AIBU to refuse my neighbour asking to share my car repair booking?

[whoahokeycokey]

Currently have a mobile car body shop repair man on drive. I asked him if he wanted to rearrange due to heat and he replied with ‘if it’s ok I’ll come early and put a tent/shade up, crack on and be gone before heat kicks in.’
great, happy with this. Told my neighbour, just in case she was disturbed and she was fine with it.

Roll on this morning and the guy arrives 7.30 to set up, he’s actually really quiet. Neighbour pops out walking dog and says to him
’seeing as you’re going to be done early can you do a few bits on mine and as tent etc is already up I can move my car so you won’t have to move it’
it is an all day job I was booked for, but he’s started at 7.30 instead of 9.30 and aims to be finished by 2.30 instead of 4.30.
I’ve just had 3 WhatsApp messages to ask me if I can get repair man to agree and that it’s only fair due to her being disturbed very early this morning. I’m literally agog!
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Tell her no, don't explain or soften it. . Go outside and tell him to tell her no and you didn't see this coming. She needs to make her own appointment.

I don't think this is for you to agree to or refuse - surely it's up to the repair man whether he wants to take on another job after he's done yours? You don't have to let her use your drive though obviously.

In the interests of neighbourly relations, go out, ask him if he wants to do a job for your neighbour but tell him no pressure, then reply to her saying “I’ve asked, he says he’s not able to stay on after finishing my car, but here’s his details for you to make a booking”. Then any pressure from her just reply politely saying that you’ve asked, he said no and obviously you can’t make him!

Are you suddenly employed as the mechanic’s secretary?

I don't see what it's got to do with you - it's his choice to make. What did he say when she said to him: ’seeing as you’re going to be done early can you do a few bits on mine and as tent etc is already up I can move my car so you won’t have to move it’ Presumably he either said yes or no? If he said yes, then leave them to it and if she messages you again just tell her to communicate with him directly. If he said no, then remind her that he said he no. That's it.

Thank goodness someone said this.

I thought I was going mad! 😳😁

Tell her no, she needs to speak to him herself. What a chancer!

If the repair man wants to book in another job after yours, that's totally up to him. Nothing to do with you.

I would mention to repair man that you appreciate him coming early so he could finish early. And make it clear neighbours request is nothing to do with you.

Your neighbour isn't asking to share your booking. Your booking ends when he finishes your job. She's asking the repair man to add another job to his day, his call if he accepts or not.

It's not up to you, it's up to him.

Also you've forgotten to tell us his reply when your neighbour said...

’seeing as you’re going to be done early can you do a few bits on mine and as tent etc is already up I can move my car so you won’t have to move it’

Did he tell her he'd think about it?

If so, I don't understand why she's messaging you anyway?

ETA: And I'm not sure where you got 'sharing your booking' from. When he's finished your car, he's finished and is on his own time.

I think it has everything to do with the OP when the neighbour wants the work done on the tent on her drive as it’s already set up there.

Cheeky cow. Make sure he knows you aren’t supporting this!!

@Arlanymor "I don't see what it's got to do with you - it's his choice to make."

The neighbour wants her car to be repaired on the OP's driveway. She wants to plonk her car there for the repair. So it actually has got quite a lot to do with the OP. If the mechanic wants to do the work then fine, but he can't arbitrarily decide to use the OP's driveway as his workshop for the day and neither can the neighbour.

@whoahokeycokeywhat did the mechanic reply to him, surely that’s massively important missing information here!!!

So the OP should allow her driveway to be used for the neighbour's car repair? And it definitely isn't her decision if other people want to plonk their cars on it? OK then.

I'd just stay out of it tbh. Reply something like "I'm not sure if he'll want to take on an extra job, best if you talk to him directly."

I wouldn't want to get involved in case there was any confusion I was paying for her work.

You really need to ask if you're being unreasonable?

I will bet the neighbour expects the OPs payment to the mechanic will cover the neighbours repair too.

This.

Maybe add that he came early to avoid the late afternoon heat so you dont think he'll be keen

As long as she isn’t expecting it to be part of your payed for time, it’s up to the mechanic if he’s happy for more work. I would say it needs to be off your drive though.

Just ignore it. It’s literally not your problem

I asked the mechanic what he wanted to do. He said he declined to her stating it was ‘getting to be hotter than satans arsehole’ he laughed and carried on.

she returned home, sent me 3 messages asking me to get him to agree. Now it’s 6!

I said I would leave it up to him.

it’s not noisy and I’ve no real plans but my dog is getting a bit vexed by him on drive so I’ll be glad when he has finished.

now 7 messages, apparently it’s the least I could do 🫣

I asked the mechanic what he wanted to do. He said he declined to her stating it was ‘getting to be hotter than satans arsehole’ he laughed and carried on.

she returned home, sent me 3 messages asking me to get him to agree. Now it’s 6!

I said I would leave it up to him.

it’s not noisy and I’ve no real plans but my dog is getting a bit vexed by him on drive so I’ll be glad when he has finished.

now 7 messages, apparently it’s the least I could do 🫣

The least you could do?! You owe her nothing!

Refer her to the reply given in the case of Arkell vs Pressdram