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Teacher hand delivered certificate usually given out in class.

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howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:35

I don’t know what to make of this, dc is in primary school and every week someone gets a certificate.
Suddenly I saw my child’s teacher walk past the lounge window at about 8 pm and post a certificate through the door.
Aibu to find it a bit strange and wonder why she did this having had to look up our address and purposely drive to our house when all certificates are handed out in school and she would see my child in the morning?

OP posts:
StartingFreshFor2026 · 26/06/2026 17:39

Crunchymum · 26/06/2026 17:34

I would not expect anyone I have a professional relationship with (teacher, doctor, dentist, opticians) to dig out my address and turn up at my house to deliver something inconsequential.

Yes these people all legitimately have access to my address but doesn't mean they should just rock up?

I have said many times now I don't think it comes from a dodgy place on the teachers part (in fact I have given examples of why the teacher may have decided to pop the certificate round) but my level of comfort on this is different to yours. Please dont diminish that by telling me I live a "half life". That's just rude and dismissive.

Agree. I personally would only be momentarily annoyed at this, but people feel differently! All this "that's what a letterbox is for" - very black and white thinking! I give my address out for all kinds of legitimate reasons, but I want it used appropriately.

Globules · 26/06/2026 17:40

She probably did it because lots of us teachers care about the children in our classes and she knew something about the next school day that you didn't.

She did a kind thing and you're online criticising her.

Why do we bother?

AgnesMcDoo · 26/06/2026 17:40

She forgot to give it out and gave up her time to come and deliver it.

amazing teacher you’ve got there

you are nuts or paranoid and ungrateful

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 17:41

agree it’s very black and white thinking to feel this is the purpose of the letterbox ….when really its purpose is….?
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TrickyD · 26/06/2026 17:41

Sadly the laughing ‘reaction’ got removed. How about one which means “Crazy OP here, worth a read”?

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 26/06/2026 17:43

I’ve cracked it! She’s actually having an affair with OP’s DH and was hoping for a quick shag on her way home but OP ruined the plan by being there.

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 17:44

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 26/06/2026 17:43

I’ve cracked it! She’s actually having an affair with OP’s DH and was hoping for a quick shag on her way home but OP ruined the plan by being there.

You genius!

IkeaJesusChrist · 26/06/2026 17:44

You are way overthinking this, get over yourself.

Whatifthisisit · 26/06/2026 17:44

Talk about no good deed going unpunished

Cardomomle · 26/06/2026 17:46

Crunchymum · 26/06/2026 17:34

I would not expect anyone I have a professional relationship with (teacher, doctor, dentist, opticians) to dig out my address and turn up at my house to deliver something inconsequential.

Yes these people all legitimately have access to my address but doesn't mean they should just rock up?

I have said many times now I don't think it comes from a dodgy place on the teachers part (in fact I have given examples of why the teacher may have decided to pop the certificate round) but my level of comfort on this is different to yours. Please dont diminish that by telling me I live a "half life". That's just rude and dismissive.

It's 2026. You don't "dig it up". You click on the student's name and their details come up.
Instantly.

Glittertwins · 26/06/2026 17:46

Teachers can’t do anything nice or right can they??

APageInYourDiary · 26/06/2026 17:47

I will add the utter batshittery on this thread to my long list of reasons I no longer teach 🙄. JFC - I can imagine the “I can’t believe my child didn’t get a certificate despite his school being closed” thread next 🤦‍♀️.

Oliveoy · 26/06/2026 17:48

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 17:41

agree it’s very black and white thinking to feel this is the purpose of the letterbox ….when really its purpose is….?
edit typo

Edited

So if your boss turned up unexpectedly at 8pm and posted a piece of non urgent work through it, you wouldn't think christ that's weird, why has he done that, couldn't it wait until tomorrow

No, apparently you'd think oh look, a piece of work has been posted through my letterbox and that is absolutely fine because the purpose of a letterbox is to have things posted through it. As the letterbox has served its rightful purpose my brain can no longer process this situation further

Cardomomle · 26/06/2026 17:51

I remember the first COVID lockdown. The students entitled to FSM got them delivered by school staff. To their address.

fuggetaboutit · 26/06/2026 17:52

I agree with you OP. I have 5 children and never once had a teacher come to my door, except my DD's Y5 teacher because her son was here for a birthday party! It is weird, it is overstepping and its not crazy of you to be thinking into it. I would too.

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 17:53

Oliveoy · 26/06/2026 17:48

So if your boss turned up unexpectedly at 8pm and posted a piece of non urgent work through it, you wouldn't think christ that's weird, why has he done that, couldn't it wait until tomorrow

No, apparently you'd think oh look, a piece of work has been posted through my letterbox and that is absolutely fine because the purpose of a letterbox is to have things posted through it. As the letterbox has served its rightful purpose my brain can no longer process this situation further

It’s not a piece of work, though is it? It’s a certificate and requires no further action from the op. It’s not an equivalent example.
Now if my boss turned up and posted a card through my letterbox or dropped off something I had left at work which she thought i might need that evening, then I would not think that odd. Indeed I would consider it a thoughtful gesture.

Cardomomle · 26/06/2026 17:53

fuggetaboutit · 26/06/2026 17:52

I agree with you OP. I have 5 children and never once had a teacher come to my door, except my DD's Y5 teacher because her son was here for a birthday party! It is weird, it is overstepping and its not crazy of you to be thinking into it. I would too.

The reason has been given.
She posted a certificate.

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 17:54

fuggetaboutit · 26/06/2026 17:52

I agree with you OP. I have 5 children and never once had a teacher come to my door, except my DD's Y5 teacher because her son was here for a birthday party! It is weird, it is overstepping and its not crazy of you to be thinking into it. I would too.

Overstepping what exactly?

DoughnutDreamer · 26/06/2026 17:56

Are mail delivery workers also overstepping boundaries by using your post box for its intended use? How about neighbours posting Christmas cards? Or is it just teachers you don’t like posting stuff through your door.

In all honesty, she probably realised she’d forgotten to hand out your dc’s certificate to them, realised that might have made your dc sad not being able to show off their certificate and thought she’d do a kind thing to make your dc happy. Or alternatively maybe she wanted to spy on you and your home so that she could inform all the staff on Monday that you live in a shitty house and obviously don’t look after your kids because there were weeds growing on the drive and then they will all sit in the staff room at break time laughing at your house before agreeing you need reporting to social services 🙄

VividPinkTraybake · 26/06/2026 17:56

Oliveoy · 26/06/2026 17:05

You're getting a hard time on here OP and I agree with you, it's very odd.

Assuming this was a run of the mill, "star of the week" type certificate or similar, it's of such little consequence that it is odd she couldn't just wait until your DS was in school.

I'd understand it if it were something important and time sensitive, like a supporting letter you urgently needed or something, but not a primary school certificate!

I wouldn't think that there's anything sinister behind it, more that the teacher is waaay too invested in the minutae of the job and hasn't got anything better to do with their time. Are they young and new?

She's getting a hard time because she wants to demonise someone that did nothing wrong. I know somw people always have to defend the o.p but this is a time where she needs ser straight not have her delusions fed.

Tableforjoan · 26/06/2026 17:57

One of my children’s teachers walks by my house daily so it wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

Maybe they assumed you’d be keeping them off today in the heat or maybe they were planning on skiving off themselves.

Oliveoy · 26/06/2026 17:57

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 17:53

It’s not a piece of work, though is it? It’s a certificate and requires no further action from the op. It’s not an equivalent example.
Now if my boss turned up and posted a card through my letterbox or dropped off something I had left at work which she thought i might need that evening, then I would not think that odd. Indeed I would consider it a thoughtful gesture.

It is an equivalent example assuming you don't take your work home with you and therefore wouldn't action it until the next day. A certificate doesn't need to be delivered in the evening and neither would a piece of work in my scenario. So wouldn't you be puzzled by that, if it were unexpected and unnecessary? Or would you be stuck on the letterbox having fulfilled its function?

PompeyPam · 26/06/2026 17:58

Inconsequential. Your poor child having their achievements regarded in such aaway.To a child a certificate is an exciting thing to receive. Celebrate and be pleased that an important person in their young life recognises their achievement.

Onmytod24 · 26/06/2026 17:58

howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:56

Well no but I think coming to our home oversteps a boundary.
I wouldn’t dream of obtaining her address and taking my child's homework round.

That’s just funny. She’s got that information because she’s got safeguarding responsibilities towards the children. you do not have such responsibilities.

Mt563 · 26/06/2026 18:00

It's so sad how cagey lots of people are now about what are perfectly nice/ harmless actions and human interactions. Fortunately, I think they're overrepresented on the Internet.

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