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AIBU to think a man accused of throwing a child into a crocodile enclosure should not get bail?

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YourKeenOliveNewt · Today 03:37

Aibu to think the man who threw an unknown 3 year old into a crocodile enclosure shouldn't be out on bail?

If anyone could provide any insight into the reasoning behind why was granted bail I would be very interested to hear it.

AIBU: He's a danger to society
AINBU: Innocent until proven guilty

OP posts:
LovingTelescopes · Today 10:48

Thebigonesgetaway · Today 10:46

Wow you should be ashamed of yourself.

Broadmoor exists.

If you don't think he is fit for Broadmoor then Strangeways.

You are the one who should be ashamed of yourself and I am certainly disgusted with you.

SmintyFresh · Today 10:50

WhosAfraidOfVirginalWolves · Today 10:48

I used to work in a care home for adults with autism and severe learning disabilities. Almost all of them would be on 2:1 care out in the community, even if they had no violent tendencies, because lots of things are necessarily a 2 person job. If you're supporting a large grown man with little concept of what is happening with changing or toileting (and is likely to try and sit back down on you while you're wiping his bum) then you need two people. If said person has so little sense of danger that they'll walk out into a busy road, then you really need two of you to properly restrain him.
If the day out involves driving anywhere, then you'll need one person driving while the other person is in the back with the resident- because they have multiple seizures a day and someone needs to always be on hand with the midazolam, or because they need somebody CONSTANTLY signing in makaton to reassure them what's happening else they'll start screaming.

Obviously, some people are violent. Usually towards themselves or to the carers trying to intervene rather than to members of the public, but it obviously can happen. We had residents who'd been in institutional care for over 30 years, each with a filing cabinet of notes from professionals, lists of any minor incident which had happened over the years, daily notes from their caretakers describing everything they'd done that day- and they could still suddenly act in a way which wouldn't be indicated by any of this reporting.

I appreciate that most people on this thread won't have worked with adults with learning disabilities, but it still takes a embarrassing lack of imagination to not think that there could be a reason for 2:1 care other than "this man has history of violent incidents against children, is an obvious and predictable danger to the public". It's a thread full of people going "Yeah, I know nothing about this, but I reckon..."

Yes, this thread is awash with reactive, unintelligent and uninformed comments. At least have a basic knowledge of the law, mental capacity and the resources out there before making sweeping comments.

Anyahyacinth · Today 10:50

Thebigonesgetaway · Today 10:46

Again I find this odd, likely it’s just a day trip to the zoo as he likes animals. Clearly no one thought this would happen and it will have taken seconds to do.

yes it calls into question if people with severe learning disabilities should be permitted at zoos as it is likely humanly impossible never to be distracted, all it takes is a noise behind them they turn and he does it.

but people with disabilities have to have quality of life. This is obviously a very rare and unexpected event. That no one could foresee. As it wouldn’t even cross your mind it could happen.

I heard this week a banker pushed a woman in front of a bus…I think we must lock away joggers, bankers, males and millionaires….I’ll get back to you on their other characteristics ..get busy getting mad frothing though

Meanwhile the main danger to 3 year olds anyone???

This thread is for simplistics

Disappointedlama · Today 10:50

InfoSecInTheCity · Today 10:47

Life isn’t black and white, right and wrong, clear cut in every way.

It is entirely possible for both the child and the man to be vulnerable in this scenario. Absolutely no one is arguing that this wasn’t a horrific situation that must have been traumatising and terrifying for the child, his family and everyone else present. No-one is saying that the child deserved it and from what I’ve seen only a couple of ignorant people have suggested that it was the parents fault for not supervising their child well enough.

What we cannot say is that the man deliberately, with intent, purpose and understanding of the consequences took an action that caused harm to this child. We cannot say that because we do not know that.

But we can say that his carers/ care team deliberately, with intent, purpose and understanding of the potential consequences took him to that place. What were they hoping to achieve and to whose benefit? They were criminally negligent and I hope they are investigated and charged. But I won’t hold my breath…

Jimmyneutronsforehead · Today 10:52

Inthedeep · Today 06:03

This is an incredibly sad case. I’m not trying to diminish what has happened and I feel awful for the families and people involved.

I do think some of you are maybe interpreting why he was out with two carers incorrectly though. Obviously I can’t say for sure as I don’t know this man or the people involved, however the most likely reason he has two carers wasn’t to protect other people but to protect him. I don’t want people to start thinking if they see someone with profound learning disabilities out with two carers it’s because they are a danger to society. In reality if someone with profound learning disabilities is going out for the day, they are likely to need two carers. One of the main reasons is that their mental capacity means it’s not safe to leave them alone when for example a carer needs the toilet/comfort break. I don’t mean it’s not safe to leave them alone because they will do harm to others, I mean it in a way that you wouldn’t leave a 1 or 2 year old sitting on their own outside a public toilet block. The reasons being they could walk off and do harm to themselves or someone could abduct them and harm them. However, unlike if you were taking a 1 or 2 year old out, a carer can’t take a profoundly disabled person into the loo with them, it’s just not appropriate unless they were a close family member, therefore two carers are required on these types of outings. Obviously a carer needing the loo isn’t the only reason, if they are out on a long day trip the carer will be entitled to breaks etc during their working day. In most instances of a profoundly disabled person out with two carers, the reason they have two carers isn’t to protect the public, it’s to protect them, themselves.

Obviously something has gone horrifically wrong here and needs to be thoroughly investigated. We, the general public don’t have enough information to have an informed understanding of what exactly happened and are currently just speculating with very little actual information.

My thoughts remain with the child and their family. However, please don’t just automatically assume that when you see someone with profound learning disabilities out with two carers, that the fact they have two carers means they are a danger to you and your family. In all likelihood it just means they can’t be left alone, even for a couple of minutes, the same way you wouldn’t leave a small child alone in public.

Edited

Very well said.

A lot of people have automatically jumped the gun here and assumed he needs carers to protect other people, but it is usually because of elopement and inability to follow adult led tasks, as well as intimate care needing supervision.

We just don't know what the risk assessment says or whether he has a history of interactions that could lead to plausible harm being on his care plan or risk assessments.

It is truly awful that this has happened and in these circumstances everyone always looks for someone to blame. There could be someone genuinely to blame. Equally it could have been so unforseen that nobody could predict this.

We can't just lock up people with learning disabilities and profound needs as a precaution as that could be an unlawful deprivation of liberties.

We just won't know the facts at all, possibly ever, but at the least until this has fully been through the system.

grumpygrape · Today 10:52

ohdelay · Today 10:37

You realise you're on mumsnet not in court? My point is I don't care why he did it and I doubt the victim does either.

I care about the different between trying to kill a child and not knowing the consequences of his actions.
If you don't care that's up to you but I hope you never have to make evidence based decisions, in court or not.

CamillaMcCauley · Today 10:52

Anyahyacinth · Today 10:47

That would be most murderers so we’d have to lock most men away?

Do you think most people who murder someone just do it out of the blue with no history of aggressive or controlling or violent behavior that might give some clues that they’re not a particularly safe person to be around?

Thebigonesgetaway · Today 10:54

InfoSecInTheCity · Today 10:47

Life isn’t black and white, right and wrong, clear cut in every way.

It is entirely possible for both the child and the man to be vulnerable in this scenario. Absolutely no one is arguing that this wasn’t a horrific situation that must have been traumatising and terrifying for the child, his family and everyone else present. No-one is saying that the child deserved it and from what I’ve seen only a couple of ignorant people have suggested that it was the parents fault for not supervising their child well enough.

What we cannot say is that the man deliberately, with intent, purpose and understanding of the consequences took an action that caused harm to this child. We cannot say that because we do not know that.

Absolutely, it seems many posters do not understand mental disabilities. They cannot grasp that it is highly likely this man meant no harm and actually had no idea it would cause harm, that there was no violence or intent to harm here, it is hugely possible he thought he was helping the kid who wanted to see the crocodiles. He saw the little boy on tip toes trying to look so put him in the enclosure, not realising the drop could harm or the animals.

and again, it could be done in seconds, this will not have been preplanned or a prolonged act. It’s likely he did it, by swooping in , and a max of 10 seconds, before anyone could act.

the police have said he is not able to be interviewed, he may be completely non verbal, and it shows that he has no concept of the reality of what he’s done.

Disappointedlama · Today 10:57

Thebigonesgetaway · Today 10:54

Absolutely, it seems many posters do not understand mental disabilities. They cannot grasp that it is highly likely this man meant no harm and actually had no idea it would cause harm, that there was no violence or intent to harm here, it is hugely possible he thought he was helping the kid who wanted to see the crocodiles. He saw the little boy on tip toes trying to look so put him in the enclosure, not realising the drop could harm or the animals.

and again, it could be done in seconds, this will not have been preplanned or a prolonged act. It’s likely he did it, by swooping in , and a max of 10 seconds, before anyone could act.

the police have said he is not able to be interviewed, he may be completely non verbal, and it shows that he has no concept of the reality of what he’s done.

And is that supposed to reassure the public? He is clearly dangerous through no fault of his own, but for the safety of everyone else he needs to be kept away from the public.

CamillaMcCauley · Today 11:01

Disappointedlama · Today 10:57

And is that supposed to reassure the public? He is clearly dangerous through no fault of his own, but for the safety of everyone else he needs to be kept away from the public.

Exactly, whether it’s a history of aggressive behaviour or a history of impulsive risk-blind behaviour, it’s exceeding unlikely that this just came out of the blue and nobody could have foreseen any danger.

tommyhoundmum · Today 11:05

SorcererGaheris · Today 04:50

@DangerQuakeRhinoSnake

Those other murderers probably almost certainly had mental capacity, though.

Given that this particular man was not mentally fit to be questioned, and has carers, he must have pretty severe learning difficulties.

and no impulse control

Imaginary86 · Today 11:07

HumberSquid · Today 09:34

This response combines such a lack of imagination with and ignorance of basic legal principles that I'm embarrassed for you.

Awwww don’t be embarrassed for me

Thebigonesgetaway · Today 11:12

Disappointedlama · Today 10:57

And is that supposed to reassure the public? He is clearly dangerous through no fault of his own, but for the safety of everyone else he needs to be kept away from the public.

No of course not. I didn’t speak to reassurance, I was responding to the poster I quoted on that specific issue. That’s how chat forums work.

FloridaCheese · Today 11:13

He doesn't even have capacity to be interviewed. What will locking him up help. You'd need to lock up full time carers too.

Imaginary86 · Today 11:15

OonaStubbs · Today 10:34

Surely the vulnerable one here is the small child that was thrown into the crocodile pit, not the perpetrator who did it?

exactly

Imaginary86 · Today 11:22

Wiseplumnet · Today 10:29

The needs of a person with profound learning disabilities could not be met in prison. You would not put a 2 year old in prison.If this individual is operating at the cognitive level of a 2 year old ,but has the strength to pick up a toddler and throw them, you can bet that after an incident like this they will be cared for securely in a place which can meet their needs, and that their care will be thoroughly reviewed and risk assessments put in place to prevent anything like this happening again. Unlike toddlers, adults with learning disabilities will never 'grow up' out of this behaviour. They are not legally responsible for their decisions as others are and they can't be ''rehabilitated' as individuals in prison are (supposed to be) . Neither can they be punished. The agency/ gov org responsible for their care however is a different matter. They will be investigated and probably face criminal charges because that is where the risk assessment and culpability lies. Sometimes it is due to issues on the the ground ie not enough staff, not enough staff training or neglegent staff. Sometimes it is a systemic and procedural failing higher up the organization or a mixture of both.

Fair enough, if his learning disabilities are that severe that he doesn’t understand what he’s done then his carers need to take responsibility. He shouldn’t be allowed near children again. The tate modern case involved a teenager that had autism and a personality disorder and he was on tape saying he wanted to kill a child by throwing them height. They still took him to a building where he was able to throw a 6 year old boy off. Somebody needs to be held responsible for what happened to a 3 year old child

SorcererGaheris · Today 11:22

tommyhoundmum · Today 11:05

and no impulse control

@tommyhoundmum

Of course. But that doesn't mean he can't be released on bail. In his case, being on bail will most likely just mean that he's not being kept in jail, which is appropriate, considering the likely extent of his incapacity.

I can't imagine that after this incident, he will be free to walk the streets. He's most likely restricted to his care facility.

twilightermummy · Today 11:27

What strikes me is that he didn't jump in with the crocodiles himself did he? So he clearly understood the risk on some level.

A couple of years ago at a fair there was a woman on the same session as my children for the bumper cars. They were the only ones on with her and my kids were in tears. She just kept aiming for them and was vicious with it. My daughter's neck hurt for days. The staff didn't know what to do with her. She did not have a single carer and so obviously had learning difficulties, I don't know who decided she was safe to wander alone.

My children have additional needs themselves and I know that they can be unpredictable. However, there are warning signs before they get meltdown/get overwhelmed and I, and their schools, have to be proactive rather than reactive. I can say certainly though, that if they became dangerous enough with their autism that it was evident that they were going to harm people (I'm thinking of the Stockport case here) then I'd be fighting tooth and nail for a residential facility with good outside space. People with responsibilities need to act responsibly.

The issue is I guess, everything has been stripped away and public institutions don't work right anymore, particularly in the disability sector. In my opinion no, the police probably couldn't have interviewed him. I do hope that he's been placed in a secure outlet and I do have hope he will be placed in a mental facility when he's found guilty.

Pinkchickenwine · Today 11:29

Gall10 · Today 07:09

He certainly wasn’t being cared for at the time was he?

He had carers with him, we don’t know the specifics of what happened yet.

Siblingof · Today 11:37

It’s impossible to say. All the residents at my brother’s home are individuals with different quirks, likes dislikes and triggers. As I said upthread, my brother is aggressive a lot of the time, and sometimes violent but can present as charming and childlike. I’m in awe of the carers who work with him day out. They know him very well and handle him with humour and kindness, yet still manage to get him showered and to his GP appointments which is no mean feat

SupernaturalAddict · Today 11:40

plasticplate · Today 08:10

Care agency staff often have to keep a record of everything on an app on their phones and some agencies or staff take this to extremes. One agency that worked with my son told staff to do minute by minute accounts which is unsafe because they spent all their time writing rather than ensuring my son's safety.

Minute by minute isn't practical at all, they need to be able to concentrate on the person they are caring for.

My son has 2:1 support, we had police involvement as carers had left him unsupported and sat some distance away on their phone, police became involved (not because he did anything wrong but because a member of the public was concerned for his safety). LADO investigated and they were fired with their names being put on the baring list as it was classes as neglect.

We have refused PA support for the time being now as we don't have trust in the standard of care provided by LA agencies (the LA still use this company, I appreciate that they were adults and responsible for their own actions / not everyone will do this but believe they found it acceptable due to the culture in the organisation).

Thephantom · Today 11:48

ImFinePMSL · Today 04:35

This could have been the perpetrators first ever incident of violence or harm.

Are you suggesting society is to “lock up” all people who have intellectual disabilities? This was an incredibly rare incident.

The poster did not say "all people who have intellectual disabilities". The poster was referring to this particular individual who has thrown a child into a crocodile enclosure, so yes, he is a danger to society so shouldnt be out in public. I agree he should be locked up, if not in jail, then in an institution where he doesn't get an opportunity to hurt anyone else again. He has proven himself to be dangerous in public settings.

Disappointedlama · Today 11:49

Thebigonesgetaway · Today 11:12

No of course not. I didn’t speak to reassurance, I was responding to the poster I quoted on that specific issue. That’s how chat forums work.

You don’t need to be patronising. I’d venture to say that most people understand everything you said about the man’s mental capacity and still want him to be kept away from the public for everyone’s safety, including his own.

BreatheAndFocus · Today 11:53

Campingintherain2024 · Today 10:24

Theres so many silly comments and speculation on here.

I used to work with similar adults. For the man to be 2-1 he will have significant issues. He will be in a secure home and will need constant supervision. Prison would never be a suitable place for someone like him. Not only because he will be lacking the capacity to be responsible for his actions. But also the prison would not be able to support him properly. Who would help him with him personal care, i don't think prison guards have the time for this? We are talking about adults who aren't verbal, incontinent etc.

On the flip side this isn't the first time I have heard about violence towards a child or something going wrong in public. It's part on the reason I left my job. My friends little boy was grabbed, head yanked back and scratched by a man with 2 carers. They tried to restrain him and lead him to his car but struggled. The police were involved but nothing could really be done.

In the home where I worked we had a man who nearly caused a car accident after he decided to attack the driver on a trip out. They drove past mcdonalds and decided he wanted one. The passenger tried to restrain him until they could pull over but she was bitten and ended up with a black eye.

We had one resident who was only a 1-1 whilst out as he was deemed to not be a risk to public. But in the home he had bitten 3 different member of staff and broken another's leg. And to be honest 2 members of staff would have made no different because he was well over 6 foot and 250lbs.

Most of the other incidents were minor. Shop displays being knocked over in gift shops (having to go through them before leaving was a massive trigger to one man's behaviour), coffee being thrown etc. But even in those cases I wouldn't want my child anywhere near these individuals. Even with all the training and being on the ball and next to these men I never felt like we had the situation under control. Restraining is a last resort. But it can be near impossible to stop it from getting to that point. And their behaviour can flip in a second.

Theres a lot of speculation about the carers on here. But it could be that this man has no previous issues with children (I would assume this to be the case as he was visiting a place where there were certainly going to be families present). His carers could have been stood right next to him and doing their jobs correctly. This could have been a split second incident.

As I said up post I left the job in part due to worries over my own personal safety and that of others. I don't think we have the balance right. Years ago these people were treated terribly and inhumanly. But I feel that we have swung to far in the other direction. As a staff member it felt like we had nothing to keep us safe.

Most of the men i worked with didn't gain anything from the trips we had out in public.c. It felt very much like box ticking. CQC liked it, the parents liked it but most of these men would have been more settled doing sensory activities or art at home. We all feel we have to be more inclusive but why bother if its not adding value to the individuals lives? Why take some out for a coffee and make everyone sit through ear piercing screams if there no enjoyment for that person.

Well said! I’ve worked in care too and we also had an incident where a care user attacked the driver. They tried to strangle them. The front passenger had to steer the car off the road. It took the force of three adults to prise this care user’s hands off the driver’s neck. It was terrifying. Another time, one of the care users suddenly had a massive meltdown in the car and started attacking the carer sitting beside her, scratching her face and grabbing her hair so hard she couldn’t move. She then bit another carer who tried to help. We had to lock her in the car until help came. It was terrifying and the meltdown was totally unpredictable.

These incidents took place in a car with one care user and either two or three carers. We were very close to the care user and we weren’t on our phones, but even then we couldn’t stop the attacks. People blaming the carers or saying that all carers should be held responsible, should try spending a week looking after some of these care users. It’s quite normal to be scratched, kicked, punched, bitten, have faeces rubbed in your face or on your clothes, or have clumps of hair pulled out. Yet the manager, who had very limited contact with the care users used to send us out with them to public places. We didn’t make the decisions or do the risk assessments.

On the other hand, a previous care job I worked in never took the care users out in public. This did not mean they were locked away. They lived in a beautiful house with large grounds and had a lovely schedule of things to do. Their lives were full and they were treated with dignity.

To my mind, this second option above, should be used more widely. There is a huge tranche of people with complex needs who shouldn’t be at zoos or in shops. They don’t benefit from it and it puts others at risk. The options aren’t let them go out everywhere or lock them in a grey room and forget about them. There’s a solution where we’re all safe and treated well.

IceyBisBack · Today 11:54

My 16 year old with profound multiple leading difficulties and disabilities has just gone out today with his two carers.
I know though that they will protect him from any harm. That includes any encounters with the public who could hurt him. He's 16 but the size of an 11 year old with a 3 year olds brain.
We though pay his carers well and they know him inside put, including if he's happy, sad, anxious, in pain, distressed.....
Some carers are paid minimum wage and don't know the person that they are put with..... because the government northern NHS do not give a shit about disabled adults. Yes my 16 year old is an adult. He's just gone off to watch some people dressed as dragons. Watched some Handyman Hal & Bluey before he left. Played with his Thomas trains and we had a show with his Sooty puppets (the funniest thing ever)
How did any adult ever no matter what manage to get hold of a 3 year old?

This is the fault of those who are supposed to be looking after the vulnerable people ..... not just the carers but the parents too!!

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