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Teacher hand delivered certificate usually given out in class.

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howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:35

I don’t know what to make of this, dc is in primary school and every week someone gets a certificate.
Suddenly I saw my child’s teacher walk past the lounge window at about 8 pm and post a certificate through the door.
Aibu to find it a bit strange and wonder why she did this having had to look up our address and purposely drive to our house when all certificates are handed out in school and she would see my child in the morning?

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columnatedruinsdomino · 26/06/2026 16:20

Gosh, another OP with no posting history and no life, the hot weather certainly brings them out.

Livingthebestlife · 26/06/2026 16:21

It probably just felt weird having a teacher call to your home especially if you've never had this before. I found it strange when teachers would drop things here for my kids as I never had a teacher calling when I was growing up, teachers were always people of high authority we would view them similar to the gardai and would raise an eye when calling to a home. Nowadays it's all very informal and very casual.

Blimms · 26/06/2026 16:21

LawrieForShepherdsBoy · 26/06/2026 16:17

pls ignore everyone telling you the teacher was just doing a nice thing. as an ex teacher I say trust your instinct. i can’t share too much, but it sounds like you’ve been knockered, basically you’re on a teacher list, they make up a reason to visit, take photos, sometimes video evidence, basic recon stuff and share in staff meetings and then on Reddit/4chan etc. teachers will obvs deny this but it’s 100% true

What the hell are you on about? You need to step away from the conspiracy theory content online.

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 26/06/2026 16:22

LawrieForShepherdsBoy · 26/06/2026 16:17

pls ignore everyone telling you the teacher was just doing a nice thing. as an ex teacher I say trust your instinct. i can’t share too much, but it sounds like you’ve been knockered, basically you’re on a teacher list, they make up a reason to visit, take photos, sometimes video evidence, basic recon stuff and share in staff meetings and then on Reddit/4chan etc. teachers will obvs deny this but it’s 100% true

Ooh interesting. Is it just for gossip or is there a grand plan?

Crunchymum · 26/06/2026 16:22

howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:51

You can’t drive past because it’s a cul de sac but I’m not usually a paranoid person but I did wonder why she would come to our house like that. We have a big grassy area at the front so the door was open and we were in and out as I was watering the plants so it did feel a bit invasive that she was suddenly walking past our open window to the front door.
Nothing to hide but I did feel a bit uncomfortable and now I’m wondering if there was a reason she wanted to see where our child lives.
I only knew she was there when my child called out her name.

Did you see her or speak to her? Did DC?

Maybe she was dropping it in incase you weren't sending the kids in today? Many parents country wide weren't due to time weather?

I do kind of agree with you though @howmanycorners it does feel a little bit "boundary crossing" although I cannot articulate exactly why?

Is she a good teacher? Does your DC like her?

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 16:22

Blimms · 26/06/2026 16:21

What the hell are you on about? You need to step away from the conspiracy theory content online.

It’s a joke.

LawrieForShepherdsBoy · 26/06/2026 16:23

Blimms · 26/06/2026 16:21

What the hell are you on about? You need to step away from the conspiracy theory content online.

Oft. I step away from MN for a few years and it appears things have changed. Given you’re one a quite a few people who took my post to be serious, then this is on me I guess

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 16:24

Crunchymum · 26/06/2026 16:22

Did you see her or speak to her? Did DC?

Maybe she was dropping it in incase you weren't sending the kids in today? Many parents country wide weren't due to time weather?

I do kind of agree with you though @howmanycorners it does feel a little bit "boundary crossing" although I cannot articulate exactly why?

Is she a good teacher? Does your DC like her?

How is posting something through the door crossing a boundary?
the teacher did not invite themselves over for a meal.

Freakyfriday777 · 26/06/2026 16:25

howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:35

I don’t know what to make of this, dc is in primary school and every week someone gets a certificate.
Suddenly I saw my child’s teacher walk past the lounge window at about 8 pm and post a certificate through the door.
Aibu to find it a bit strange and wonder why she did this having had to look up our address and purposely drive to our house when all certificates are handed out in school and she would see my child in the morning?

I’m sure there was a reason. Maybe just ask next time you see her? My lb reception teacher hand delivered all the children “letters from santa” at Christmas which was so lovely. We were never informed they would be accessing our addresses etc but it didn’t bother me as I know they have them details anyway.

Soontobe60 · 26/06/2026 16:26

Newfog · 26/06/2026 14:53

How did the teacher get your home address?

How do you think! I have access to the addresses and parent phone numbers of all the children in my class as I’m their teacher.

Passingthrough123 · 26/06/2026 16:27

LawrieForShepherdsBoy · 26/06/2026 16:23

Oft. I step away from MN for a few years and it appears things have changed. Given you’re one a quite a few people who took my post to be serious, then this is on me I guess

To be fair, you wrote it so seriously that I thought you meant it too! 😂I was about to ask my DP teacher if he'd ever heard of knockering a parent! 😂

ClairDeLaLune · 26/06/2026 16:28

Some odd replies on here, people seem to be ganging up on you to have a go, probably addled by the heat!

I think it’s extremely weird. Part of getting a certificate is being congratulated in assembly and your friends clapping. Also, if there is no assembly why wouldn’t she give it to your DD in class? Also, it’s probably a GDPR breach - using your data for a purpose other than what you’ve signed up for. Your DC’s teacher shouldn’t know your address.

Crunchymum · 26/06/2026 16:29

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 16:24

How is posting something through the door crossing a boundary?
the teacher did not invite themselves over for a meal.

How did she get their address? Why did she feel the need to come over for something that could (seemingly) be done in school the next day?

I expect it's something along the lines of the teacher promising the child they would have the certificate that day and forgetting, so they popped it in when they remembered but the bothering to dig out the address in the first place would hit my radar. It just feels a little inappropriate.

I am a lifelong Londoner though so naturally suspicious of everyone and unfriendly to boot.

Newusernameforthiss · 26/06/2026 16:30

Did you not have a home visitor when they started reception??? OP I think you needed to discuss anxiety with someone

LawrieForShepherdsBoy · 26/06/2026 16:31

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 26/06/2026 16:22

Ooh interesting. Is it just for gossip or is there a grand plan?

The purpose of knockering was initially quite noble, not grand plan exactly, but certainly for the greater good iykwim. Unfortunately it has leaned gossip in recent years

Namechange902 · 26/06/2026 16:32

Fuck me, teachers can’t win. A kid doesn’t get a certificate and we are out of order, she tries to be kind and you assume there’s something untoward. When I give merits I click a child’s name and the address automatically appears, in the past I’ve noticed students have forgotten things and if they are on my way home and I think they might need it I will drop it in, but you know what, from now on I won’t bother they can manage without because I don’t want to risk being moaned about online for doing one of the many things I’m not paid for but do because I care.

Crunchymum · 26/06/2026 16:32

Newusernameforthiss · 26/06/2026 16:30

Did you not have a home visitor when they started reception??? OP I think you needed to discuss anxiety with someone

I'm not the OP but my borough doesn't do home visits. It's not a thing here.

And a home visit in reception is planned?

tenrillingtonplace · 26/06/2026 16:32

howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:58

So why come over?

We care about the children.

Cardomomle · 26/06/2026 16:33

ClairDeLaLune · 26/06/2026 16:28

Some odd replies on here, people seem to be ganging up on you to have a go, probably addled by the heat!

I think it’s extremely weird. Part of getting a certificate is being congratulated in assembly and your friends clapping. Also, if there is no assembly why wouldn’t she give it to your DD in class? Also, it’s probably a GDPR breach - using your data for a purpose other than what you’ve signed up for. Your DC’s teacher shouldn’t know your address.

No, it's not a GDPR breach. What nonsense.

Blimms · 26/06/2026 16:33

LawrieForShepherdsBoy · 26/06/2026 16:23

Oft. I step away from MN for a few years and it appears things have changed. Given you’re one a quite a few people who took my post to be serious, then this is on me I guess

Yes, I think so.

MathsTeacherandLoveit · 26/06/2026 16:34

LawrieForShepherdsBoy · 26/06/2026 16:23

Oft. I step away from MN for a few years and it appears things have changed. Given you’re one a quite a few people who took my post to be serious, then this is on me I guess

Bloody hell @LawrieForShepherdsBoy you had me with that. So much so I was willing to get a post deleted for personal abuse.
What a relief!

glaciercherry · 26/06/2026 16:34

SmashThePatriarchy · 26/06/2026 16:16

Christ teachers really cannot win can they? Anyone working in the school can see your address, you hand it over when you agree to send your child there. I’m sure you will also be the same parent moaning if your child didn’t get a certificate. Get a grip.

As if you have a choice??

So because i handed over my address because i legally had to to get a bank account, send my child to school, get a job, a passport, a driving licence … it’s reasonable to expect anybody who’s able to see my address through the course of their work in providing those services to me to turn up at my door??? Of course it isn’t!

You can’t enrol a child in school without giving out your address, giving it out isn’t some kind of tacit permission for people to come to your door, it’s something that you cannot avoid doing in the course of accessing a very basic service!

Not worried about the teacher dropping off a certificate — however this is not the reason.

Cardomomle · 26/06/2026 16:35

Crunchymum · 26/06/2026 16:29

How did she get their address? Why did she feel the need to come over for something that could (seemingly) be done in school the next day?

I expect it's something along the lines of the teacher promising the child they would have the certificate that day and forgetting, so they popped it in when they remembered but the bothering to dig out the address in the first place would hit my radar. It just feels a little inappropriate.

I am a lifelong Londoner though so naturally suspicious of everyone and unfriendly to boot.

Edited

This will freak you out - on the electronic registration system, you don't need to "dig" anything out. All the student details are on there. Including parents/carers phone numbers!

ThatPeachSwan · 26/06/2026 16:35

What a lovely thing for the teacher to do, my child has had thank you letters and well done postcards delivered to the house and I think its such a lovely thoughtful thing to do. Most teachers actually really love the kids they work with and they must have assumed your child would have appreciated it. This is a really odd reaction to it.

CaesarAugusta · 26/06/2026 16:36

howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:51

You can’t drive past because it’s a cul de sac but I’m not usually a paranoid person but I did wonder why she would come to our house like that. We have a big grassy area at the front so the door was open and we were in and out as I was watering the plants so it did feel a bit invasive that she was suddenly walking past our open window to the front door.
Nothing to hide but I did feel a bit uncomfortable and now I’m wondering if there was a reason she wanted to see where our child lives.
I only knew she was there when my child called out her name.

So what is it about you or your family that makes you think a teacher might go out of their way in their own time to spy on you?

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