I know it's unreasonable because you're strangers on the internet, but give me your armchair diagnosis

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It's my day off. I can't relax. This is me every day off. Up a height with anxiety. Frozen to the sofa wanting to move. Trying to sort tasks, then feeling overwhelmed by anxiety. On edge that my DH will come down and find me doing nothing and think I'm lazy. Endlessly worried about things I haven't done at work. Yet behind at work because I also have this weird, frozen thing there. Also can't go and buy clothes for myself, not showered today, feel anxious about really simple things like the shopping.

Technically shouldn't be on the edge of my nerves and on the brink of a breakdown, but am because I feel like this all the time.

I know it sounds like an anxiety disorder, but I have nothing to be anxious about - this inability to do things and constant thinking thinking thinking is the main thing that makes life difficult!

Are you like this? What is it? How do you fix it?

It sounds like task paralysis, which may come from ADHD, or PDA which could be autism.

As you've said it doesnt really matter so much why, more how you deal with it. Stop attaching 'should' to everything and doing things for other people. Shower if you want to shower for you, if you dont maybe wash at the sink that day if that's what feels best to you. If you dont care about tidying up that day - fine. Work is a bit different obviously, but try and view it as doing it because you like to do a good job, not because otherwise you cant afford to pay the bills etc

Just to add that times of hormonal change can highlight ND issues that were always there but become more pronounced (age 4/5, puberty and peri/menopause)

https://executivefunctiontoolkit.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/ADHD-Task-Paralysis-Worksheet.pdf