AIBU to think it odd to tell children where they were conceived?

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To think it’s odd to tell your kids where they were conceived?

I’ve always had a love of Italy and even went on to study Italian at university. My mum recently and rather casually dropped into conversation that I was conceived in Rome!

My parents had been in Rome for two weeks that summer.

I thought Brooklyn was named after where Posh was when she found out she was pregnant.

In the case of one’s own parents, this is of course the case

Well, it’s only a few days per month for most women, so if you’ve only had sex once in a particular week (normal?) then you know. I do for mine as ds was just before the first lockdown and for dd we were away for a wedding most of the week and I didn’t want to sleep with DH with toddler ds in the room!

Similar for me. Parents were away for two weeks around their second wedding anniversary. My DM’s family were almost entirely Scots so although I was born in England I like knowing that I was ‘made’ in Scotland.
And also relieved they didn’t call me Ullapool.

You're an adult! It's not exactly X rated is it? It's just amusing anecdotes for close friends and family.

I know the story of my sister's conception and it's pretty exotic. I envy her that, and the sense of connection she feels with that place. I also know that conceiving DH "took a long while and a lot of trying". I was just conceived in a boring bed at home, sadly, as were two of my three kids. My eldest was conceived in a test tube.

How do you know this?

Was the balcony and bookstore not in an actual city / place then?

After my DGM’s funeral, my DGF told my DM (in front of me and my DSis - we were adults by then) that our DM was conceived in Rhyl after he ‘doctored a Johnny’ as he wanted a child and our DGM ’wasn’t keen’. This was not information DM wanted to know, and definitely not on the day she’d cremated her mum!

Meh, mentioned where DC was made to them last week. It's a place I love and DC has yet to visit but is excited about going. I really don't see the big deal.

My parents were long deceased and I was middle aged before I put two and two together and realised that my parents holiday photos of the town I was named after were taken nine months before my birth😄.

🤣🤣

Im in my late 50’s and I really wouldn’t want to know from my parents where I was conceived.

weren't Spice Girl children Brooklyn and Phoenix so named for this very reason?

I'd quite like to have an exotic tale to tell about either my or my children's conception. I was conceived in the village my mum and and my father's family had both lived for at least 5 generations. My kids were made in the marital bed, in a neighbouring village. We don't get around much.

Weirder is naming your child after where they were conceived...

(We used to joke my husband was "Made in Hong Kong". His Mum retorted by telling him where he was conceived. Now THAT felt weird.)

My parents were 40-something widows who had a one off ‘encounter’ at work (in 1970) after closing as they both had kids at home.

They married two months before I was born and stayed together happily until Dad’s death when I was 18.

It was one of my half sisters who filled in the blanks for me when I asked as a teenager, Mum would never talk about anything ‘personal’.

Don't think I'd ever tell my children
Yes, Cleethorpes, Llandudno and BehindTheStadium don't need to know that kind of information.

Our 7 year old knows that he was conceived in Mexico. Not the specifics (damned if I can remember them either. It was a brilliant holiday 🤣) but just generally ‘we made you on holiday in Mexico after we visited an ancient Mayan fertility temple’. He thinks its cool.

I remember my mum telling me (when quite tipsy) ‘you were conceived the night before your cousin’s christening, I remember because I was really hungover when I was doing the godmother stuff’ 🤣 I am not traumatised by this fact. We all know how babies are made ffs.

So many things to get traumatised over. In the big scheme of things it wouldnt bother me my Dad used to joke that my mum tricked him into having me a year early. He loved me dearly and never worried about it. Honestly are people getting super sensitive now. Imagine the therepy needed if you got told you were the product of rate or an unsuccessful termination! It is TMI but surely not damaging.

Florence Nightingale was born in Florence. It was her sister Parthenope one feels more sorry for!

Thanks for clarifying Victoria. Conceived in a bookstore you say? Glad it wasn't a butchers or he might have been named Leg o lamb

Parthenope is a nicer name than Naples, though, which is where Florence's sister was born! And no odder than Penelope, I suppose...?

Yeah i dont think my twins' lives will be enhanced by learning they were conceived on a sheepskin rug in a Cleethorpes caravan after a night on Diamond White.

Not as an adult. Presumably you were aware of where babies come from???

But in fairness the Beckhams are weird - thrones at their wedding, suggestive dancing with son. At his wedding ....... All very weird.

The circumstance you describe would be fine for me.

It’s not exactly hard to date a pregnancy and conception and the fact they sent 2 weeks in Rome about 9 months before you were born would be a dead giveaway.

I wouldn’t advocate telling child they were conceived in the kitchen of number 10 Billy Drive on the 3rd of July 1967 during a power cut!