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Teacher hand delivered certificate usually given out in class.

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howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:35

I don’t know what to make of this, dc is in primary school and every week someone gets a certificate.
Suddenly I saw my child’s teacher walk past the lounge window at about 8 pm and post a certificate through the door.
Aibu to find it a bit strange and wonder why she did this having had to look up our address and purposely drive to our house when all certificates are handed out in school and she would see my child in the morning?

OP posts:
OneFunBrickNewt · 27/06/2026 20:44

Oliveoy · 27/06/2026 20:24

I did read your post carefully and where you said "no-one (sic) wonder so many of us are quitting" I read that as you including yourself. It was a little ambiguous, but my apologies.

Given your accomplishments, I know you will be able to consider this: was it actually a kind act? A big, if not main part of a child winning a star of
the week certificate, is receiving it in class. They
excitedly sit there to find out whether this week will finally be their turn...and it is! They feel so
proud and can't wait for school to finish so they
can show Mummy and she'll be so proud.

Doesn't unexpectedly delivering it to the child's house the night before, when that's not what normally happens, and as the OP has confirmed was no need for as school was open and teacher was there the next day, take away all of that? Could it not be argued that rather than being kind, it's actually rather thoughtless?

Thanks for the apology.
I think my accomplishments are just being good at my job, like many people are up and down the country.
Personally, I wouldn't have hand-delivered the certificate. It was naive, but I maintain that it was indeed kind. TBH I haven't read all the posts, but maybe for whatever reason the teacher thought the child wouldn't be in class that week.
What's annoyed me on this thread is all of the teacher-bashing, a lot of it dressed up as disingenuous GDPR concerns. In my school, we've been told that if we are accessing parental data, it has to be for school/work purposes. We are after all teachers, not GDPR specialists, but to me, delivering school documents counts as school purposes. I can access from Arbor the address of any pupil who has ever attended the school I work at in about 15 seconds- some posters seem to think the teacher went sleuthing through paper records by candelight to locate the address.

I used to run a free 30 min language club at my school during my lunchtime open to all and any speakers/learners of X language that I speak fluently. After a parent who spoke Y language complained that I didn't offer a free language club in that language, and said it was unfair and kicked off to the HT, we decided it was just easier to no longer offer any language clubs.

Oliveoy · 27/06/2026 20:48

ShanghaiDiva · 27/06/2026 20:37

there is little to be gained by analysing this situation to the nth degree.
OP felt uncomfortable and therefore can raise this with the school.
she has to date not done this. Other posters have said they would not feel uncomfortable in the same situation. Opinions and feelings differ- who knew?
what do you really want to achieve by posting all these details about the use of data, gdpr tests, motives..etc?
you are now advocating that the action is not only breach of gdpr but actually thoughtless - you seem very over invested in this scenario.

It can be both a GDPR breach and a thoughtless action towards the child. The 2 things aren't mutually exclusive and being able to look at a situation from multiple angles doesn't make someone over invested.

ShanghaiDiva · 27/06/2026 20:52

Oliveoy · 27/06/2026 20:48

It can be both a GDPR breach and a thoughtless action towards the child. The 2 things aren't mutually exclusive and being able to look at a situation from multiple angles doesn't make someone over invested.

and the multiple posts about gdpr core principles and questioning other posters’ training, assessment results etc etc…of course that’s not being over invested.

Lucyccfc68 · 27/06/2026 20:54

LawrieForShepherdsBoy · 26/06/2026 16:17

pls ignore everyone telling you the teacher was just doing a nice thing. as an ex teacher I say trust your instinct. i can’t share too much, but it sounds like you’ve been knockered, basically you’re on a teacher list, they make up a reason to visit, take photos, sometimes video evidence, basic recon stuff and share in staff meetings and then on Reddit/4chan etc. teachers will obvs deny this but it’s 100% true

Seriously the biggest load of crap I have ever read on here.

BackToLurk · 27/06/2026 21:01

StartingFreshFor2026 · 27/06/2026 20:19

Yeah, yeah, really nasty. Twattish even. Perhaps this poster will be shaking in her boots from my response / needs to get a life / get over herself / is batshit.

Or perhaps she can take an eyeroll from one of us who is a bit sick of hearing all about how teachers are heroes and can never be challenged in case they resign.

Is the heat getting to you?

Oliveoy · 27/06/2026 21:03

OneFunBrickNewt · 27/06/2026 20:44

Thanks for the apology.
I think my accomplishments are just being good at my job, like many people are up and down the country.
Personally, I wouldn't have hand-delivered the certificate. It was naive, but I maintain that it was indeed kind. TBH I haven't read all the posts, but maybe for whatever reason the teacher thought the child wouldn't be in class that week.
What's annoyed me on this thread is all of the teacher-bashing, a lot of it dressed up as disingenuous GDPR concerns. In my school, we've been told that if we are accessing parental data, it has to be for school/work purposes. We are after all teachers, not GDPR specialists, but to me, delivering school documents counts as school purposes. I can access from Arbor the address of any pupil who has ever attended the school I work at in about 15 seconds- some posters seem to think the teacher went sleuthing through paper records by candelight to locate the address.

I used to run a free 30 min language club at my school during my lunchtime open to all and any speakers/learners of X language that I speak fluently. After a parent who spoke Y language complained that I didn't offer a free language club in that language, and said it was unfair and kicked off to the HT, we decided it was just easier to no longer offer any language clubs.

Edited

You maintain that it's kind, but could you elaborate? I laid out exactly why I think it could actually be thoughtless in terms of how the child might feel, and I was hoping that you'd be able to offer some insight into that as a teacher.

I don't think any poster who has expressed concerns from a data perspective has said anything along the lines of thinking teachers need to go digging for pupil data. We know it's easily accessible, but the issue is WHY data is accessed and how it is processed. It's been posters on the other side who have kept asserting how easily they can access data, which is spectacularly missing the point.

BackToLurk · 27/06/2026 21:10

Oliveoy · 27/06/2026 21:03

You maintain that it's kind, but could you elaborate? I laid out exactly why I think it could actually be thoughtless in terms of how the child might feel, and I was hoping that you'd be able to offer some insight into that as a teacher.

I don't think any poster who has expressed concerns from a data perspective has said anything along the lines of thinking teachers need to go digging for pupil data. We know it's easily accessible, but the issue is WHY data is accessed and how it is processed. It's been posters on the other side who have kept asserting how easily they can access data, which is spectacularly missing the point.

If the patent feels that the child has missed out on their opportunity to be recognised in front of their classmates, if they think the teacher has been thoughtless, then that is even more reason to ask why it was done. The OP won’t ask though.

PeachyPeachTrees · 27/06/2026 21:11

I think it's much nicer to receive certificate in class and feel proud in front of everyone, especially as that's how it's usually done.

ShanghaiDiva · 27/06/2026 21:17

Oliveoy · 27/06/2026 21:03

You maintain that it's kind, but could you elaborate? I laid out exactly why I think it could actually be thoughtless in terms of how the child might feel, and I was hoping that you'd be able to offer some insight into that as a teacher.

I don't think any poster who has expressed concerns from a data perspective has said anything along the lines of thinking teachers need to go digging for pupil data. We know it's easily accessible, but the issue is WHY data is accessed and how it is processed. It's been posters on the other side who have kept asserting how easily they can access data, which is spectacularly missing the point.

Asking someone to elaborate on why they think something is kind, asking for more details so you might gain a greater insight into this situation…and you don’t think you are over invested?

StartingFreshFor2026 · 27/06/2026 21:25

BackToLurk · 27/06/2026 21:01

Is the heat getting to you?

Classic, are you quite alright?

Zaza2020 · 27/06/2026 21:35

Ask her, if its such a big deal pop into the school and ask the question.

Jo7890123 · 27/06/2026 21:42

."...We are after all teachers, not GDPR specialists..... I can access from Arbor the address of any pupil who has ever attended the school I work at in about 15 seconds-."

Let me help you out then, with GDPR knowledge - if thats really true, you can access the addresses of any child who ever attended th school, then that system is in breach of the GDPR. Its hard to see a justification for keeping those addresses indefinitely like that, and if there is some obscure need, they do not need to be available constantly, to all teachers at the school, without any need for a reason.

What you've said sounds like that system is being run with no respect at all for data protection- I really hope you're exaggerating/embelishing.

Oliveoy · 27/06/2026 22:00

ShanghaiDiva · 27/06/2026 21:17

Asking someone to elaborate on why they think something is kind, asking for more details so you might gain a greater insight into this situation…and you don’t think you are over invested?

I don't need greater insight. I was hoping she would offer some insight into a how a child might feel in this situation, for the benefit of all those just saying iT wAs KiNd. What with her being such an excellent teacher and all.

StartingFreshFor2026 · 27/06/2026 22:08

YABU

  • "Jesus. Get out more"
  • "Maybe you do have something to hide as this really isn't a healthy response."
  • "Poor teacher." X multiple
  • "Is the heat getting to you?"
  • "utter twat"
  • "Maybe she intended to attack you with a samurai sword but decided against it 😳🙄
Get A Life"
  • "paranoid"
  • "Paranoid and ridiculous"
  • "Report her to the police immediately!!!!!! I can see the headlines now “Teacher posts certificate through front door, family are devastated”"
  • "we really don’t care about you as much as you might think we do."
  • "Oh my goodness, another thread making me question my life choices being a teacher!" X multiple of this theme.
  • "Why don’t you just dig a moat round your house, if someone passing your window literally felt invasive?"
  • "OP has what my teenager would describe as ‘main character syndrome’"
  • "Morons, morons everywhere"
  • "Don’t open the door, shut the blinds and cower beneath the radiator."
  • "Seriously, THIS is why no-one wants to be a teacher and why they're leaving in droves. Because parents constantly are looking out for a reason to kick them. But in this case, kick them when they were DOING A NICE THING!!"
  • "Imagine you would be forced to move house. Totally outrageous" / "armed guard" × multiple
  • "batshit"
  • "But you are out in public ...so precious feelings could be hurt by being seen ...anyone anyone anyone could SEE you 👀👁👀 😱"

YANBU

  • "bit strange"
  • "bit uncomfortable"
  • "bit annoyed"
  • "bit invasive"
  • "Yeah I think that’s weird."
  • "I'm afraid it is. It was not a legitimate use of the data which had been provided, because there was no "need" for the visit."
  • "I work in a school and it does seem unusual"
  • "It can be both a GDPR breach and a thoughtless action towards the child. The 2 things aren't mutually exclusive and being able to look at a situation from multiple angles doesn't make someone over invested."
  • "That was a very aggressive post"
  • Few posts from teachers, a DSL and a headteacher saying YANBU.
  • "Eurgh"
  • "Not all superheroes wear capes"

Obviously can't condense every quote, but the language differences between YABU and YANBU are quite stark. One side appears much more aggressive and mocking (much, much earlier in the thread - which is significant) while simultaneously claiming that teachers are so sensitive they will leave if people say they found something to be a "bit intrusive" or it may be a (probably minor) legal breach.

ShanghaiDiva · 27/06/2026 22:12

StartingFreshFor2026 · 27/06/2026 22:08

YABU

  • "Jesus. Get out more"
  • "Maybe you do have something to hide as this really isn't a healthy response."
  • "Poor teacher." X multiple
  • "Is the heat getting to you?"
  • "utter twat"
  • "Maybe she intended to attack you with a samurai sword but decided against it 😳🙄
Get A Life"
  • "paranoid"
  • "Paranoid and ridiculous"
  • "Report her to the police immediately!!!!!! I can see the headlines now “Teacher posts certificate through front door, family are devastated”"
  • "we really don’t care about you as much as you might think we do."
  • "Oh my goodness, another thread making me question my life choices being a teacher!" X multiple of this theme.
  • "Why don’t you just dig a moat round your house, if someone passing your window literally felt invasive?"
  • "OP has what my teenager would describe as ‘main character syndrome’"
  • "Morons, morons everywhere"
  • "Don’t open the door, shut the blinds and cower beneath the radiator."
  • "Seriously, THIS is why no-one wants to be a teacher and why they're leaving in droves. Because parents constantly are looking out for a reason to kick them. But in this case, kick them when they were DOING A NICE THING!!"
  • "Imagine you would be forced to move house. Totally outrageous" / "armed guard" × multiple
  • "batshit"
  • "But you are out in public ...so precious feelings could be hurt by being seen ...anyone anyone anyone could SEE you 👀👁👀 😱"

YANBU

  • "bit strange"
  • "bit uncomfortable"
  • "bit annoyed"
  • "bit invasive"
  • "Yeah I think that’s weird."
  • "I'm afraid it is. It was not a legitimate use of the data which had been provided, because there was no "need" for the visit."
  • "I work in a school and it does seem unusual"
  • "It can be both a GDPR breach and a thoughtless action towards the child. The 2 things aren't mutually exclusive and being able to look at a situation from multiple angles doesn't make someone over invested."
  • "That was a very aggressive post"
  • Few posts from teachers, a DSL and a headteacher saying YANBU.
  • "Eurgh"
  • "Not all superheroes wear capes"

Obviously can't condense every quote, but the language differences between YABU and YANBU are quite stark. One side appears much more aggressive and mocking (much, much earlier in the thread - which is significant) while simultaneously claiming that teachers are so sensitive they will leave if people say they found something to be a "bit intrusive" or it may be a (probably minor) legal breach.

What is the actual point of this? You went through the entire thread to produce this. For what purpose?
Sheer madness. (Am sure you will be able to place this comment in the appropriate group.!)

ShanghaiDiva · 27/06/2026 22:13

BackToLurk · 27/06/2026 21:01

Is the heat getting to you?

Judging by the posting of the language analysis- I think it might be.

BackToLurk · 27/06/2026 22:24

ShanghaiDiva · 27/06/2026 22:12

What is the actual point of this? You went through the entire thread to produce this. For what purpose?
Sheer madness. (Am sure you will be able to place this comment in the appropriate group.!)

Seems to have conveniently completely missed.

  • quite right to be concerned, teachers are agents of the state
  • bizarre parallel with Preston Davey murder
  • if you don’t think this is a GDPR breach you don’t understand the training you’ve had
  • good job you’re not a teacher any more

Among other things. Strange that.

It’s unusual for a teacher to do this. That’s it ‘unusual’. If the OP was genuinely concerned from an intrusion/data breach/child disappointment/any other reason perspective they’d raise it with the school. They haven’t. They clearly aren’t that concerned.

Askingforafriendtoday · 27/06/2026 22:40

A very thoughtful thing to do. I hope your ds was pleased when you told him his kind teacher had brought it round.
Perhaps she knew she was going to be off the next day, medical appt, planned sick leave for a day procedure, funeral

Oliveoy · 27/06/2026 22:41

ShanghaiDiva · 27/06/2026 22:12

What is the actual point of this? You went through the entire thread to produce this. For what purpose?
Sheer madness. (Am sure you will be able to place this comment in the appropriate group.!)

Perhaps she has an interest in sociolinguistics.

You've been defending the teacher's choice to spend their time doing something unnecessary, so it's a bit rich to criticise a poster for doing the same. At least her post isn't unlawful.

OneFunBrickNewt · 27/06/2026 22:52

Jo7890123 · 27/06/2026 21:42

."...We are after all teachers, not GDPR specialists..... I can access from Arbor the address of any pupil who has ever attended the school I work at in about 15 seconds-."

Let me help you out then, with GDPR knowledge - if thats really true, you can access the addresses of any child who ever attended th school, then that system is in breach of the GDPR. Its hard to see a justification for keeping those addresses indefinitely like that, and if there is some obscure need, they do not need to be available constantly, to all teachers at the school, without any need for a reason.

What you've said sounds like that system is being run with no respect at all for data protection- I really hope you're exaggerating/embelishing.

Nope, what could I possibly gain from lying online to a bunch of strangers about my work's data recording system...?

From google:
Arbor is a leading Management Information System (MIS) used by over 12,500 schools and trusts across the UK. It is currently the most popular cloud-based school management software in the English state sector, holding the top market share of over 31%.

Looks like 12,500+ schools are breaking the law according to you.

Haddit · 27/06/2026 23:18

Seriously?? What. Lovely person to do that for your child. What you gonna do?? Report them???
get a life

Smartiepants79 · 27/06/2026 23:23

ShanghaiDiva · 27/06/2026 17:50

New to mumsnet? Open the door? Have you taken leave of your senses?

🤣 silly me.

Oliveoy · 27/06/2026 23:28

OneFunBrickNewt · 27/06/2026 22:52

Nope, what could I possibly gain from lying online to a bunch of strangers about my work's data recording system...?

From google:
Arbor is a leading Management Information System (MIS) used by over 12,500 schools and trusts across the UK. It is currently the most popular cloud-based school management software in the English state sector, holding the top market share of over 31%.

Looks like 12,500+ schools are breaking the law according to you.

Let's hope all those other schools are using the system correctly.

Each school defines their own data retention policy when using Arbor

https://support.arbor-education.com/hc/en-us/articles/360005458217-Managing-data-retention-for-your-MIS-data

However Arbor does helpfully point to the laws which stipulate 6 years of data retention.

https://support.arbor-education.com/hc/en-us/articles/31855825001885-Guidance-on-data-retention-for-schools-in-England-for-Scholarpack-and-Integris-bak-Migrations

You're not supposed to be retaining data forever!

Newfog · 27/06/2026 23:29

Maybe everyone needs to contact arbor to request their information is removed as you have not authorised them to hold it beyond the stat requirement- maybe then that admin burden will encourage them to stop sharing our info with schools and teachers eho have no need for it

jjW29 · 27/06/2026 23:36

howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:56

Well no but I think coming to our home oversteps a boundary.
I wouldn’t dream of obtaining her address and taking my child's homework round.

You wouldn’t be able to obtain her address but she can obtain yours,same way as she could obtain your phone number and email address.Why would she be interested in where you live and why do you need to ask on here? Your child probably got an award and they forgot about certificate.I personally would have left it until child was in school again but then maybe there would be a complaint about that? Maybe teacher lives locally and just thought it would be a nice thing to do 😊

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