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Teacher hand delivered certificate usually given out in class.

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howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:35

I don’t know what to make of this, dc is in primary school and every week someone gets a certificate.
Suddenly I saw my child’s teacher walk past the lounge window at about 8 pm and post a certificate through the door.
Aibu to find it a bit strange and wonder why she did this having had to look up our address and purposely drive to our house when all certificates are handed out in school and she would see my child in the morning?

OP posts:
lulubalu · 26/06/2026 15:43

She's clearly a terrible, terrible person, I would report her.
🙄

ilovesooty · 26/06/2026 15:44

CrustyBread1977 · 26/06/2026 15:05

Fuck’s sake. This is why I retired. 🙄

Don't blame you.

topcat2014 · 26/06/2026 15:44

In years gone by all our addresses were on phone books.

Cardomomle · 26/06/2026 15:44

You should inform Ofsted. Also your MP.

beeble347 · 26/06/2026 15:46

Well I am a teacher and I think this is a bit bloody much, I would never dream of doing this. It could be posted home by the office if really necessary. I know attendance officers and heads of year might visit students at home to try and get them in but I can't think of another reason for a teacher to turn up. I'd be quite perturbed! Yes the students' addresses are on their school records. No, I never look them up or go and turn up at their homes.

Sahara123 · 26/06/2026 15:46

She was definitely casing the joint, judging your house so that you’d become the hot topic in the staff room.
Or.
She was doing a kind thing for your child, dropping off a certificate which might otherwise have been missed.
I’ve worked in schools for almost 20 years. I can tell you with certainty that it wasn’t the first option. School staff do kind things as, contrary to the beliefs of some we actually like children !

Lavender14 · 26/06/2026 15:46

Teaching really is a thankless job sometimes isn't it.

She's obviously recognised that getting the certificate is a big deal to the kids in her class so this woman has gone out of her way to make sure your kid doesn't miss out. She probably lives nearby and made a slight detour on her way home to do a kindness for your child.

I work in child safeguarding just for context. Unless there's a big drip coming this as a one of just sounds like someone who really cares about the kids she's teaching.

Grammarninja · 26/06/2026 15:47

I'm guessing that she knew she wasn't going to be in school today and didn't want your child to miss out (how kind!) or your child said something about not being in school today and she didn't want them to miss out (how kind!)

Sahara123 · 26/06/2026 15:49

topcat2014 · 26/06/2026 15:44

In years gone by all our addresses were on phone books.

Good point! I remember looking up the address of a boy I fancied in secondary school. Just the sight of the name made me all of a flutter! He lived bloody miles away from me 😒

Ohthatsabitshit · 26/06/2026 15:49

I’m with @howmanycorners I think it’s intrusive and inappropriate. I would never dream of going to anyone’s home unless invited.

glaciercherry · 26/06/2026 15:49

If it was a male teacher I might have concerns about ulterior motives but not a female teacher dropping off a certificate in a heat wave that has lead to lots of things being cancelled so maybe also something at school where the child would have missed the chance to receive the certificate.

pinkdelight · 26/06/2026 15:49

I think coming to our home oversteps a boundary

To do a nice thing. Jeez, some people...

TeenLifeMum · 26/06/2026 15:50

Presumably assemblies are cancelled due to heat. Your ds got the certificate and she thought she’d pop it round as she was going your way. Maybe it’s because I live in a small town but teachers do home visits in reception and know where people live - when it snows they have to make calls on whether dc would likely make it in.

Teacher did a nice thing so either you’re paranoid or have something to hide. (Note: teachers aren’t social workers or the police.)

Sahara123 · 26/06/2026 15:50

Ohthatsabitshit · 26/06/2026 15:49

I’m with @howmanycorners I think it’s intrusive and inappropriate. I would never dream of going to anyone’s home unless invited.

She wasn’t hoping to stay for dinner she just dropped something off !

TeenLifeMum · 26/06/2026 15:50

glaciercherry · 26/06/2026 15:49

If it was a male teacher I might have concerns about ulterior motives but not a female teacher dropping off a certificate in a heat wave that has lead to lots of things being cancelled so maybe also something at school where the child would have missed the chance to receive the certificate.

Do you think maybe the male teacher wants to bang the mum?

Grammarnut · 26/06/2026 15:51

howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:51

You can’t drive past because it’s a cul de sac but I’m not usually a paranoid person but I did wonder why she would come to our house like that. We have a big grassy area at the front so the door was open and we were in and out as I was watering the plants so it did feel a bit invasive that she was suddenly walking past our open window to the front door.
Nothing to hide but I did feel a bit uncomfortable and now I’m wondering if there was a reason she wanted to see where our child lives.
I only knew she was there when my child called out her name.

Just because you live in a cul-de-sac doesn't mean it isn't on her way home, we do drive past cul-de-sacs. Had you been outside at the time she would probably have given the cert to you. What a nice, thoughtful teacher. You need to get out more.

TeenLifeMum · 26/06/2026 15:51

Sahara123 · 26/06/2026 15:50

She wasn’t hoping to stay for dinner she just dropped something off !

I’m assuming that poster is one of the many on mn who don’t open their doors when someone dares to knock.

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 15:51

Ohthatsabitshit · 26/06/2026 15:49

I’m with @howmanycorners I think it’s intrusive and inappropriate. I would never dream of going to anyone’s home unless invited.

posting something through the letterbox is hardly intrusive.

Grammarnut · 26/06/2026 15:54

Ohthatsabitshit · 26/06/2026 15:49

I’m with @howmanycorners I think it’s intrusive and inappropriate. I would never dream of going to anyone’s home unless invited.

So you don't hand deliver cards to a colleague or a friend who lives near enough so posting it would be daft? (Not to mention expensive?) What do you do if someone knocks on your door?

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 15:54

TeenLifeMum · 26/06/2026 15:51

I’m assuming that poster is one of the many on mn who don’t open their doors when someone dares to knock.

agree
meanwhile back in the real world ‘teacher posts certificate through letterbox’ is regarded as a nice gesture.

Nojudginghere · 26/06/2026 15:55

howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:53

No idea, maybe she asked the office.

I’m a teacher and I have access to all the contact details of children in my class, as registers are done online and all the details are there. Not sure why you’d be concerned about a teacher knowing where you live?

ToffeeCrabApple · 26/06/2026 15:56

I think op's worry is that the teacher is sort of nosily interested in where the child lives.

Op, absent a concerning factor like a worry a child was in severely overcrowded housing, teacher really isnt interested. They have 30 kids in a class year after year, they dont have bandwidth to be nosy on this level, they've seen it all before.

SevenYellowHammers · 26/06/2026 15:56

I’ve done this if it’s on my way home and kid hasn’t picked it up. Addresses are literally a click away on register. I have dropped off work when a kids been unwell and forms for parents. I never thought I was being creepy, just trying to be kind.

Nicelynicelyjohnson · 26/06/2026 15:56

Ohthatsabitshit · 26/06/2026 15:49

I’m with @howmanycorners I think it’s intrusive and inappropriate. I would never dream of going to anyone’s home unless invited.

What a world to live in!

Friends often drop things off to me, and I to them, I can't even imagine needing an invitation to use someone's letterbox.

hourspassed · 26/06/2026 15:58

Wow I think this reaches the peak. Teachers now actually have the audacity to take time out of their busy day to ensure a child in their class (possibly several children?) gets a certificate that they hand deliver to the child's home that she knows will mean a lot to the child. Teachers all know where children live. They spend 6 hours a day with them I'm sure if she was a ne'er do well then the school would have worked that out by now?

Can you not just think what a lovely thing to do? Jesus Christ! I bet they wish they'd stayed at the bloody beach which is of course where all the teachers have been on their extra days off this week! Another reason to be glad I took early retirement 🙄

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