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to drop my son late to school tomorrow?

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bellastricken · Yesterday 21:32

My son has had 4 nights of very little sleep (think 6-7 hours). He usually sleeps ok but we have just moved house and he is very unsettled. He has asd, adhd and a mild learning disability. He has only just fallen asleep and I just want to let him sleep in the morning until he wakes up naturally. WIBU to call the school tomorrow to say he is going to be in late because he's exhausted?

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Ihatelittlefriendsusan · Today 05:52

lucieskin22 · Today 03:23

You're teaching him that it's okay to lie in and that the world revolves around him. I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, and unfortunately having neurodevelopmental conditions doesn't give you a free pass. It means you often have to work harder, find what you're good at and focus on your strengths.

You can't spend your life making excuses. That just creates the wrong attitude and a sense of entitlement. It's also unfair on the rest of the class.

The best thing you can do is keep routines and expectations as normal as possible. I genuinely can't believe some of the comments suggesting this is completely normal and acceptable

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Oh do get lost. The child is 7 ffs

She is actually teaching him that there are times when we all need a reset and that instead of carrying on til he melts down or burns out that it is ok to tane a step back and protect himself.

usererror99 · Today 06:22

930 to sleep for a 7 year old really isn’t that late

yellowpinksky · Today 06:25

I'd take him in late, better than not being in at all. Hope he begins to settle into his new room soon.

Sunshineclouds11 · Today 06:53

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · Today 05:52

Oh do get lost. The child is 7 ffs

She is actually teaching him that there are times when we all need a reset and that instead of carrying on til he melts down or burns out that it is ok to tane a step back and protect himself.

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God sake he’s 7 and not even going to be going in an hour late.

I think it’s really important to teach our children to listen to their bodies.
I don’t think it’s entitlement either, a burnout child is horrendous for everyone especially them.

Sunshineclouds11 · Today 06:53

@IhatelittlefriendsusanSorry was meant to be quoting @lucieskin22

Scarydinosaurs · Today 06:54

If you started work at 8 would you still send him in late?

Martymcfly24 · Today 06:59

Let him sleep in and drop later. Anything to support more sleep. I'm also a teacher and would often have attendance notes like this.

Its end of term here and my dd with ASD is going home at 1 o clock every day just to support her being in the classroom..

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bellastricken · Today 07:06

lucieskin22 · Today 03:23

You're teaching him that it's okay to lie in and that the world revolves around him. I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, and unfortunately having neurodevelopmental conditions doesn't give you a free pass. It means you often have to work harder, find what you're good at and focus on your strengths.

You can't spend your life making excuses. That just creates the wrong attitude and a sense of entitlement. It's also unfair on the rest of the class.

The best thing you can do is keep routines and expectations as normal as possible. I genuinely can't believe some of the comments suggesting this is completely normal and acceptable

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He's 7 not 37 🤣

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bellastricken · Today 07:07

Scarydinosaurs · Today 06:54

If you started work at 8 would you still send him in late?

I don't start work at 8 so 🤷‍♀️

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bellastricken · Today 07:10

Thanks all. He's still asleep so I'm going to let him sleep until 8 then wake him up. His school starts at 8:30 so he will be in at 9:30 so only an hour late.

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KateSixer · Today 07:10

@lucieskin22 👍

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