to drop my son late to school tomorrow?

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My son has had 4 nights of very little sleep (think 6-7 hours). He usually sleeps ok but we have just moved house and he is very unsettled. He has asd, adhd and a mild learning disability. He has only just fallen asleep and I just want to let him sleep in the morning until he wakes up naturally. WIBU to call the school tomorrow to say he is going to be in late because he's exhausted?

Just let him have a sick day and try to rest a little yourself too.

How old is he?

7

I would but I have to be at work at 10

Let him have the day off

I don’t think it will do any harm then. Although it is Friday so he has got the weekend to catch up?

Just let him wake up when he’s ready , phone in sick and let him have a nice long weekend to recuperate
edited to add, take him in late before you start work

I wouldn't hesitate OP.

Aren’t the both of you terribly sick tomorrow? :-)

6-7 hours isn't vastly lower than the necessary (9-10, with target 10-11), and it's Friday tomorrow, so he can have an early night and catch up over the weekend.

Thought about it but I am delivering training and it would seriously screw up my colleagues so taking him in late is the next best option!

I would argue that it is hugely lower!

I have an autistic 7 year old, he’s a very poor sleeper and about once a month he has a monster lie in and if it falls on a school day I let him sleep and take him in late. I spoke to the school about it and we agreed that it’s in no one’s best interests for him to go in exhausted, and it gets authorised on the register.
Let him sleep (although you’ll probably find he’s up at the crack of dawn tomorrow!)

How do you cope with the lack of sleep? I am exhausted

6-7 is quite significantly lower than the ‘necessary’ amount of 9-10. And the clue is in the word ‘necessary’. Thats how many hours are needed to function effectively. He’s not functioning effectively.

Honestly, not very well. It kills me. It’s like having a newborn, for 7 years.
Solidarity.

How is he with change of routine? both of mine wouldn’t cope with being late to school and sleeping late - guaranteed massive meltdown .
Lie ins are an absolute no-go for us (adhd)

He'd be fine. He likes novelty and would 100% think it was very cool to go to school late.

Absolutely I would and have done this. And be honest with school about the reason. If they’ve any sense they’ll be grateful you let him sleep rather than sending him in exhausted and on the edge of meltdown.

Mine loves going in late through reception rather than through the normal door 😂

Then do it! Mine can’t cope with that unfortunately

That would be a good night for DS at that age.

I don't get it. He needs to just go in as it's extremely disruptive and disrespectful to everyone else to be in late for this reason.

It's teaching him it's ok to be lazy rather than just get on with it. It doesn't help either of you in the long run.

I would let him lie in, day off if you weren’t at work.
school are pretty good with us and whilst we haven’t went in late, DS couldn’t cope with that regardless of how tired he is.
they’ve been in agreement for a mental health day etc.
just be open with them: they’d rather he was rested than knackered

Absolutely not!!! Mum of boy who doesn't sleep unless drugged. Keep everything normal. Bed same time, School wake up same time. They have weekends to rest. Routine routine routine.
People will call you cruel, but if you let him sleep later, he'll need to go to bed later and then routine changes permanently.
A couple of tired days at school won't kill them. Bern doing this for 19 years and survived so far but with massive eye bags.
My eldest high functioning boy is off to Norwich to study Economics.

Believe me, an unsettled overtired child with Adhd and Asd is much more disruptive than him coming to school well rested and hour or so late…..