Teacher hand delivered certificate usually given out in class.

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I don’t know what to make of this, dc is in primary school and every week someone gets a certificate.
Suddenly I saw my child’s teacher walk past the lounge window at about 8 pm and post a certificate through the door.
Aibu to find it a bit strange and wonder why she did this having had to look up our address and purposely drive to our house when all certificates are handed out in school and she would see my child in the morning?

Maybe she thought your child really deserved their certificate on time because they have a neurotic mother to deal with! She has gone out of her way to be kind . During Covid our school delivered homework and lunchtime meals to children who were entitled to them , it’s called kindness and concern .

Because in real normal adult thinking it's not wrong. In "oh I must be offended...my mental elf is bad...everyone is out to get me" thinking it's beyond nuts.

Get your head around the fact that the teacher has access to children's records. She was being NICE. Obviously, in bizarro world that's her planting a spy ray in the ops front garden and there's a bug implanted on the certificate. Plus if you read it backwards it says "Paul is dead"

You have missed some words from what I wrote and changed the emphasis to suit your own purposes.

The statement made was

*Teachers are agents of the state for safeguarding purposes."

Which they are. Many parents, some with justification some just with anxiety issues, would be wary of being visited at home unannounced by a teacher.

Social Services interventions, not always justified, have been and will continue to be triggered by teachers for the purpose of child safeguarding. It's part of their job.

Actually, I didn’t.
I said a teacher posting something through my letterbox would not bother me and suggested that if OP felt boundaries had been overstepped she should speak to the teacher or email the head.

You're being a little disingenuous given you've been an active member of the thread, debating with those who think the OP is NBU? You haven't needed to explicitly state your opinion on what you thought of the teacher's actions.

Unless I'm wrong about what you think? Do you actually agree with me, that the teacher was overly invested in their star of the week certificates, and it's really quite odd they'd spend their free time hand delivering one to a pupil's home?

How ungrateful could you possibly be! Your child is luc.ky to have such a teacher

Teachers know where your children live. This teacher went the extra mile to ensure your child received a certificate ( because of no assembly/ because your child would hate to go up and accept it/ because of a million other reasons) The one reason it definitely wasn’t - especially after a tortuously baking week in school - was to be remotely interested in your house or set up!!! If you are really so concerned ( either paranoid or something to hide) email and thank them and just say you appreciate them going out of their way, was there a reason for it not being given in asssrmbly. Frankly you sound bizarre and I personally hope that teacher never ever hours out of their way to do anything special for your child ever again - but she probably will because she’s someone who evidently cares and makes an extra effort, despite ungrateful parents.

I cannot believe this thread has run for 38 pages without any answer because the OP just can't do the obvious thing and just politely ask her. The most frustrating thread I've read in a while and probably time to unwatch before I waste any more time on it.

so you state that I have defended the teacher’s actions, but on closer analysis ( and we all know you love a bit of analysis) you discover that I have not made a comment on the teacher’s actions. Mm-that’s a bit tricky. So your new argument is that because I have been on the thread and I believe the OP is being unreasonable my support of the teacher’s actions is implied…okay, that’s a bit of a stretch.
so for clarity and completeness:
I think the op is unreasonable in her reaction and the comments about privacy and boundaries are an over reaction to the situation.
i have commented on the purpose of a letterbox
I found suggestions of moats to be mildly amusing and suggested adding a portcullis
i have stated that I am happy for my letterbox to be used for its intended purpose and that nobody needs to phone me beforehand to check that it is acceptable for the letterbox to be used in the evening by someone other than my regular postie
i made a facetious comment in German about postman Pat - will you require a translation?
I have not commented on GDPR and protocols and tests and analysis and data breaches and reporting data breaches to ICO and….and…because such comments seem disproportionate to the actual event. I have suggested that if the OP felt uncomfortable about the situation and that her privacy had been violated she could raise this with the school. She has, so far, chosen not to do this.
I don’t know why the teacher dropped off the certificate. My comments have been about the OP’s reaction rather than the teacher’s motive.OP could have asked her the following day…but chose not to.
I think the op’s reaction to the situation is odder (on my degrees of oddness scale) than the teacher’s action of posting the certificate through the door.
However what’s really odd is both how invested you are in this scenario and your need to be right- both are very odd. Well that’s me all odded out.

Agreed.

And I'm also frustrated by the ridiculous " being nice" and " being kind " comments.
The incident as described by the OP is unnecessary and we'll out of the ordinary. It's got nothing at all to do with being " nice" .
As a teacher I find it bizarre and the OPs reluctance to ask makes me highly suspicious that this is not the full picture and there is a big back story here.

So I'm over invested and thats odd, when you yourself have just gone back through the entire thread to provide a detailed summary of all your comments 😂

I'd say we've both been invested with multiple comments and back and forths, and that's OK. It's a public forum and we can each post as much as we want.

I do think your support of the teacher is implied, yes, and you've confirmed that here by saying the OP's reaction is odder.

Actually I have rather a good memory and didn’t need to go back through the thread- go me!
your approval that I may indeed post as frequently as I choose is indeed most gratifying.You are indeed most odd.

Sounds like she was trying to do a nice thing. More fool her

You can keep repeatedly calling me odd, when the worst thing I've said to you is that you were being a little disingenuous...all you're doing is proving the point that poster made about the language on each side of this debate.

She was being nosey I wouldn't like it either

You have absolutely NO evidence for that statement, @emanresu3.

Ridiculous post. What a lovely teacher!
being so suspicious makes you sound like you’ve got something to hide!!!

Ungrateful.

I highly doubt the teacher is conspiring against you.

Do you honestly consider someone posting something through your letterbox to have visited you at home? I don’t. They didn’t interrupt or see anything, they just shoved something through the door, as many other people do over the course of a week/month/year.

Yes I consider walking past somebody's windows to touch their front door as visiting the house unless they are doing that as part of a general delivery of mail or parcels to the area.

The person inside the house has no idea why they are there and has every right to be concerned if there was no valid reason for the visit.

I didn’t say ‘visiting the house’. Neither did you. You referred to ‘being visited at home’. That’s not the same. The house was clearly ‘visited’ in the loosest sense. The OP was not ‘visited at home’ because she had no contact with the teacher. My house is visited by the postie regularly, also by people leaving leaflets and delivering parcels. They can’t be reasonably said to have ‘visited me at home’ though.

How many people over the course of a week/month/year put something through your letterbox and your letterbox alone?

I can't remember the last time. Possibly during the height of covid, I think a cautious family member I would've otherwise seen popped a birthday card through the door.

If you are going to an individual house to deliver something, that's a visit.

Loads. I get all sorts. Adverts for take away. Leaflets/business cards from gardeners/wi Dow cleaners/replacement window companies. Political leaflets. Charity bags. Normal post and parcels obvs.
Im not saying it’s not a visit to the house. It’s not a visit to the people in it. Hell, I don’t even consider myself ‘visited at home’ when I open the door to take a parcel in!

Edit: I see you are hinging it on ‘my door alone’. That’s not a meaningful difference to the nature of the encounter. Visiting the door isn’t visiting the family at home.

Im talking about things that are delivered specifically to you, not takeaway leaflets and the like which clearly go to a wider number of homes.

So yes that fundamentally determines use of the word "visit". To visit means to go to a particular place for a particular purpose, like going to one pupil's house to deliver a certificate. Not delivering multiple takeaway leaflets to multiple homes as part of your job.