Aibu to think it is right she has been reported

[FedUp120028]

So,

My friend has made the assumption that I made the report, I didn't.

A mum I have come across, has come from a DV relationship, so I get her going through a tough time. This woman had her child out till very late at night and drove home under the influence of cocaine and alcohol. I ummed and arred about reporting but I don't know the little girls name, however someone has reported her and I said to my friend good bloody job because I would have reported her to the police if I was there and knew she was driving so I am glad someone did.

We have fallen out now, she has cancelled on my birthday plan assuming it was me, but AIBU to think and tell her its a good thing?

Is the mum friends with your friend?

I couldn’t be friends with somebody who risked their child’s life in such a way.

What is the point of this post? You know YANBU. Do you want congratulations?

They are new new friends but yeah I guess.

Your friend is part of the reason that so many children live difficult lives.

Your friend may be worried that you'll report her for something?

No I am just wondering if this is why people keep their beaks out.

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Her child is grown up and doesn't live with her so I can't see that - she just said I had no right to report her.

What so your friend doesn’t fall out with them? You didn’t report the woman either, so maybe you can answer why people ‘keep their beaks out’

She had her child out late at the same time as drinking and taking drugs then driving? It is just a picture of the whole scenario.

No my friend hasn't fallen out with her. I didn't report because I don't the childs name and only the first name of the mother. How far will that get me?

So not totally clear but I think you mean that the reported woman is a 3rd person in this story, and your friend is mad that you agree that this 3rd person should have been reported? You are completely reasonable to think that (I think the same.) and I find it odd that your friend is offended by it. What is she afraid of?

I am confused by who is who in this scenario.

My friend assumed I reported this mum who is her friend.

Obviously, the person who reported her did the right thing.

Why would she assume you reported it? How did you even find out it happened, was it from the other friend?

Were you not there when she drove with the child? How did you hear of this happening?

So it's a win, win situation. The cocaine snorting, boozing mother has been reported and you've lost a stupid flaky "friend" with no moral backbone.

I found out yesterday which is apparently when the report when. As the mum was at my friends house doing all this stuff, kid woke at 11.30pm on the sofa crying and the mum drove her mum - my friend also got in the car to be dropped at petrol station!

My friends response was 'well I don't have kids so 🤷‍♀️'

Well yes I suppose it is, I am more worried it means I might have a target on my back for abuse.

No, if I was I would have called the police never mind social services.

So if you weren’t there and you didn’t know this happened until your friend told you yesterday, when the report had already happened, how could she think you did the reporting?

And you were obviously never going to report it because you don’t know this woman really and weren’t there when it happened.

…so the woman who was reported, was at your friends house getting pissed and sniffing coke, whilst thier child slept on the sofa. Your friend had no issue with Cocaine being used in her house…

I suggest better friends.

I am not sure why your friend thinks you reported her friend (who you barely know) if you only just found about about it from her. Why would she think it was you?

Is she just annoyed that they were together when the mum did this and you said if you had known, you would have reported her (while she made out it was ok)?

Sounds like you are better of without either of them.