To think men should not be allowed to be gynaecologists

[CaragianettE]

Just that, really. Saw one last week. He was trying to be helpful, but I really really really don’t want to discuss ‘do you get clots’ ‘do you experience flooding’ ‘do you find intercourse painful’ with a strange man. Yes it would be awkward with a strange woman too, but at least I know she likely has some lived experience of what we are talking about. TBH I also question men’s motives for choosing this job, not just the licence to look at strange women’s vaginas, but I think there’s something deep in the male psyche that just loves laying down the law to women about their reproductive systems. It’s a job for a woman, and while I know men were allowed to train for it in the past, I think they should now be phased out.

All my children were delivered by male obstetricians, who made excellent decisions in my care, much better than the women and midwives. I've been lucky they all were so caring and knowledgeable, as I'd literally not be here if they hadn't made the right call.

I think gynaecologists can be men.

But the underlying misogyny in Kay’s memoirs was unedifying.

My gynecology oncologist was brilliant. I really quizzed him on his motives and he was also great at explaining what he was doing and having the camera on during my colposcopies. I had a different one a few times and request him when possible.

I think limiting any career to a single sex is wrong to be honest.

bored of looking at vag after vag after vag

😄

So you think males should be able to work at a women's refuge? Or with female victims of rape?

Oh, I would haaaaate to have a man doing my vaginal ultrasound.

But I would suck it up, because I wouldn't want to go to the hassle of changing the appt and coming back.

The best one I have ever seen is a man.

YABVU.

I'd love to give this written on an office mug to my gynaecologist

yes it’s the women’s fault they suffer medical discrimination - they just can’t explain themselves.

Oh. That's a big disappointment. I enjoyed his first book.

You’re being ridiculous. would you care about women being urologists?

Those would be the only exceptions for me.

Whoosh!

Who said those things?

as often is the case first reply nails it.

Having a preference to see a woman because you believe you would be more comfortable is absolutely fine

I recall the female Dr performing my ERPC after my second missed miscarriage with twins following ivf treatment who after introducing herself said to me “ so you’re here today for an abortion “. I wish I hadn’t had to see her

Do you feel the same way about female urologists?

Me and my DH needed IVF. His urologist (who needed to complete surgical sperm extraction) was female, and brilliant. The doctors who did my egg collection were male, also brilliant.

I think yabu - there is absolutely nothing sexy about your clots or your aging vagina I can promise you. Its not like many young attractive people see a gynacologist. If anything i would think a lot pf men would be put off the idea of seeing so many lady parts all day every day - let alone have to think about periods etc.

Of course she thought that.

YABU anyway, OP. It was a male gynaecologist that finally took me seriously. Women kept telling me to pull myself together. Pain is normal, apparently. Except, actually, it's not to that degree.

I wouldn’t want one not for the reasons you suggest but because if I say ‘it feels like X’ or ‘you know when Y’ I think a woman would have a better understanding. Yes I get that you could be an excellent doctor and not have experience of whatever issue they treat, but I do think something that is unique to women is better understood by another woman.

YADNBU. I agree with everything you wrote

So presumably you think men should not be fertility doctors either OP?

Haven't we just had this thread like 3 minutes ago? It's getting more and more like Groundhog Day on here.
YABU.
YANBU for wanting a female gynaecologist, but YABU to say that there shouldn't be any males doing it.

The main correlation with the doctor's sex I can think of is that no-one wants a gynae with very large hands if one with more slender fingers is available?

Almost every thread here is a repeat after 25 years of mumsnet, so why pick at this one?

There's been several recently all "men shouldn't be primary teachers/nursery workers/be allowed to treat women."
All very "men shouldn't be allowed near women and children in case they're a danger."
Just all seems a bit 🙄