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AIBU to consider lodging with a stranger to save money at 36?

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TwinklyPinkTurtle · 21/06/2026 10:34

I've lived on my own for around 6 years now in a rented house with my two cats, no kids. 36F.

The cost of living is getting worse and although I'm not completely skint at the end of the month I'm not able to save for thing's I'd like ie. house deposit, to travel etc. I'd also like to retrain as a nurse/social worker and I wouldnt be able to afford going back to uni full time (I'm aware of what I'd be entitled too with SF).

I have an opportunity to lodge a room in a 4 bedroom house on a new build estate with my own seperate bathroom and office with full use of the rest of the house. Bills included with no particular house rules attached but it would be with a 48 year old man I don't already know and he has two dogs, one a large bulldog. He's already said I wouldn't be expected to care for them but it would be good they would have company as I work from home full time.

AIBU by thinking this is a stupid idea giving up my rental to lodge with technically less rights for the sake of saving money. Id need to rehome my cats at my parents and I'm also struggling with the idea of losing independence and privacy at the age of 36 when everyone else I know is married, living with partners etc..

OP posts:
Elieza · 23/06/2026 09:45

i dont think any if the people here who are saying “go for it” have cats.

It’s not just you that you have to think about OP. The cats are your babies. People who are not cat people will not perhaps appreciate that.

Do you think the bulldogs will be friendly towards cats? Even when you’re out at the shops and one bulldogs bored and in a bad mood, and your cats asleep on the floor…….i’d suggest not. Dogs bite. You dont want that end for your beautiful cat companions. They deserve better.

Keep looking for another flatmate without pets who likes/used to own cats.

ThatCyanCat · 23/06/2026 10:08

Nothing wrong with lodging if you can get your cats sorted but I wouldn't do this one.

noodlebugz · 23/06/2026 15:07

I’m not sure this is the one for you - if / when you choose the nursing path you’ll be on long days on placement. 7.30am - 8pm not wfh!

Best not to go in with unclear expectations.

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