTravellerbutespeciallyBognor · 29/06/2026 20:29

How are they meant to get jobs and integrate etc if in small villages in the middle of nowhere? Even the most conscientious refugees will struggle to use their time profitably and productively. The less conscientious ones will need their time to be accounted for.

Presumably they are given allowances - how much and where does it come from?

Maybe these people do want to work and contribute. But so do many people already here, who are desperately trying to find jobs! And get NHS treatment. We have a country where corridor treatment/leaving ill people in chairs in AE for days is normalised. It's not the fault of any asylum seeker, but there are already too many people for the jobs/services in your area OP, your view is understandable.

suburburban · 29/06/2026 20:45

I think the government and previous ones are being really foolish, why don’t they ever put their own citizens first, I think eventually we will be conquered by the migrants and treated badly

5128gap · 29/06/2026 20:45

putupwhatever · 29/06/2026 20:33

I'm not saying I don't think some of the men aren't a danger or I wouldn't worried would I? I'm saying I think how the government are implementing it makes me helpless as there is absolutely no way of stopping it. It is being enforced on us and the village is collateral damage. Probably cos it is so small they figure it doesn't really matter if they piss us off.

No, I know you weren't saying that. I was responding to pp and saying that asking questions can be more effective that making statements. If you say you're worried they may be a danger, you may well dismissed, accused of generalising etc.
If you ask what steps they've taken to ensure they won't be a danger, they will have to answer you.
In all honesty I doubt you will stop it, so the aim of community action would be to try and ensure it was as well managed as possible with risk assessments and harm mitigation.

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 20:46

nomas · 29/06/2026 20:43

Bet you won't be saying that to your BAME neighbours / colleagues to their faces.

Same old two faced rhetoric.

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It is not race, it is culture; but also it is the sheer costs involved.

But additionally, it is extra people of any nation or colour wanting us to pay for their lives, forever and ever.
Hundreds of billions of pounds which we could use for our vulnerable old and sick, is instead diverted to pay for strange men who are young and healthy and should be providing for themselves in their own lands.

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