I guess i’ll jump straight in.
AIBU to react this way?
My husband booked a weekend away for my birthday and a spa treatment.
They had a good offer on, so he also booked himself in too. Which i didnt mind at all and we had planned a dinner in the evening.
We are both quite conservative and come from a fairly religious background.
When we booked the treatment he requested a male masseuse for himself. I would never really see a male therapist and he would never see a female therapist.
On arrival we had the treatment, he went first.
The masseuse on my turn asked if i was with my husband to which i replied yes. she responded “i think i just did his massage before yours he looks like x y z and you make a beautiful couple” etc
She was the only massage therapist there that morning.
I was abit taken aback with the whole male/female booking thing.
When we got back to the room he asked how my massage was i said fine, yours? he said fine. I asked did they manage to get your male masseuse to which he replied yes.
I confronted him and he denied it at first until he realised she was the only therapist available tht morning.
He said something had gotten lost in translation and they didnt get the male masseuse and he just ended up going along with it.
He deflected and said your the one who said u kept wanting a spa treatment. next time book it urself.
So the blame shifting had started and he tried to put it on me.
I was upset and taken aback his inability to understand that he lied and then got caught and then lied saying oh the towel was on anyway. and then shifting to blaming it in me somehow.
Im actually really upset by the whole thing. Even if it is just a “massage” like my sister and friend have said.
I came out of a abusive and controlling relationship in the past and this feeling just triggered me somehow.
AIBU? please be kind and honest xx