AIBU to expect my 18-year-old to babysit her baby brother?

[SallySue87]

Can't sleep, SO wound up about this, I just need some advice...

On Tuesday I asked my DD (18) to watch my DS (5) while I go out on a blind date. She said no way as she was going down the pub with her girl friend (22) to watch the England game, I said MY house MY rules! To which she replied "you only had him to save your marriage and look at how that turned out"...

I went BALLISTIC😡My DS burst into tears. I couldn't believe she said that so soon after myself and her step-dad messily split-up. I know it's been hard for her, but imagine how hard it's been for ME ?? I couldnt let this comment slide so I took her phone and told her she can not go and see her girl friend. She was so angry and said she feels like she is always looking after DS and that its not fair for me to go and 'hook up' with 'random men' when she can't see her girl friend, who she says she is in love with...

She hasnt spoke to me since and Im starting to worry that I have actually upset her...but at the same time, she is an adult now and has to accept that she has responsibilities...

What should I do?... 😥

Is this a joke? Or a reverse?

This has to be a joke! You asked and she said she was busy! Find another babysitter or rearrange your date, she had plans first!

I suspect you are bored on Friday night and looking to goad people into a response.

But her brother isn't her responsibility.....

lol

Yep, poor effort too

Also who takes away an 18 year olds phone! She’s like a feckin adult! Let’s hope you don’t ask your friends and other family to babysit that way!

I think this is a joke.. if not you need to get over yourself and stop trying to tell your adult daughter what to do! She is right. You are wrong.

Do you usually ride roughshod over other people's pre-arranged plans? It's so rude and unreasonable. If you want her to babysit you arrange a time that she is available and you ask nicely, you don't demand.

Nice

Yes. YABU

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I can see both sides here

Your daughter shouldn’t have said that
but I’m guessing she was annoyed at you suggested she should babysit her brother.

He is not her responsibility he is your child and therefore your responsibility to care for and she’s made plans as most 18 year old girls do. I can’t believe you have even posted this to be honest.

To add, to come out with “my house my rules” is just beyond mental - you’re the parent here!

I think you need to speak to her and say, I’m really very sorry if you felt I put you in an awkward position by asking you to babysit, I won’t ask you again and then you need to organise a babysitter if you want to go on dates etc…

This can’t be real ? She didn’t choose to have a baby, you did. Your young child is your responsibility not hers. She can go partying whenever she likes she’s a young adult. You cannot.

Trolllllll in the dungeon

In the remotest chance that this is a real thread YABU. Your sound is your responsibility, not your daughters.

Have reported this as not genuine

Sure.

Reverse surely?

On the very small chance this is real..
You know you’re being unreasonable.
Your older children are not there to look after the younger ones. Hope that helps.

YABU. Her brother is not her responsibility and if she has plans, that's that. If she does watch him, you should be paying her like any other babysitter. Neither is your string of failed relationships her problem. You cannot take an 18 year olds phone or tell her she cannot do something. She is an adult, the phone is hers and that is theft.

If it’s that soon after your split, probably not a good idea to be going on dates and best to concentrate on your children’s wellbeing.

You do not have kids in order to have a live in babysitter. Cop the fuck on. Also taking an 18 year olds phone? If this is true you have a LOT of issues.

Reverse?!

Like an 18 year old handed over her phone to her mum lol 😂