Feeling uncomfortable after sharing a seat with a very obese passenger

[Bayleaftree63]

On public transport earlier. A very large woman sits nexts to me. She couldn’t get the seat belt
round her. Her body spilt over into my seat, leaving me squashed with what little space there was left.

On the journey I couldn’t help be annoyed at the lack of space I was left with and questioning how do people let themselves get to that size. Talking morbidly obese, not just larger - whatever the medical
term.

This isn’t about shaming, more I’m in disbelief people being that big are happy? Why wouldn’t you want to loose some weight for a healthier lifestyle.

Agree 100% I’m 65 and have been obese for years. Something’clicked’ in my head a year ago and I have finally managed to lose six stone. I wrote down every single thing I ate (still do) and stuck to 3500 calories a week. Being obese is horrible, uncomfortable, unhealthy. If it was easy to lose weight, nobody would choose to stay fat.
What we don’t need is people saying or posting negative comments, as if we are mentally deficient and don’t know we’re big.

That is not necessarily true. My partner is skinny, 28inch waist and sweats profusely.

Thankfully he also showers very very regularly!

With kindness I really hope that you are under the care of a dietician and that you have received expert advice before reducing your calorie intake to such a deficit. 3500 kcal a week is not sustainable and you are running the risk of starving your body and losing muscle mass as well as bone density. This is an extreme approach to weight loss and doing it without professional input is dangerous. 6 stone weight loss is an achievement and I’m sorry to p*ss on your parade but this is concerning.

Hardly fair on you

I didn’t say only obese people sweat.

No but you infer the sweating is due to the obesity.

YANBU!

Well, exactly.

14 hours? That sounds hellish!

When I was a very skinny, very timid 13-year-old I got completely squished up against the window in the bus by an older teenage girl who didn't want her friends to know she couldn't fit into the seat next to me.
A) Ouch 🤕
B) Eeew! I got covered in her sweat.
C) She wasn't fooling anybody.

Her friends looked at me with pity but apparently it was more important that her feelings didn't get hurt than preventing her from hurting me. My back was hurting for a least a week after the incident. The limp went away after a day or so.

She was friends with one of my friends and I later found out she did that all the time but ( pun intended) I was supposed to be the bigger person.