My husband has taken my diazepam, again!!

[Givenup2026]

This is at least the second time that it has happened. My GP is very kind that they give me 6 pills very much every now and then that I use when to relax as a “one off “. They’re great, and genuinely maybe I’ve taken like 12 pills in my entire life.

anyway I’ve just discovered my husband took my whole stash at some point because of “hip pain”. The irony is don’t even work for him!!!! I’m furious!!

That doesn’t alter the fact that what you posted is not what OP said.

It’s not 10mg, it’s 5mg. OP was clear - three pills = 15mg.

I stand corrected. Apologies..

It’s not a question of being irresponsible though. There are always risks when prescribing these kinds of drugs, but the fact is that OP still needs to be treated and any future prescription will depend on her convincing her GP that this will not happen again, and what steps she has taken to prevent it. They wont replace the stolen tablets - OP will likely have to wait until the next prescription is due. And as I understand it, it wasn’t reported first time around.

It was, and the GP took a Gandalf approach of “keep it secret, keep it safe”. Which I did (for that prescription.

Wow. Must admit, that’s a bit shocking.

What can I say…. Im glad he was ok with it

@Givenup2026 stopping someone's medication (by stealing them in your husband's case) is actually a form of abuse. Also if it's been a few years, were they still in date?

Yes, they were as the latest one was a “fresh” prescription.

What I can’t understand here is that you have made several assumptions of how and when he took these, why is he just not answering your questions truthfully, why are you guessing? I think the drug problem is less of an issue than the lying / lack of truth in this marriage.

I’m making those assumptions because I didn’t ask him! I only asked him about Sunday because it was obvious.

I still stand by what I said, you can tell someone with explicit words or with actions. His saying nothing to me is as good as confirming it.

It absolutely was reported first time round and I stand by that it is absolutely irresponsible if the GP prescribes it a third time given this information.

I do hope you continue to get your prescription, OP. I know how reassuring it is, having that back up for crises (or indeed, back spasms). It’s been ten years since I had any prescribed, but it was a god send at the time. Not because I haven’t done talking therapies and don’t have strategies- I have and I do. There are some situations that need an extra tool in the armoury.

I agree.

But not getting angry and just accepting it might one day either leave you in agony or severe anxiety or even kill you. Because medication can be life saving. Do you think he’d just not respond like he did when you said he’d take your cancer meds when people asked how long you’d been dead for?

I really hope he isn’t giving the poor addictive dogs the diazepam

There are groups that use Smart Recovery which isn't religious. Might be worth seeing if the local drug and alcohol service provides this.

When he came back from work I told him how bad that was. If he realised that I couldn’t rely on my life partner to be looked after when I would most need it.

He then agreed that it is disgraceful and why he definitely follow through with whatever he’s offered.

My ex did NA and he became the most annoying holier than thou Christian afterwards. 🙄

OP had explained this quite clearly early on and it was one of the reasons why many PP found the whole thing irresponsible, but we were quickly labelled ignorant lunatics who won’t have a glass of sherry at Christmas for fear of becoming alcoholics.

I wouldn’t know about the one he’s been referred to but the previous one was definitely religious.

And in that early post, beyond telling us that it was reported to the GP first time around (which I missed, my bad), OP didn’t elaborate. She didn’t disclose that the GP hadn’t formally reported it on that occasion until last night, in response to my own reply, so let’s not pretend that you were any better informed than I was until that point.

NHS guidelines don’t call for medication to be withdrawn from the patient in these situations - the repercussions for OP include a review of medication, steps taken to avoid recurrence and possibly a reduction in the amount of future medication prescribed at any one time. The GP has referred him to the appropriate addictions services and at some point report the theft to 101 or will ask OP to do so, and there will be a record of the incident, plus a crime number recorded on both OP’s health record and that of her DH.

The majority of this thread has been a complete derail concerning OP’s own use of a drug prescribed perfectly legally and well within NHS guidelines. She posted for advice on what to do about the theft. And in true MN style most posters completely ignored that and went straight for OP’s use of benzodiazepines, which, aside from the obvious need for OP to keep them inaccessible to her DH in the future, was, and still is irrelevant to why she posted.

That would go against official dogma surely ! I’ll get my coat ……………………

Quick update: he’s seeing the GP in like 2 months and the referral service said that given his case they’re unlikely to help, but that he’ll case worker will still have a chat with him.