AIBU to say no to a sleepover my daughter wants?

[Pappybear]

DD (10) has never liked sleepovers. She wants to do them but finds it virtually impossible to get to sleep without me or her dh. It upsets her that she struggles to do them (whenever friends have sleepover parties I will pick her up early, through her choice).

She will sleepover at her cousins but that’s becuase she’s close with her aunt and knows she’ll help her settle if needed.

Dd has been invited to a party sleepover that she really wants to go to. Part of me wants to encourage her to try. But the other part of me thinks I’ll just get a phone call in the middle of the night asking to pick her up, and then she’ll be even more upset. Plus the hassle for the host parents. WIBU to say she can’t go? Or should I get her to try it and hope it works out ok?

I’d let her try.. she won’t ever get used to it otherwise! My son’s 7 yo friend slept over the other night and he has never slept out and when he tried he had to call his parents to get him but he was fine this time!

Let her try! When is her school residential- good practice for that if she hasn’t been yet?

I have to agree. I would let her try. Don’t worry about the hosts. If I was hosting and had to call a parent because a child wouldn’t settle I wouldn’t be annoyed or think it’s a hassle. I would worry I did something wrong 😂 so probably give them a heads up. I hope it goes well.

Half of me says let her try and the half says it’s not fair on the parents when you know it’s odds on they’re going to be woken in the middle of the night so you can pick your DD up.

Maybe have an honest chat with the hosts and let them decide?

Thank you, I’ll give the parents a heads up and let try. She has residential in exactly a year, so she does to start feeling more comfortable with these things. I’d hate for her to do PGL and have to leave because she couldn’t cope.