AIBU to expect my 18-year-old to babysit her baby brother?

[SallySue87]

Can't sleep, SO wound up about this, I just need some advice...

On Tuesday I asked my DD (18) to watch my DS (5) while I go out on a blind date. She said no way as she was going down the pub with her girl friend (22) to watch the England game, I said MY house MY rules! To which she replied "you only had him to save your marriage and look at how that turned out"...

I went BALLISTIC😡My DS burst into tears. I couldn't believe she said that so soon after myself and her step-dad messily split-up. I know it's been hard for her, but imagine how hard it's been for ME ?? I couldnt let this comment slide so I took her phone and told her she can not go and see her girl friend. She was so angry and said she feels like she is always looking after DS and that its not fair for me to go and 'hook up' with 'random men' when she can't see her girl friend, who she says she is in love with...

She hasnt spoke to me since and Im starting to worry that I have actually upset her...but at the same time, she is an adult now and has to accept that she has responsibilities...

What should I do?... 😥

Take DS5 with you on the blind date

I mean if this isn’t a joke maybe do some parenting. Of the 5 year old and stop acting like you’re the 18 year old.

She is right you had a child not her it is your job to look after them or find a suitable willing babysitter. Also give her, her phone back she is 18.

Also maybe no date for a while before the 5 year has to become a parent to the next child.

You took another adult's phone?

Also again if true.

Hilarious that it’s too soon for her to bring up your failed plaster attempt to save your marriage.

But you’re wanting to go on blind dates. If it’s too soon it’s too soon for both or it’s not.

Oh behave it's not real

she has responsibilities...

nope, she doesn’t, not for your child.

Things that never happened 😂😂

lol, total click bait - no one is THIS oblivious

Try harder, OP.

What should you do?

Get a better hobby or pastime then writing unbelievable rage bait posts.

As a pp said, no 18 year old would just hand their phone over 😆.

YABU. Massively U. He's your baby, not hers, so you are responsible for him.

Look after YOUR son & get your priorities straight. She's not responsible for him, you & his father are, so sort it between yourselves.

Personally I think you’re at fault. My son is 18 and I wouldn’t expect him to drop his plans for me. Try a paid babysitter

Maybe don’t give up the day job as I don’t think writing kitchen sink drama is your forte.

She is an adult

since when did that include looking after other people’s children ? I have never had a house share contract where that was included

you asked , she said no she already had plans. She’s an adult not your slave.

I am not surprised your 5 year old cried - to be unwanted by mum is very hard to accept

is this for real I wonder

Please god this post is a wind up

poor kids

This can't be real.
She's an adult and had to accept she has responsibilities??? Yes, she is an adult. You shouldn't be telling her where she can and can't good confiscating her phone, I think that's treading into illegal activity, we can't treat other adults that way.
As for responsibilities, your 5 year old is YOUR responsibility, not hers. Why on earth do you think a mother dating trumps a single 18 year old living the life of a single 18 year old?

This written like poorly constructed Reddit post. I'm 99% sure this is fake.

If this is true, daughter is awesome.

Summer holidays have started already…🤔😂

If this is real, you are wrong.

Give back your adult child’s property that you have no right to take and look after your own child that you chose to have.

Your eldest is not a crutch for you and your love/social life.

Poster has been on MN before so doubt being a T. But it's odd she hasn't been back either.
Some times knickers have to stay on when you have a young kid to look after.
Totally selfish of OP to expect her d to look after her b when she has already gort plans.

Everything about this is awful. You have just had a bad relationship breakup which is affecting your children. You are going on a blind date so you appear to actively want to find a relationship with literally anybody. You want to force your children to look after themselves to accommodate this. Against your child's wishes. And your child already had plans which you are demanding she cancel with no notice. This is all bad.

This isnt real.

You've handled this perfectly.

Fair play.

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