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DH and I disagree about Soap 😳

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anotherdaytosmile · Yesterday 12:27

DH has put a fresh bar of soap out today, his trusty Imperial Leather. He thinks it’s a classy soap based on his childhood perspective in the late 1970s. I think it’s one step up from carbolic. I want Jo Malone soap 😢

AIBU - imperial leather is pure luxury
AINBU - what next, waxy toilet paper?

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Mumtobabyhavoc · Today 03:05

You each need your own. 🤔

echt · Today 03:05

The only thing that disappoints about bar soap is when you've had people round, they go home, and the soap in the bathroom is still dry.
Dispensers conceal this terrible knowledge from you.

Shocked but not surprised by PP who are so ill-informed as to think bar soap is unhygienic.

EBearhug · Today 03:05

Granny always had Pears -which was see-through! How exciting was that! But they have reformulated it.

Coal tar soap has also been reformulated, because actual cosl tar is a carcinogen.

I'm currently on soap nicked from a hotel room,but I like Faith in Nature soaps. I don't often buy soap, because I often get given it at Christmas. There's still an assorted stash in the cupboard.

When I was little, Mum used to save all the soap ends, then about once a year, they got boiled up together in an old biscuit tin on the Rayburn, and the resulting greenish stuff put into handful-sized balls and left to dry. This was used in the sink by the door for really filthy hands that had been gardening or farming, so didn't contaminate the nice soap in the bathroom.

When I was a bit older, we inherited some Lifebuoy soap that got used instead, and when that was all used, then she bought a green soap for that sink. I do not miss the days of boiling up old soap. The smell was distinctive... other soap smells are very evocative of particular times/people, but usually in a more positive way.

Soap dishes don't get mouldy if you clean them

EBearhug · Today 03:06

Granny always had Pears -which was see-through! How exciting was that! But they have reformulated it.

Coal tar soap has also been reformulated, because actual cosl tar is a carcinogen.

I'm currently on soap nicked from a hotel room,but I like Faith in Nature soaps. I don't often buy soap, because I often get given it at Christmas. There's still an assorted stash in the cupboard.

When I was little, Mum used to save all the soap ends, then about once a year, they got boiled up together in an old biscuit tin on the Rayburn, and the resulting greenish stuff put into handful-sized balls and left to dry. This was used in the sink by the door for really filthy hands that had been gardening or farming, so didn't contaminate the nice soap in the bathroom.

When I was a bit older, we inherited some Lifebuoy soap that got used instead, and when that was all used, then she bought a green soap for that sink. I do not miss the days of boiling up old soap. The smell was distinctive... other soap smells are very evocative of particular times/people, but usually in a more positive way.

Soap dishes don't get mouldy if you clean them

Tezza1 · Today 03:19

UhOhRatPoo · Yesterday 12:35

Your husband should know that the properly classy 1970s soap was Camay, not Imperial Leather. I used to love those ads with the ladies all covered in foam!

NO, NO, NO: "New Camay brings out the woman in you" or something like that was the slogan (or at least here in Australia). The poor husband is probably terrified what the side effects of Camay could be.

Topseyt123 · Today 03:45

Jo Malone looks stupidly expensive to me. Why throw money away on that?

My DH used to like Imperial Leather sometimes. I like various shower gels. Both of us were fine with Palmolive, or formerly Shield. Or maybe we were just mingers.

Toddlerteaplease · Today 03:49

I thought Pears soap was meant to be the posh one.

MaidOfSteel · Today 04:18

Can’t you have a soap each?

I still use my trusty Shield. I love the smell. Takes me back to my 70s childhood!

ElenOfTheWays · Today 04:21

UhOhRatPoo · Yesterday 12:35

Your husband should know that the properly classy 1970s soap was Camay, not Imperial Leather. I used to love those ads with the ladies all covered in foam!

I can't stand the smell of Camay soap. Turns my stomach for some reason.
We like Palmolive bars in this house. I haven't seen a bar of Imperial Leather for years.

SinceYouSaySo · Today 05:22

I use organic soap so I think you're both in the wrong! Commercial soap is full of toxins, no matter how it's marketed and dressed up, so you may as well leave him to have his soap and you to yours.

Differentforgirls · Today 06:02

ItsWrittenInTheOP · Yesterday 22:21

Haven’t got to the end of the thread so it might been mentioned already but I think the people who think it’s “ugh” and gross/grim/manky etc are maybe like one of my friends, the type of people who take the bar of soap and place it directly into their fanny/arse crack to clean themselves and just assume that everybody else uses bar soap this way. So they think the whole family is using soap that’s been in each others arsecracks 😂😂

I thought people just lathered the soap on their flannel/loofah/sponge rather than place the bar directly into arse crack until my friend told me how she thought it was supposed to be used.

😱🤣

TerfOnATrain · Today 06:16

MrsShawnHatosy · Yesterday 15:18

Hmmm. You should really only use stuff on the dog that’s specially formulated for them. Would you wash yourself with dog shampoo?

Thanks for the lecture, he’s fit and well and still stinks after dog shampoo. If dog shampoo was all we had, then yes, I probably would and dog shampoo is milder than human shampoo to avoid stripping natural oils.

In the Lab’s case, when he’s been rolling in fox shit and swimming in the pond, Rituals does a pretty good job and he smells like a spa.

Frumpitydoo · Today 06:42

@gamerchick Cats love Impereal Leather?!!

Does your DH also think Ferrero Roche to be the height of sophistocation? 😂

loislovesstewie · Today 07:01

Just buy your own, have 2 soap dishes. We have Allepo soap, another special one for the person who has psoriasis, and a liquid one. We are all catered for and no one complains.

Sunnyyetnotsunny · Today 09:05

loislovesstewie · Today 07:01

Just buy your own, have 2 soap dishes. We have Allepo soap, another special one for the person who has psoriasis, and a liquid one. We are all catered for and no one complains.

I prefer Nabulsi soap. I think it's the laurel I am not that keen on in Aleppo one.
But god, both clean like magic! No other soap bars compare imho

lottiegarbanzo · Today 09:05

SockPlant · Yesterday 17:56

you are using your soap wrong (or not often enough) if that happens to it.

I use soap, i love IL and have a lovely cardomom one from TK Max. Haven't used shower gel for years and years. I do occasionally use Rituals shower mousse because my DD buys me one every christmas that i eke out over the year.

Dried, cracked ends of IL wasn’t my soap, it was soap in other people’s houses in the 70s and 80s - typical enough to be memorable.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · Today 09:05

loislovesstewie · Today 07:01

Just buy your own, have 2 soap dishes. We have Allepo soap, another special one for the person who has psoriasis, and a liquid one. We are all catered for and no one complains.

What's the soap you use for the person who has psoriasid ?
I was looking at the coal tar but wondering if that would be too drying ?
Is it an over the counter or prescription?

TIA

BaronessBomburst · Today 09:43

@TerfOnATrainRituals products are natural anyway and don't contain SLS etc.
Which one do you use on him? My favourite is Ritual of Aruveyda, which is rose scented. I quite like the cedar and orange range too but I forget the name.

MrsShawnHatosy · Today 09:56

Tezza1 · Today 03:19

NO, NO, NO: "New Camay brings out the woman in you" or something like that was the slogan (or at least here in Australia). The poor husband is probably terrified what the side effects of Camay could be.

I remember watching a Camay advert in the 70s/80s in which a man, with a beautiful woman beside him, was feeling a porcelain figurine and saying “it’s beautiful - like a woman’s skin should be” and my brother saying “but porcelain is hard and cold!”.

Lux was another soap heavily marketed as a beauty product. “ The world's most beautiful women use Lux”.

KilkennyCats · Today 09:57

HoskinsChoice · Yesterday 12:44

You're both unreasonable. Who uses bars of soap in the 21st century!?! Makes me feel a bit nauseous. 🤢

Literally millions of people, or they wouldn’t sell it? Wtf?

EmmaB1309 · Today 10:05

I wouldn’t call it classy but I quite like Imperial Leather.
Pears or Dove is my favourite.
I wouldn’t spend the money on Jo Malone.

anma302 · Today 10:07

I would say buy both and use whatever you prefer.Its a non issue!

Biggles27 · Today 10:09

Couldyounot · Yesterday 12:43

Imperial Leather is all right, but if you really want the good stuff, it's Shield

Omg I’d forgotten about Shield! That brings back memories!!!!

Team Jo Malone btw op but I’m more a Rituals/Molton Brown girl as they’re way cheaper but still smell lush!

Weeellokthen · Today 10:10

gamerchick · Yesterday 12:31

Why can't you have both?

Husband loves IL but we won't buy it as the cat goes mad licking the bath after his shower. Doesn't happen with any other soap.

😂nowt strange as cats.

Julimia · Today 10:13

Get another soap dish and have both@ simple

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