To think men should not be allowed to be gynaecologists

[CaragianettE]

Just that, really. Saw one last week. He was trying to be helpful, but I really really really don’t want to discuss ‘do you get clots’ ‘do you experience flooding’ ‘do you find intercourse painful’ with a strange man. Yes it would be awkward with a strange woman too, but at least I know she likely has some lived experience of what we are talking about. TBH I also question men’s motives for choosing this job, not just the licence to look at strange women’s vaginas, but I think there’s something deep in the male psyche that just loves laying down the law to women about their reproductive systems. It’s a job for a woman, and while I know men were allowed to train for it in the past, I think they should now be phased out.

How weird.

Tbh I was much more comfortable with my make gynae than the female on I got after during the stages of my cervical cancer

Oh don’t be so bloody silly. Should only people who’ve had cancer be allowed to be oncologists? How about childless paediatricians? And do you question them wanting to work with children?

Yes you’re being unreasonable.

NEXT.

Totally unreasonable

you are not unreasonable to want a female gyne if that’s your preference but to ban men? No.

I don’t want women banned from certain occupations either. it’s a slope I don’t want to go back down.

I don't know- Adam Kay's books were wonderfully written and he was a male gynecologist and also completely gay, so really not doing it for anything other than the medical calling.

When I've had smear tests etc by a man I've actually found it less weird. It feels more natural to have a man down there than a woman for me.

You are being ridiculous.

Ridiculous!

Also, most women doctors ive seen for gynae related things have been very dismissive & basically told me to get on with it....so no greater sympathy or understanding from women!

While we’re at it, OP, do you have a list of jobs you don’t think women should be doing?

Absolutely ridiculous, I work in gynae surgery and our best consultants are male, actually the female ones can be much more dismissive.

you’d be horrified to know we only have male breast surgeons too!!

Gynaecology is more than talking about periods.
Lots of professionals don't have experience of the thing they are treating. Professional skill is about asking the right questions and making the best judgement based on medical knowledge.
How many doctors have experience of amputation or heart disease or even cancer themselves?

Your vagina is not that exciting,

The doctor would have seen thousands and he would not spend years in mediacal school taking test after test just to perv

Though you should be able to request a female if that makes you more comfortable

You're being very unreasonable.

There are some fabulous male consultants in gynae at the hospital I work in.

They are medically trained you know...

Adam ‘brats and twats’ Kay? That Adam Kay?

Yanu to prefer a female, I would too. But lots don't care and if men were restricted there may not be enough of them.

Me too.

My gynaecologist is a man and he’s fantastic!

Quite an achievement after the OP!

Has it occurred to you that without male gynaecologists there would be even less doctors available and you’d have to wait a lot longer for treatment for these issues? Do you object to women treating men for issues relating to their genitalia?

I mean I get it, I’d probably prefer to see a female gynaecologist too. But banning all men from the profession? Don’t be silly.

YANBU.
Only male gynaecologists I’ve experienced have been dismissive. I’ve learnt to question the motives of men choosing this as their field of expertise.

So basically ypu thought everyone would validate you and now it hasn’t happened, everyone’s a handmaiden?

I don’t care what sex they are as long as they’re knowledgeable and make me feel comfortable.

YABU. Some of the best gynaecologists at my local hospital are male. Much more sympathetic than the women I’ve found.

What on earth are you on about??

I know what you mean @CaragianettE . I felt uncomfortable discussing my prolapse with a man, I had only just met. He went on to repair my prolapse and did an excellent job, which was the main thing really.