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Teacher hand delivered certificate usually given out in class.

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howmanycorners · 26/06/2026 14:35

I don’t know what to make of this, dc is in primary school and every week someone gets a certificate.
Suddenly I saw my child’s teacher walk past the lounge window at about 8 pm and post a certificate through the door.
Aibu to find it a bit strange and wonder why she did this having had to look up our address and purposely drive to our house when all certificates are handed out in school and she would see my child in the morning?

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KilkennyCats · 26/06/2026 17:16

No, I think construing it as odd is itself bloody odd.
What a strange half life you and op must lead, reacting like this to someone approaching your front door.
@Crunchymum

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 17:17

Supersleepysheepy · 26/06/2026 17:14

Might be time for the military at that point.

Completely reasonable to have an armed guard on the front door.

Grammarninja · 26/06/2026 17:17

beeble347 · 26/06/2026 15:46

Well I am a teacher and I think this is a bit bloody much, I would never dream of doing this. It could be posted home by the office if really necessary. I know attendance officers and heads of year might visit students at home to try and get them in but I can't think of another reason for a teacher to turn up. I'd be quite perturbed! Yes the students' addresses are on their school records. No, I never look them up or go and turn up at their homes.

I bet she's a new teacher who is really dedicated. I'd have been capable of doing something like this in my first two years assuming the family would be appreciative and touched. I remember in my first year of teaching, two of my students told me they'd be doing a bakesale for charity outside their house at the weekend and I made it my business to be there and buy a few bits.

Oliveoy · 26/06/2026 17:19

Supersleepysheepy · 26/06/2026 17:14

Nonsense, it obviously would have been a lovely surprise to get it if they hadn't been expecting it. Why do people have to deliberately try to find bad in good things.

Why obviously? I was using my DD as an example and due to her being autistic, she doesn't respond well to surprises or anything that deviates from routine. If the routine is that a certificate is given out at school, getting it through the door out of nowhere could have really upset her because the why would become more important than the certificate itself. That's just my child of course, but let's not automatically assume every single child would be over the moon about it

Nowisthetimeforicecream · 26/06/2026 17:19

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 17:10

How is putting something through a letterbox an invasion of someone’s privacy?

Wierd isn't? Surely the sole purpose of a letterbox is enable post to be received without people having to invade the privacy inside.

PompeyPam · 26/06/2026 17:19

It's Friday so your child would not get the certificate until next Monday by which time the moment would have passed. The teacher was being kind, considerate and prepared "to go the extra mile" for your child. Teachers just cannot win!!

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 17:19

Crunchymum · 26/06/2026 17:12

Making the choice to use this information to hand deliver something that could wait can be construed as odd though?

Like I said in my earlier posts I'm sure there was a good reason (was teacher expecting child to be off today due to heat? Did she promise the certificate that day and forget so decided to pop it on when she remembered?). I personally don't think it was nefarious or sinister but can understand why someone could feel uncomfortable about it, even if I cannot articulate exactly why.

Edited

I think you are struggling to articulate why, because there is nothing odd about it.
Letterbox is used for its intended purpose, child is happy to have received certificate…and that’s it.

Oliveoy · 26/06/2026 17:21

PompeyPam · 26/06/2026 17:19

It's Friday so your child would not get the certificate until next Monday by which time the moment would have passed. The teacher was being kind, considerate and prepared "to go the extra mile" for your child. Teachers just cannot win!!

It's not 8pm yet though is it so presumably this happened last night and the certificate could have been given in school today. What on earth was the urgency

ACynicalDad · 26/06/2026 17:22

I don't think there's anything to worry about here. Leave it be, you sound paranoid.

StartingFreshFor2026 · 26/06/2026 17:23

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 26/06/2026 17:08

What's intrusive about it? She posted something through the letter box, that is it's purpose.

Are you 100% sure you would be ok with your boss dropping something through through the letterbox?

Particularly when you haven't done the weeding or you're pottering outside in 35 degrees in an old tshirt with no bra on to water the garden or something? I mean, I don't mind my neighbours or postie seeing me like that but I just wouldn't want my child's teacher or my boss to do it when there's no urgent need. It is different.

Supersleepysheepy · 26/06/2026 17:25

StartingFreshFor2026 · 26/06/2026 17:23

Are you 100% sure you would be ok with your boss dropping something through through the letterbox?

Particularly when you haven't done the weeding or you're pottering outside in 35 degrees in an old tshirt with no bra on to water the garden or something? I mean, I don't mind my neighbours or postie seeing me like that but I just wouldn't want my child's teacher or my boss to do it when there's no urgent need. It is different.

Yep, wouldn't bother me for anyone to put a certificate through my letterbox.

Random321 · 26/06/2026 17:26

When you think you've heard it all!

I can't believe there are people still willing to be teacher! Everything they do/say over analysed and over criticised by a small subset of parents.

southofscotland · 26/06/2026 17:27

“Overstepped a boundary” ffs she was OUTSIDE your house, she wasn’t sat at your kitchen table when you came back in 🙄

moto748e · 26/06/2026 17:27

Are you running some major-league criminal operation from your house that you don't want people snooping around, OP? 😀

StartingFreshFor2026 · 26/06/2026 17:27

Supersleepysheepy · 26/06/2026 17:25

Yep, wouldn't bother me for anyone to put a certificate through my letterbox.

Ok fine, but different people are bothered by different things, no?

Freeyourmind · 26/06/2026 17:28

Could it be that she was off work today and didn't want your child to miss out on the certificate?

I do think it's way over and above for a weekly certificate, she certainly should not be putting herself under that much pressure.

Pearlstillsinging · 26/06/2026 17:29

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 26/06/2026 17:05

So the teacher did a kind thing. But you don't want her walking up your path because your door was open and you where watering flowers. The teacher didn't know you would be doing this, plus walking up your path is nothing to get upset about. Watch yourself because you are teaching your child to act batshit like you.

My guess is that the teacher knew that this child would be very upset when s/he realised that they hadn't got the promised certificate because Assembly was cancelled and they knew that Mum wouldn't let the subject drop over the weekend.

Supersleepysheepy · 26/06/2026 17:30

StartingFreshFor2026 · 26/06/2026 17:27

Ok fine, but different people are bothered by different things, no?

No. It is very strange to not want your letterbox used for delivery purposes.

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 17:32

Supersleepysheepy · 26/06/2026 17:30

No. It is very strange to not want your letterbox used for delivery purposes.

Indeed. That is surely its sole purpose.

Bellavida99 · 26/06/2026 17:33

Going the extra mile- literally

Crunchymum · 26/06/2026 17:34

KilkennyCats · 26/06/2026 17:16

No, I think construing it as odd is itself bloody odd.
What a strange half life you and op must lead, reacting like this to someone approaching your front door.
@Crunchymum

Edited

I would not expect anyone I have a professional relationship with (teacher, doctor, dentist, opticians) to dig out my address and turn up at my house to deliver something inconsequential.

Yes these people all legitimately have access to my address but doesn't mean they should just rock up?

I have said many times now I don't think it comes from a dodgy place on the teachers part (in fact I have given examples of why the teacher may have decided to pop the certificate round) but my level of comfort on this is different to yours. Please dont diminish that by telling me I live a "half life". That's just rude and dismissive.

BackToLurk · 26/06/2026 17:36

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 17:17

Completely reasonable to have an armed guard on the front door.

Maybe a moat?

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 26/06/2026 17:37

FFS! What an absolutely ridiculous attitude to take. Didn’t she give you enough warning to hide behind your sofa shaking and sobbing? You sound utterly batshit.

ShanghaiDiva · 26/06/2026 17:37

BackToLurk · 26/06/2026 17:36

Maybe a moat?

Portcullis?

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